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FebYOUary: 10 Ways to Practice Self-Love on Valentine’s Day

Posted in Lifestyle
on February 14, 2018

Happy Valentine’s Day, friends!

I’m hoping that this post will help you rethink this holiday. Instead of being focused on being in love or not being in love, I think we can restructure this holiday to be about the love we have for ourselves.

Related: 5 Reasons to Make Self-Love A Priority

Self-love is all about nourishing the relationship you have with yourself. To be honest, that’s a pretty important relationship you should always be focusing on. Today, I’m sharing 10 ways to practice self-love not only on Valentine’s Day, but any day where you want to show a little gratitude toward yourself!

1| Self-love affirmations.

Choose some words of wisdom that truly stick out to you, and use it as a daily mantra or affirmation that you say to yourself at the beginning of each day. Not only will this bring your spirits up, but this will also serve as a reminder that you deserve love, and you deserve to treat yourself with kindness and respect. Therefore, you shouldn’t accept anything other than kindness and respect from others, you feel? Here are some affirmations that you can use:

“I am enough.”

“What you believe about yourself on the inside is what you will manifest on the outside.”

Are there any mantras you love? Make sure to share them below!

2| Journal to focus on your relationship with yourself.

What compliment do you refuse to accept about yourself? What do you need to forgive yourself for? Oftentimes, we overlook the things we aren’t happy about with ourselves, and shadow them with negative self talk. Instead, forgive yourself for what you did wrong when you were 17. Forgive yourself because you are human, and you are going to make mistakes. That’s okay. Instead of turning to negative self talk, try journaling to learn more about yourself in the process, so you can get to the root of the problem. Write everything down as a way of learning more about yourself in the process.

3| What is something you need to say yes to?

Saying yes and doing things that you love are both important. So make sure that you’re making time to do the things you love. With the help of minimalism, you’re able to create more time, money and energy for things you’re passionate about. You also have time to focus on the goals that mean the most to you so you can live your most blissful life.

4| What is something you need to say no to?

It’s equally important to say no as it is to say yes, so make sure you’re paying attention to what you say yes to and when you need to say no. Don’t commit to projects or events that you truly don’t want to be part of. If you have a ton on your plate, be honest about it at work, so that you’re not feeling overwhelmed. The key is communication and being honest with yourself on what you can handle.

5| Treat yourself to something special.

You don’t need a significant other or anyone else to have an enjoyable night! We know that self-care isn’t all about bath bombs, put pour yourself a glass of wine and watch a cheesy, romantic Hallmark movie. Or, you can take yourself out on a date. Bring your laptop to your favorite coffee place and relax while catching up on YouTube videos. Whatever you decide to do, make sure it’s something that you enjoy!

6| Give yourself a break.

You’re probably taking on a lot more than you realize. From working 40 hours a week, to cleaning and cooking, to spending time with loved ones, and making time for other commitments in your life —it can be difficult to focus on work-life balance. However, it’s not impossible. When you shut down for the day, make sure you aren’t bringing your work home. On the weekends, don’t consistently check emails. Remember that if there’s an emergency, someone will call you.

7| Do a lifestyle audit.

If you’ve been working on your vision board to achieve your goals, you probably have determined the big things you want to accomplish. Now, you need to focus on how you’re spending your time daily to make those dreams happen. How much time are you spending on social media? Is this helping achieve any one of your dreams? How can you better spend your time, so that you’re accomplishing everything on your list? Here are some questions you can ask yourself:

  • Is this helping me achieve my dreams?
  • Do I actually enjoy it?
  • What am I gaining by doing this?
  • Is this helping me to fulfill other needs in my life?

8| Fill your calendar with designated “me time.”

Schedule it in regularly just like you would schedule a doctor’s appointment or working out. The goal is to make sure you’re practicing self care regularly, and spending time with yourself whether you set aside 20 minutes or 2 hours. Enjoying time alone is a good thing even though it can be intimidating at first! If you want a separate post on learning to enjoy spending time alone, let me know in the comments!

9| Get rid of items that don’t make you feel good about your body.

Yes, decluttering your closet CAN be extremely therapeutic when you think about getting rid of anything and everything that doesn’t make you feel fierce and fabulous. You should only wear clothes that make you feel amazing and confident. Don’t own any clothes that don’t fit, or that you truly don’t enjoy. Trust me when I say that you won’t miss those old clothes.

10| Take a risk on something that excites you.

Accountability is a real thing, ya’ll. If there’s something that excites you, make sure you keep yourself accountable by enlisting the help of your support system. If you’re looking to write a book, have a few friends read the first draft to keep you on track. If you’re looking to sell a new product, have some bloggers test it out to see what they think of it! If it’s important to you, you will work on it regularly, and your friends and family will be there to support you. Remember that the goal here is to BELIEVE in yourself and believe in your dreams. Use those positive affirmations to help you along the way! Don’t let fear hold you back.

