I can already see the excessive eye rolling from the title. Just hear me out. First, I don’t hate Valentine’s day. I have no reason to. People assume I’m single when I say I don’t celebrate it—but the truth is I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over two years. Then people assume that my boyfriend and I aren’t romantic, which couldn’t be further from the truth. Our reasons for not celebrating Valentine’s Day couldn’t be more simple. So simple that I can boil it down to three main reasons:
I don’t need Valentine’s Day to eat chocolate:
Anyone who knows me will tell you that I’m a dessert connoisseur. I have never met a dessert or chocolate candy I didn’t like. I also believe in treating yourself daily, so most of my days incorporate chocolate or dessert. Why should Josh buy me a pound of sponge candy when I already have four pounds of it at home? It’s unnecessary. If you want to buy me chocolate, feel free, but don’t discriminate against the other 364 days out of the year.
I don’t need Valentine’s Day to have a special day with my boyfriend:
Being in a long distance relationship has taught me so much about appreciating every moment when we have our visits. When someone asks why we don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day, I tell them that there’s no need when we celebrate “Valentine’s Day” 24 times throughout the year when we visit each other. Every visit feels like Valentine’s Day because it’s special. Why have a romantic day just because it’s February 14th? You should be able to do that any day of the year.
I don’t need Valentine’s Day to express my appreciation for someone:
I love cards. I love gifts. I love giving cards and gifts. For the longest time, I kept every card I received since I was 16 because that’s how much every individual card meant to me. But, if I truly want to send a card, buy a gift, or do a kind gesture for Josh, it’s not going to be because there’s a holiday around the corner. I would rather have it be a spontaneous gesture when they’re least expecting it instead of anticipating the card to come because of Valentine’s Day.
The bottom line:
It’s perfectly fine if you celebrate Valentine’s Day. I’m not hating on couples who celebrate this holiday. I essentially celebrate it with my friends because I think it’s far more fun! However, Josh and I both have always felt this way about Valentine’s Day, and we think it’s an unnecessary holiday if you’re committed to expressing gratitude and love for each other consistently throughout the year.
Regardless of how you spend Valentine’s Day, I hope you enjoy it! Leave a comment below saying how you celebrate/or don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day.