Why You Should Say Yes & Take Risks

Posted in Lifestyle
on May 29, 2017

Let me first say that I’m all about saying no when it makes sense to say no. For example, I will always say no to anything I know I truly can’t commit my time to in order to get that project or task done. I think it’s important to know when you should say no because it helps you understand what your limits are.

Recently, I have noticed a trend in my life where I kept saying no so much that life wasn’t enjoyable. I let fear dictate every decision even if it was to meet a friend for happy hour after work. Living with anxiety isn’t easy, and it’s something that was truly affecting my ability to say yes. Instead, I kept saying no.

I become so comfortable with saying no, that I stopped saying yes to opportunities. I stopped taking risks even if they were GOOD risks!

No bueno. Am I right?

I became comfortable with saying no because I didn’t want to take risks. I was afraid to take risks. I had already taken some risks, so I convinced myself that I no longer needed to say yes and take risks in life. My life felt stagnant because that’s what saying no and NOT taking risks does: It leaves you in a space when you’re not gaining or losing anything. You’re at a standstill. And that’s boring, and it’s not what I wanted my life to look like anymore.

There are so many things I said no to even things I wanted to say yes to. But the uncertainty of failing and fear consumed my mind and heart so much that I kept saying no. I continued to sit at a stagnant point in my life and truly not succeed.

If you’re questioning if you should take a risk whether it’s for a career move, beginning your business, writing a book, a relationship, moving across the country—do it. Don’t sit back and wait. There might not be time later in life. You’re always going to have fears regarding the risk you want to take, or saying yes to an opportunity. And that’s okay!

It’s okay to be afraid, but don’t say no ONLY because you’re afraid. 

If we were to only wait to do things when we felt “ready,” we wouldn’t accomplish anything. REAL TALK: You’re never truly going to feel “ready” to ask for that promotion, move to a different country, start your business that you’ve always dreamed of, but allowing fear to determine your future isn’t the answer.

So, I’m making a change.

Today, I will stop living in fear of all the things that could go wrong, and focus on all the things that could go right. Live is too short to say no to opportunities that will help you grow and get you to where you want to be in life. I let fear control me and my decisions for too long, and now—it’s time to say yes and it’s time to take a risk.

There are a lot of risks I’m hoping to take this year. And I hope you feel confident and comfortable to take that risk you’ve been wanting to take, too. I hope you feel confident and comfortable to say yes to that new opportunity you’ve been thinking about. Because if it’s still in your mind, it’s worth taking the risk.

What risks do you want to take this year? What is an opportunity you want to say yes to, but haven’t yet because you were afraid? Make sure to share your experiences in the comments below!

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  • It really is so important to move past our fear! Sure, it’s good to be wise and use wisdom to know when we should say no instead of yes, but if we are choosing not to do things that could be amazing simply because we are scared, then we really need to change the way we are doing things.

    • Yes! That’s unfortunately what I was doing…but I realize there are some amazing opportunities out there that I need to take a chance on!

  • YES, Kiara! Love this – we must be on the same wave-length because I’m in the middle of a similar post! haha 🙂 You’re spot on!

    • I feel like this has happened to us a few times before, Summer! Haha, we are very similar with our thinking (and post writing!)

  • Ro

    So true! I think I say “yes” too much, but I think that’s also rooted in fear. I’m afraid of the unknown and offending people. But you’re so spot on about saying “no” to opportunities we should be saying yes to out of fear as well. Sometimes we just have use discernment, step out in faith and go for it. Great post!

    • Thank you so much for your comment! I completely see it from your point of view as well. I agree that allowing faith to show us the way toward that risk is so important as well.

  • Sarah Jean

    ooh i feel like I am risk adverse so I avoid them, but you’re right, we need to say yes to good risks more often!

    • I’m so happy to know there are other people who could relate to this. Couldn’t agree more about saying yes to opportunities!

  • Emily Bendler

    I am super risk adverse but at the same time I want to help/do everything. I need to work on saying yes to the right things and no to the rest.

    • Yes! Understanding when you should say yes and no is important because that balance will help you know what opportunities are meant for you!

  • I LOVE this post. I’m pretty quiet and shy so it takes a lot of energy for me to put myself out there. I have discovered so much about myself and changed so completely because of all the risks I have taken in recent years. So i 100% preach this message all the time!

