Why You NEED to do Things That Scare You

Posted in Lifestyle
on August 16, 2017

I did something that scared me the other day.

I’m sitting in my room and shaking a little more than I should as I’m trying to give myself a pep talk. “Kiara, the video will only last for 24 hours. It’s NOT  a big deal,” I kept trying to  convince myself. But it WAS a big deal and it truly felt like a big deal in the moment. When you have anxiety, your mind can play a lot of tricks on you and make you believe things that aren’t true. Your mind is clouded with negative thoughts and it prevents you from stepping outside of your comfort zone.

But I didn’t want my mind to control the things I want to do, so I made several videos on Instagram Stories, and I was proud of myself.

I’m sure you’re thinking, “Kiara, you’re a blogger and you LOVE talking. How could you be afraid to make a video?”

Well, it had nothing to do with making the video at all or talking because you’re right…I could talk for hours about anything and everything. (Just ask ANYONE who knows me.) The truth is, I let fear hold me back from doing something I wanted to do. I realized that I didn’t want to live that way anymore. So, I took a deep breath and began recording and posting. The sky didn’t fall and there were no horrible comments made. It was refreshing. I did something despite feeling afraid.

Why you NEED to do things that scare you:

1| You may discover a new passion 

If you read the last post in my vision board series, I share a HUGE goal I hope to achieve in the next three years. For me, that’s sharing more video content and beginning a YouTube channel. TBH I’ve always been passionate about creating videos, but I’ve been TERRIFIED to even make one because I feared the negativity from it. But I’ve learned that you will never know if you don’t try. Making the Instagram Stories videos solidified that I want to make more videos whether it’s on Instagram, for my blog, or for YouTube.

2| You gain confidence

I can’t tell how good it felt to do something I was afraid to do. To put it simply, you gain confidence when you do things that scare you. At one point in time, you thought you couldn’t do something—and then you prove yourself wrong! Let’s just say it’s such a wonderful feeling, and it’s worth the few seconds of fear you may have in the beginning.

3| You grow & gain a new perspective

Think about how much fear actually controls us. It’s the reason we don’t do SO MANY THINGS in life. You’re afraid of skydiving because you’re afraid of heights, but the second you begin falling—those fears go away. The highest point of fear is the second before you jump from the plane. Think of all the things you can learn and experience from removing fear from your life. By removing fear, you will naturally grow as a person and gain new perspectives.

4| You feel BLISSFUL

Point blank, PERIOD. You feel unbelievably blissful when you overcome a fear regardless of what that fear is. If you’re afraid to begin writing a book, start doing it anyway! The more you practice and work at that passion, the more you can feel confident (see point 1) and eventually publish that book despite the fear. Once you get over that initial feeling of fear, you can do anything and everything you want to do.

And that is the most blissful thing about doing something that scares you.

What is something YOU’RE afraid of but you WANT to do anyway? What fear have you conquered recently? Make sure to share your stories and thoughts in the comments below!


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  • Sasha Reinke

    ?it! Well written.

  • Oh gosh I love this. My word for the year is Be Brave, so when something scares me, I have to jump in and do it (except if it involves touching creepy crawlers. Ew, no thank you.) I love that you point out that you can be blissful when you do something that scares you. It’s a great way to find your passion and step out and enjoy life! (Plus you can be super proud of yourself.)

    • Yes, Christina! Being brave is an awesome word to use for the year! And yes, you can definitely still feel all the bliss while doing something that may also bring fear. Huge misconception I used to have about conquering my own fears as well. So what’s something you’re afraid to do, but you want to do anyway!?

  • Nicole DaRosa

    I recently quit my job to pursue my freelancing & blogging career full-time.. talk about being scared! haha I’m not making nearly as much money as I was before but I am totally happier. That’s what I have to focus on and everything else will come in time… hopefully lol great post!