SO sweet friend, how are you going to practice self-love for the rest of the week? Make sure to share your plans for the weekend in the comments below, and share how you’re going to work on your relationship with yourself! 


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FebYOUary: 5 Things to Treat Yourself to This Week

Posted in Health, Lifestyle
on February 12, 2018

Friends, it’s important to treat yourself, but treating yourself doesn’t always have to be about indulging in your favorite dessert. (If that is your way of treating yourself, that’s great because I would love a cupcake right now.)

There are a lot of things you can treat yourself to that has nothing to do with dessert or a glass of wine. To be honest, I think it’s important we rethink the way we treat ourselves. Oftentimes, we get caught up in guilt after we treat ourselves, and that’s no bueno. Instead, think of the other ways you can treat yourself throughout the week that are nourishing for your soul, and don’t leave you feeling guilty in any way. If you’re looking for a few ways to treat yourself this week, keep on reading!

Treat yourself to…

1| A worthwhile morning. 

Set your alarm 20 minutes earlier than normal, so that you can have time to make AND enjoy breakfast at home with your morning cup of coffee. The beauty of simplifying your morning routine is that it can be a calm, positive experience to begin the day. However, the exact opposite can be said when you rush and running around to get out the door on time. So, take back your mornings and make mornings time for YOU! Take five minutes to do meditations, or focus on your mantra for the day while eating your meal. You’ll begin the day blissfully when you actually enjoy the mornings before work!

2| Time with people you love.

Spending time with friends and family is a wonderful thing. It’s amazing to see the affects of spending time with people who lift you up and bring nothing but happiness to your life. Make it a goal this week to grab lunch with your friend, or FaceTime your parents after work. The truth is that building and nourishing positive relationships in your life is important, and we should work on this regularly. Text your long distance bestie to let her know you’re thinking of her and catch up. The beauty of technology is we have the ability to do this without driving a few hours when the week is hectic. So, utilize that time to focus on important relationships in your life.

3| A meal that takes time/fresh ingredients.

I joke all the time that I don’t feel like I’m cooking when I use my crockpot or when I make a casserole because all you’re doing is dumping everything in one place and cooking it for a bit. It’s all easy peasy. Instead, encourage yourself to make a recipe out of your comfort zone and that doesn’t include frozen items. Get fresh bread from the bakery, fresh produce for your salad, and truly enjoy the process of making a home-cooked meal that you truly enjoy. Even if you don’t LOVE cooking, everyone can appreciate a fresh, wholesome meal that takes time and effort.

4| Re-organizing your life.

Don’t think of this as just organizing your cabinets and closets. Although, you could easily do this if it’s something that you feel is important to you! Turns out that your space could be the source of your stress and problems. Tackle that accordingly by taking time to purge your closet, master your morning and evening routine, and working on other small improvements to live a more blissful life altogether. You can also remove unnecessary, time-wasting activities like watching YouTube for three hours a day and replace it with working toward your goals. Treat yourself to time, and use that time wisely to create plans to achieve your dreams whether it’s with a hefty to-do list or a vision board.

5| Adequate rest.

REST, Y’ALL. It’s so flipping important, and I can’t express its importance enough. You deserve rest, and you need to treat yourself to rest. Set an alarm, and make it priority to get in bed at 11 p.m. every night. When you’re constantly working all hours of the night, your body and mind can’t properly recharge. This eventually will lead to stress, and you’ll realize you aren’t being as productive as you could be during the day. So, take the time to rest and treat yourself to adequate rest every single night. You will thank me for this one, I promise!

So tell me, what one of these things will YOU treat yourself to this week? What is something that you find important to treat yourself to regardless of the day or week? Make sure to share everything in the comments below!

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FebYOUary: Self-care isn’t all about bath bombs

Posted in Health, Lifestyle
on February 5, 2018

I’m sure you’re thinking, “Well, duh. We know it’s not all about bath bombs.”

Hear me out for a minute. As much as I LOVE that self-care is being talked about more often, that’s when it becomes associated with trends or specific ideas that people become attached to. For example, I wrote a post on how minimalism isn’t a one-size-fits-all concept, and the EXACT same things can be said about self-care. Minimalism doesn’t look like black and white closet with only 2o items in it for everyone who identifies as a minimalist. Self-care doesn’t look like bath bombs and bottles of wine to everyone who is in need of self-care.

Although I’m passionate about practicing self-care, I’ve noticed that people are assuming it’s only about pampering yourself and getting cozy with a good book. Yes, those activities definitely count as self-care, and it’s GREAT to have calming, relaxing activities for when you need to indulge in a little time for yourself. However, self-care isn’t only about taking a bath with the newest bath bomb.

