5 Reasons to Make Self Love a Priority

I. Love.Quotes. I was that girl in college who always had inspirational quotes on the walls of her dorm because she was that IN LOVE with quotes. I love learning inspirational messages, and dishing them out to friends and family where they’re struggling, or need a little pick-me-up pep talk. It’s not abnormal for me to search Pinterest for words of wisdom on a rainy evening. Recently, I was reminded of a quote, and it brought on a lot of emotions.

“If I asked you to name all the things you love, how long would it take for you to name yourself?”

It makes me teary-eyed to read those words and think that at one point in my life I would have said, “I don’t think I would name myself at all.”

Unfortunately, I don’t think I’m the only person who thinks that.

Bottom line: you need to love yourself.

We live in a world where it can be very difficult to love ourselves. With unrealistic standards of beauty, unrealistic standards of happiness and the do-it-all mentality—loving ourselves can be stressful and complicated. We are constantly absorbing content where we see other bloggers and people that exude confidence and happiness. They’re always doing something spectacular, fun and Instagram-worthy. We see fitness accounts filled with inspiration that makes us hate the way we look. And these are only a few examples.

We need to stop comparing our lives to the Instagram of our favorite blogger. In reality, that person still struggles with things we know nothing about. Similar to how other people don’t know what our personal struggles are.

So why should you make self love a priority?

1| It’s necessary for your health

Not just your mental health, but also your physical and emotional health, too. Self love affects all these areas of your well-being, so it’s important to love yourself. When you drop negative self talk, you’ll be more positive and confident. This positive change will bring out healthy ways of living like working out regularly and taking care of yourself. Self love is a powerful thing.

2| You focus on the most important relationship

The most important relationship you’ll have in your life is the relationship you have with YOURSELF. You have to live with yourself until the day you die, so you need to love and appreciate that relationship. Self love will help you focus and learn more about yourself, what you need and what your goals and ambitions are. Journaling and having time alone to yourself is important.

3| It reflects positively in other relationships

Because you’ll have a positive, strong relationship with yourself, you’ll notice a huge, POSITIVE change in your relationships with other people. Your love, confidence and bliss will resonate with other people, and that will change their perception of you for the better. They will want to be around you more because you have a positive impact on them in your friendship/relationship, etc.

4| You’ll be blissful

More importantly, you should practice self love because it will truly make you blissful. When you stop the comparison game with everyone around you—you feel the weight of mountains lifted from your shoulders. Real talk: NOT loving yourself is exhausting because you’re constantly at war with yourself. Always tearing yourself down while lifting someone else up. That isn’t a healthy way to live.

5| It’s essential. Period.

We need to remember that we are not perfect, and we weren’t created to be perfect. We are constantly striving to achieve the “best” life. And while being ambitious is a positive quality, the pressure we put on ourselves is too much. Self love is essential because there are many times where we think perfection is the answer when perfection is the reason for destroying our love for ourselves.

Today I’m encouraging you to give yourself a compliment (or five) because you’re absolutely amazing and you deserve to think so! Let’s set aside our flaws and focus on our strengths. We have positive qualities we should love about ourselves. Now it’s time to love ourselves the way our friends and family love us.

What do you love about yourself? Go ahead, be confident and leave a comment with your favorite qualities about yourself! How do you practice self love?

 

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Mental Cleanse Challenge: Week 5

It’s crazy to think that this month has flown by so quickly. It seems like yesterday that Erin reached out to me to see if i was interested in collaborating with her on this challenge. After going through this month with focusing on self care, relaxation and more—I’ve learned so much from this process and experience. I want to thank Erin from A Welder’s Wife for joining me with these challenges and experience altogether. It has been wonderful to work with her and see how she has done each week during the challenges!

If it’s your first post catching up on the Mental Cleanse Challenge visit the posts below to catch up on the weekly challenges and posts below to see how Erin and I did each week!

My Posts:

1| Week 1: Introduction

2| Week 2: Self Care

3| Week 3: Diet & Exercise

4| Week 4: Digital Cleanse

Erin’s Posts:

1| Mental Cleanse Challenge Week 1

2| Mental Cleanse Challenge Week 2

3| Mental Cleanse Challenge Week 3

4| Mental Cleanse Challenge Week 4

Now keep reading below to see how I did last week on the positivity challenges:

Feb. 20: No complaint day.

I was a little nervous about this challenge because if I’m stressing out over a workout…I will complain. But, I’m happy to say that I made it through Insanity without a single complaint! A huge win for me personally, haha!

Feb 21: Write down 3 great things that happened today.

1. I had a productive day at work. 2. I worked hard on the blog after work. 3. I meal prepped for the entire week.

Feb 22: Spend 15 minutes in silence focusing on one positive attribute about yourself.

My positive attribute was focusing on my self-motivation and drive to keep going. The part I struggled with was only focusing on this one thought when there were other thoughts in my head.

Feb 23: Compliment a stranger.