    • Thanks so much, Megan! I know exactly what you mean about putting yourself out there–it can be terrifying, but it can also be rewarding!

  • Corey Wheeland

    This is a great twist on the posts that tell you to say no every once in a while if you say yes all the time. I say yes to new things always!

    • That’s such a wonderful habit to be in. I think that saying yes and no are both important, and of course, balance is essential!

  • Learning to say YES was one of the greatest things I’ve ever done! But obviously it’s still super scary. The most recent opportunity I said yes to was starting my blog and so far it has been a crazy amazing adventure! Love this post. Thank you for sharing. Pinning!

    • YES! Saying yes is definitely scary, but it can take you to a beautiful opportunity. So happy to hear about you starting a blog and taking on the adventure of blogging! Thanks for your comment!

  • Robin

    There are so many quotes in here that ring true for me, but I especially love this one: “My life felt stagnant because that’s what saying no and NOT taking risks does: It leaves you in a space when you’re not gaining or losing anything. You’re at a standstill.” It’s so true that when you’re not taking risks, bad things might not happen to you–but neither will good things. Opportunities can’t just fall in your lap if you’re not out there in the world trying things, whether they succeed or fail. This actually reminds me a lot of Elizabeth Gilbert’s book, “Big Magic”–I highly recommend that you read it if you haven’t already!

    • I’ve heard so many wonderful things about this book–so I’ll have to check it out for myself! Thank you so much for the recommendation and comment, Robin! I appreciate it!

  • Shani Ogden

    I grew up in a broken home which resulted in a lot of instability, and as a result, I let fear dictate a lot of what I did. I took risks, but not in the things that I REALLY wanted. I don’t remember exactly what changed or when, but I remember just not wanting to be afraid. So I’ve been working on making changes and taking chances and it’s been wonderful so far.

    • That’s wonderful to hear that you have been positive results from making changes and taking chances! I completely know where you’re coming from with allowing fear to dictate what you do ad don’t do. Taking the small steps to say yes and take a risk can be so helpful!

  • Tina Martin

    Right on! Creating my blog and speaking out sure was a risk I took, being an introvert it wasn’t easy but I am happy I did 🙂

    • Same here! That was a huge risk for me, and there are other things I’m still working on with this because I’m in that place where I’m trying to say yes and branch out more.

  • Georgiana Quaint

    I am comfortable saying NO too but I like to challenge myself from time to time and take part in events that sound interesting but noone I know wants to attend it. It is a great way to try something new and meet new people.

    • Yes! Even the little things like agreeing to go to a networking event, or a happy hour social with coworkers can be overwhelming for people with anxiety, but those are still huge accomplishments for saying yes and stepping out of your comfort zone.

  • 100% YES! This is something I’ve been working on too. Most of the time the things you end up saying yes to (that would’ve normally been a no) end up being great!

    • I’m so glad you’re working on this for yourself as well, Rachel! And you’re absolutely right!

  • I have issues with saying yes and there for have developed a nasty case of anxiety. I don’t do things based off of fear and I hate that. I was told that the book by Shonda Rhimes, A Year of Yes was good so I recently picked up a copy. It’s my summer reading. I have to get out of the rut of saying no and start saying yes a lot more!

    • Ooo, I’ll have to pick up that book and check it out! I completely can relate to saying no because of fear and anxiety, but now I’m understanding that saying yes can be a beautiful thing.

  • Good for you for taking risks girl!!! It can be scary at times and yes it’s completely okay to say no. However, don’t let it stop you from taking risks! Great post girl!

    • Thank you so much, Mistle! Taking risks can be so overwhelming, but I’ve learned that saying no can also hold you back. Balance is key.

  • I recently been having the same thought. I have grown so accustomed to saying no (which is really hard at first) to being TOO comfortable saying no that I am afraid of the smallest risk. Saying no doesn’t mean NEVER going out of your comfort zone, and “yes” can open up a world of opportunities!

    • EXACTLY! I’m so happy to know I’m not alone with this one because it’s so darn true. Saying no is important, but saying yes is equally important for new opportunities.

  • Dia

    The anxiety struggle is real. I have been lucky enough that I’ve been able to balance my ability to say yes and no this year. From great risk comes great reward.

    • I completely know where you’re coming from! And yes, balance is definitely key!

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