    • CONGRATS! That’s absolutely amazing and you should be so darn proud of yourself from following your passion. And it’s so wonderful to hear that the career change makes you feel more blissful (see what I did there ;0)

  • Good for you! That’s awesome girl. My fear is very similar– doing an Instagram live or Facebook live. No idea what I’d talk about but I definitely want to do it!

    • DO IT DO IT DO IT. I can’t recommend it enough and I want to continue posting more even though I also want to make YouTube videos, too.

  • You’re so right. The only way you can grow and actually achieve BIG goals is to do things that scare the sh*t out of you. If your goals don’t include that feeling, they’re lame and totally not big. For example, this blogging thing is still really scary to me. Every day I face internal battles, questioning my work and what the heck I am doing. But, when I take leaps, that’s where the magic happens!!!

    Kait | http://www.lifeaskait.com

    • LOVE your message and optimistic vibes, Kait! I know where you’re coming from because blogging used to be something that would make me question my skills as a writer every day (especially having the background and passion for writing). But I’ve learned that you need to tune out those negative thoughts and feelings and focus on you and your goals.

  • Yolanda

    I completely know where you’re coming from! For some reason I feel the same about videos!! I guess I think to myself that I will look silly, or people won’t take me seriously. Even though I know it’s not true that little voice inside tells me otherwise. I’m a new blogger, so we’ll see what happens on the video side of things. Thanks for the tips. Great post!

    • YES! I know exactly where you’re coming from with all those fears and thoughts. They are definitely NOT true, but i know it can be difficult to tell yourself otherwise. Thanks for sharing your thoughts here and congrats on joining the blogging community! There are so many wonderful bloggers.

  • Aw congrats love! TOTALLY know where you’re coming from , as well! I actually have interest in starting a Youtube channel but I have NO idea where to even START!!!!! Good for you for going out of your comfort zone and doing something that you love.

    • Yes! Thank you; and i’m happy yo know I’m not the only one who wants to make videos. Although it’s always a learning process, it’s fun to dive into something you’re passionate about. Thanks so much, Chelsea!

  • Way to go, girl! I’m proud of you for doing something you were scared to do! <3

    • Thanks so much for the encouragement! It’s honestly so appreciated 🙂

  • Sheila Jo Spencer

    Good luck with your videos! I’m working on the 2nd draft of a book and need to get over my fear of sharing it with others for feedback before it’s “ready.” 🙂 Working on it!

    • I’m in a similar boat as well. Your comment actually inspired me to continue working on my book a little. Thanks for sharing 🙂 Now, go share your book and story with the world because I’m sure you’re more than ready.

  • Karli Ellis

    I love what you said! It is so hard to do things that are scary, but it is totally worth it in the end!

    • I’m so happy to hear that other people understand where I’m coming from and see the benefits to doing things out of their comfort zone! So tell me, what will you do that’s out of your comfort zone!?

  • You go girl. This is awesome! I LOVE when people are brave enough to do things that scare them. Something I did recently that scared me was going to a dance at church by myself. I hate going places solo because of the inevitable small talk and awkwardness. But I ended up having a blast and I was so proud of myself for going.

    • I am the same way about going places alone because it is so intimidating and nerve-wracking. It can honestly take so much energy and confidence for me to finally go out. But, once I do–I always have the best time! Congrats on doing something that scares you!

  • I couldn’t agree more that doing what scares you is SO IMPORTANT! Congrats on making the Instagram video, woot! It was really hard for me to make one too, haha, it was awful. I hope you overcome your fears and start a Youtube channel 🙂

    • Thank you so much for your comment and the encouragement. It honestly means so much to me! I truly want to start making more videos because I know it’ll help to create content in a new way. Also, I think videos are a huge way to expand your audience.

  • Liam Havard

    Love this. I’m a bit terrible in the sense that if something scares me I don’t do it. Damn anxiety. But I’m hoping like you I can push myself.

    Have a good one 🙂


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