This is never a difficult task since I’m around people most of the time. It is always nice to see someone light up after you give them a genuine compliment.

Feb 24: Write a letter to yourself explaining why you are unique.

I thought I was going to have a difficult time with this one, but instead of writing a letter, I decided to do it as a list, which seemed less daunting and overwhelming for someone who feels uncomfortable talking about themselves.

Feb 25: Ask your friends to describe you in 3 words, write them down, and repeat it to yourself throughout the day.

I decided to ask my co-workers it was the best decision of my life. They said: confident, outgoing and crazy (in a good way, haha). It makes me happy to see how they perceive me is in a positive way. It definitely made my day to think about this throughout the rest of the day.

Feb 26: Write out your challenge wins and treat yourself!

I’m so happy to say that I was able to complete all the challenges throughout this month. This challenge and teaming with up Erin taught me so much about practicing self care and focusing on time for myself, which was so important. I was most surprised about the diet and exercise challenges like going vegan and trying a new workout!


Overall, I’m sad to see that that challenge is over with, but I love knowing it’s something I can plan for another month down the road when I’m in need of some self care and relaxation. If you followed along with these challenges:

What was your favorite/least favorite week?

My favorite week was the self care week because it had mix of everything from walking to pampering sessions and everything in between. My least favorite week was probably the diet and exercise because it was a little more challenging even though it was worth it!

What challenges were you most surprised that you were able to accomplish?

No complaint day during the positivity week and trying a new workout during the diet and exercise week. Both were two that I was worried about, but was happy and proud for accomplishing them.

What challenges were your favorite or most difficult to complete?

I loved all the positivity challenges even though they were also the most difficult challenges to complete for me personally. When I was able to cross the daily challenge off my list for each day, it was so satisfying.

Is this something you’d like to try again down the road?

YES! I definitely want to plan this for summertime when I’ll need another pick-me-up-month and need to focus on self care, relaxation and refreshing my mind altogether.

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I hope you enjoyed following along on these challenges throughout the month of February with Erin and I. It was so fun and refreshing to have a month filled with challenges that focused on self care, relaxation and everything in between to focus on mental health. Make sure to leave comments below asking the reflection questions and any other comments you have from participating in the challenges!

 

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When To End A Friendship

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As an Aries, I truly value friendships. I am the type of person who would rather have five incredible friends who I trust with my whole heart rather than a group of 15 friends who aren’t always there for me. I’ve always been that way. I am mindful of the people who I consider friends or best friends.

Over the last two years, I ended some friendships over very different circumstances. One friend was toxic, another friend wasn’t really a friend at all. I’ve had different experiences with ending friendships, and it turns out that my life was better without them. So, I want to share some information on when you should end a friendship.

If you have a friend that possesses one or more of these traits , you might want to reevaluate your relationship with that person, and consider ending your friendship. Here’s what you should look out for.

The one-sided friendship:

This friendship is draining because you’re always the one to make plans, you’re always calling her to check in and see how everything is going. Essentially, you’re the ringleader to ensure that the friendships stays alive. Unfortunately, if someone wants you in their life, they’re going to make an effort to have you in their life. If they don’t make the effort, they don’t care. It’s as simple as that. If your friendship is all weighted on your end, you might want to considering ending this friendship.

The one who lies:

Nothing bothers me more than a person who lies. I would rather have someone “hurt my feelings” by being honest rather than do something behind my back. The only reason a friend should be lying to you is because she’s part of a huge surprise for your birthday/wedding/visit etc. If she lies outside of those reasons, you should definitely end that friendship.

The one who is toxic:

“Letting toxic people go isn’t an act of cruelty, it’s an act of self-care.” I’ve sadly had to end friendships simply because their toxic actions became an overwhelming part of my life. I would be worried about being there for them that I wasn’t there for myself. That is not a healthy friend to have in your life. You should never feel guilty for wanting to end a friendship with someone who is toxic. It proves that you’re looking out for yourself and your well-being.

The one who causes problems:

If a friend causes problems, you might want to consider ending your friendship. There is one girl out there looking for trouble. She likes to stir the pot. She always looking to cause drama between other friends, talk about her friends behind their backs, lie, etc. Essentially, this is someone who you should never call a friend to begin with because they don’t know how to be a friend.

The one who only cares about herself:

You drop everything you’re doing to go pick her up at a guy’s house where she spent the night last night. You drive her downtown to get her car from a night of drinking. You plan a special birthday for her…but she forgets your birthday. She calls you whenever she needs something, but that’s the extent of it; and she doesn’t do anything for you in return. Please do yourself a favor and end your friendship with this person. You deserve to have friends in your life who are there for you.

I hope this post helped anyone who might be deciding whether of not they should end a friendship. Although ending a friendship can be difficult or complicated, it’s best to remove these people from your life. You deserve to have friends that lift you up, are there for you when you need them, and are positive influences in your life.

Have you ever ended a friendship? How did you know when to end it? What tips can you offer to others? Make sure to share in the comments!

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