As an Aries, I truly value friendships. I am the type of person who would rather have five incredible friends who I trust with my whole heart rather than a group of 15 friends who aren’t always there for me. I’ve always been that way. I am mindful of the people who I consider friends or best friends.
Over the last two years, I ended some friendships over very different circumstances. One friend was toxic, another friend wasn’t really a friend at all. I’ve had different experiences with ending friendships, and it turns out that my life was better without them. So, I want to share some information on when you should end a friendship.
If you have a friend that possesses one or more of these traits , you might want to reevaluate your relationship with that person, and consider ending your friendship. Here’s what you should look out for.
The one-sided friendship:
This friendship is draining because you’re always the one to make plans, you’re always calling her to check in and see how everything is going. Essentially, you’re the ringleader to ensure that the friendships stays alive. Unfortunately, if someone wants you in their life, they’re going to make an effort to have you in their life. If they don’t make the effort, they don’t care. It’s as simple as that. If your friendship is all weighted on your end, you might want to considering ending this friendship.
The one who lies:
Nothing bothers me more than a person who lies. I would rather have someone “hurt my feelings” by being honest rather than do something behind my back. The only reason a friend should be lying to you is because she’s part of a huge surprise for your birthday/wedding/visit etc. If she lies outside of those reasons, you should definitely end that friendship.
The one who is toxic:
“Letting toxic people go isn’t an act of cruelty, it’s an act of self-care.” I’ve sadly had to end friendships simply because their toxic actions became an overwhelming part of my life. I would be worried about being there for them that I wasn’t there for myself. That is not a healthy friend to have in your life. You should never feel guilty for wanting to end a friendship with someone who is toxic. It proves that you’re looking out for yourself and your well-being.
The one who causes problems:
If a friend causes problems, you might want to consider ending your friendship. There is one girl out there looking for trouble. She likes to stir the pot. She always looking to cause drama between other friends, talk about her friends behind their backs, lie, etc. Essentially, this is someone who you should never call a friend to begin with because they don’t know how to be a friend.
The one who only cares about herself:
You drop everything you’re doing to go pick her up at a guy’s house where she spent the night last night. You drive her downtown to get her car from a night of drinking. You plan a special birthday for her…but she forgets your birthday. She calls you whenever she needs something, but that’s the extent of it; and she doesn’t do anything for you in return. Please do yourself a favor and end your friendship with this person. You deserve to have friends in your life who are there for you.
I hope this post helped anyone who might be deciding whether of not they should end a friendship. Although ending a friendship can be difficult or complicated, it’s best to remove these people from your life. You deserve to have friends that lift you up, are there for you when you need them, and are positive influences in your life.
Have you ever ended a friendship? How did you know when to end it? What tips can you offer to others? Make sure to share in the comments!