Self-care can look like:

1| Reading your favorite book.

2| Adult-coloring.

3| Positive affirmations.

4| Turning off your phone.

5| Going for a walk.

On the end of the spectrum, self-care can be more serious for some. Some people are focused on MUCH bigger things than taking a relaxing bath. They’re worried about money, they’re worried about not having their life together in any sense of the word. They are people who may not have had a nutritious meal in weeks, and are eating fast food three times a day because it’s cheaper than buying groceries, and making food for themselves.

Self-care looks different for everyone. It’s important to remember than someone’s version of self-care may honestly be helping their well-being in a much more significant way. Self-care might be the reason someone keeps their apartment because they stopped going out for meals and drinks. Self-care might be that someone finally stopped working hours of overtime because they saw how much it impacted their health. Self-care might be someone who finally took every one of their vacation days because they’re so used to working instead of creating balance in their life.

Self-care can ALSO look like:

1| Saving money to help pay off student loans.

2| Spending less money on material things.

3| Nourishing your body with fresh, whole foods.

4| Ending toxic friendships who only bring stress to your life.

5| Spending time with people who lift you up.

I’ve written a few posts on self-care, and I’ve talked about the other side of it, too. I’ve talked about the lighthearted end of treating yourself to a glass of wine, your favorite dessert, or your favorite movie with a friend. I still stand by the fact that there’s nothing wrong with those things. In fact, some of my posts this month will talk about those methods of self-care, too because they are equally important! But, I also feel that it’s time to talk about the other end of self-care. The side that most people feel uncomfortable talking about because not all of us have been in that place before.

It’s hard to relate to something you may have never had to deal with, however you can still show empathy and compassion for those who view self-care in a different way than you do. The goal of self-care is to focus on what will improve your life, and will ultimately create a more blissful, healthier YOU!

Remember that some people are going through some heavy hardships in their life. They might not have it all together, and self-care might be taking a shower for the first time this week because they are struggling with depression. It might be someone going out to eat with their friends for the first time in months because they suffer from debilitating anxiety. You never know what someone may be going through, so always offer encouragement and support when someone is excited about the form of self-care they are indulging in. You never know how much it could impact their life in a positive way.

The purpose of self-care is simple: it’s an understanding that you need to take time to do things that will help you—whatever that means in this season of life. Tell me, what does self-care look like to you? What are some ways that you have indulged in self-care that may look differently to someone else? Share your thoughts and stories in the comments below!

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FebYOUary: A Month of Bliss

Posted in Health, Lifestyle
on January 29, 2018

I’m so excited to finally tell you what I have coming up on the blog this month.

FebYOUary: a month of self-care posts where you can focus on living your most blissful life!

Y’all I’ve been excited about this idea, and I’m pumped for you to focus on YOU all-month long. Here’s what you can expect to see over the next month on the blog:

1| Self-care posts.

2| Healthy living posts.

3| Self-love posts.

And everything in between!

I know that you have been working SO HARD in the first month of 2018. I’ve seen your tweets and Instagram Stories where you share how much time, effort and energy you have been putting into your dreams and goals. That. Is. AMAZING. But, it’s important that you also take time for yourself, so if you find that you went a little too hard on work and didn’t spend enough time resting—stop back every Monday and Wednesday for new posts. You won’t regret it.

I’m sure you’re thinking, Kiara, do I really need this whole “self-care stuff” in my life?

YES. Yes, you definitely do. You deserve you take care of yourself and make yourself a priority. When you don’t make yourself a priority, you begin to lose motivation and inspiration to continue working on your dreams and goals. It’s best when you do take time for yourself consistently, so that you always feel refreshed and ready to take on your new projects that you’re working on.

Before you make any excuses, let me tell you a few things:

1| It doesn’t cost anything to practice self-care and self-love.

2| It doesn’t take a ton of time to practice self-care and self-love.

3| It doesn’t hurt anyone to practice self-care and self-love.

Now that we got that out of the way, you don’t have any excuses to NOT join me. This month will be all about good vibes, good energy and a whole lotta bliss. So who are these posts good for? The answer is: anyone who is human.

Let’s be honest. We ALL have felt drained, overworked and mentally/emotionally/physically exhausted, but all we do is roll into bed for some sleep to start all over again instead of many changes to our lives for consistent self-care.

I’m hoping that this month will open your eyes to the beauty of frequent self-care and self-love. I’m hoping this month will show you that you deserve time to rest, recharge and rejuvenate your mind, body and soul. I’m hoping this month will show you that you are worthy of loving yourself the way you love others.

The truth is: I want this for you because I know what it’s like living a life where you’re constantly working on another project. You’re rushing through a meal without enough nutrients and drowning in cup after cup of coffee. You’re on edge from lack of sleep, and you find your motivation slowly slipping. My goal with these upcoming posts is to inspire you to take care of yourself first because that’s the only way you’re going to take care of your dreams and goals.

How do you practice self-care and self-love? Do you think you could work on adding more self-care to your routine? Make sure to share in the comments below!

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How To Stop Beating Yourself Down When Rejection Strikes

Posted in Lifestyle
on January 15, 2018

Hey there, friend! 

This topic has been on my heart a lot recently because I’ve witnessed it first-hand with friends, family, coworkers, and even with myself. I felt compelled to write a blog post about it because I’m hoping to help you if you find yourself struggling in the new year. So if you find yourself struggling with beating yourself down in the midst of rejection, keep reading for a little bit of bliss.

Let me tell you one thing us humans know how to do very well…

Beat. Ourselves. Down. Relentlessly. 

I’m sure you can relate to this regardless of the season of life you may find yourself in. You’re working on a huge project you’ve been putting all your time and energy into only to find out that your corporate doesn’t approve. You’ve been dreaming and working hard because this is something you’re incredibly passionate about pursuing, and everything comes crashing down once you hear that rejection. This, unfortunately, leads to a negative spiral of you questioning your worth, intelligence, and even your skills in your position. You’re left devastated and defeated.

Or, you’re a mom who is juggling work, family, taking care of kids, all while trying to stay afloat with every other commitment—and you find yourself beating yourself down on how you should sleep less, so that you have more time to spend with your family after working 40 hours each week. Guilt settles in, and eventually consumes your entire mind. Now, you’re left thinking your a bad employee, horrible mother and a less-than-perfect wife.

There are a million more examples I could list out, but the point is we have all been there whether it’s related to work, family, a passion project, and everything other situation in between. Even I have a difficult time accepting that I’ve restlessly torn myself apart with criticism and negative words, and it’s NOT  good place to be in. So, why do we allow ourselves to beat ourselves down whenever we face rejection?

Rejection is part of life. Not everything is going to go smoothly, and life is a long journey of peaks and valleys. But, when did it become normal to be so negative toward ourselves to the point where we question our self-worth simply because we are in the midst of rejection? When did it become acceptable to beat ourselves down to the point where we don’t even like who we are in that moment or situation?

I don’t know about you, but that’s not the way I want to live my life, and you shouldn’t want to live your life that way either. 2018 should be a year where we focus on self-care, self-love, and working on the best relationship with ourselves. It we truly aren’t happy with the relationship we have with ourselves, how we expect to have a good relationship with our friends and family? Once we invite more love and kindness when working on ourselves, the better we will be.

Here are some tips to NOT beat yourself down when facing rejection:

1| This too, shall pass

Remember that this moment of rejection will not last forever. It most likely will not matter in the next five years, or maybe it won’t even matter in the next five days. Although it can be difficult to move on when you feel like you messed up, it’s essential for your well being. Don’t let yourself linger in the negative feelings that follow rejection. Allow yourself to feel them for a certain amount of time, so then you can move on feeling good about yourself again. Better yet, USE the rejection as motivation to go back and learn from the rejection, so that you can conquer it next time you face that challenge.

Use your past to make you better, not bitter.

2| Let go of perfectionism

2018 is the year we should let go of perfectionism. Granted, this is ALWAYS easier said than done because perfectionism is a tough disease to fight through. But, not only will this help your mental health in the long run, but it will also help you focus on being kind and compassionate to yourself when you’re in the wake of rejection. Remember that no one is perfect, and you’re not an exception to this fact. The bad thing is that MANY of us struggle with this, so next time you see a loved one getting caught in the perfectionism trap, remind them that they are only human, they are doing the best they can; and they are more than enough.

3| Focus on self-love

Self-love is something we should be committed to working on in 2018 because without it, perfectionism takes over the mind like a wild fire. Then, you’re left soaking in the rejection while your relationship with yourself is deteriorating. Remember all the other times you faced rejection, and you thought that you weren’t going to make it through? Well, you made it. Not only that, you probably grew from the experience and it made you become even more wonderful than you already are.

So, believe in yourself and remember that despite everything you have been though, you are still standing. You are a force to be reckoned with. You will not let rejection destroy your self-esteem because you’re too good for that.

Related: 5 Reasons to Make Self-Love a Priority

The next time you face rejection, remember that it’s okay to feel upset or angry. But don’t let those emotions turn negatively onto yourself. Remember that every human will face rejection and mistakes because it is part of life. That doesn’t make you any less of a human being. If anything, the experiences should humble you being a reminder that YOU ARE human and it’s okay.

When is the last time you faced rejection? Do you find yourself struggling with perfectionism when it comes to your work? How do you handle rejection, or how can you better handle rejection next time it comes your way? I would love to her more about your experiences in the comment below!

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