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FebYOUary: Why You Need to Take Time for Yourself

Posted in Health, Lifestyle
on January 31, 2018

 

Have you ever been on a plane?

If you have, you probably would have heard the same message about using oxygen masks. You might even have it memorized.

“If the cabin air pressure changes dramatically, oxygen masks might fall from the ceiling directly in front of you. If a child is seated beside you, put on your own mask before helping to put a mask on the child.”

I’m sure in the moment, every person (specifically a mom) has been concerned with putting on a child’s oxygen mask before their own. And that’s the problem…

You can’t help others when you’re not helping yourself first.

It clicked that there’s a reason why aircrafts specify those instructions, so why aren’t we applying this life-saving information to our own lives? The same exact thing can be said about self-care. Taking time for yourself is essential. When stress builds, you need feel-good activities, and ways to deal with stress and problems that life brings. Even when everything is going perfectly fine in your life—you STILL should take time for yourself, and you do so as often as possible. If you’re needing a little extra time for yourself, but aren’t too sure where to begin—continue reading my five tips to get started.

1| Remind yourself you deserve this

Yes, you! You absolutely deserve to take some time for yourself and often as you need it. Weather you take a full day off from work, or you cancel your plans to attend a party to focus on a passion project. You definitely deserve a little extra time for yourself no matter what situation or state you may be in. Remember that it’s okay to take time to shut off from the world for a little bit. In fact, I encourage you to shut yourself off from the world from time to time (see point three).

2| Allow yourself to feel

If things haven’t been going well, and you’ve been dealing with a lot—allow yourself to feel. Be angry. Be sad. Take time to feel everything you feel because your emotions ARE VALID. You should never feel like you need to push those emotions away because that’s not going to help you move past whatever you may be working through. Accept those feelings, so that you can heal, but remind yourself not to stay angry, or sad for long. After you give yourself time to feel, you also need to give yourself time to do things that will make you feel good. Get your hair trimmed, or take a shower if you haven’t had the strength to do so over the last few days. But make sure you don’t stay alone in those negative emotions so long that they become all-consuming.

3| Shut off completely

Sometimes, social media and the Internet can be the worst place when you’re feeling overwhelmed, anxious, stressed and several other not-so-wonderful adjectives all mixed into one. Take time away from your phone, so you can focus on dealing with the problems in front of you rather get caught up texting friends about their problems, and scrolling through Twitter catching up on the latest tragedy. One thing I’ve struggled with immensely is helping people with their problems when I’m going through a problem myself. I’ll always be there for friends and family, but when it seems to be all about them and their problems, that isn’t the best space for you to be in all the time. Take time away from your phone, and do something you love.

4| Make a list of things you love

This is what of the best things I’ve done because now I have a go-to list filled with things I love including favorite movies, websites, foods, and everything in between. The goal is to have a quick reference on the feel-good things you can do whenever you decide you need to take time for yourself. Do you have an entire day to yourself? Read your favorite book, watch your favorite movie, and treat yourself to your favorite food from the take-out place down the street. If you only have an hour, treat yourself to your favorite face mask, and watch an episode of the show you’re watching on Netflix while your phone is off.

5| Do something a little extravagant 

If you have a little extra money and time to treat yourself, do something more than the typical things if you’ve been feeling more low than normal. Treat yourself to a massage. Treat yourself to an expensive meal. Make your favorite dessert and indulge without guilt. Open that bottle of “special occasion” wine. Buy a dress you’ve had your eye on for the last few months. Life is too short to NOT do the things you want to do. Life is too short to wait for a special occasion to do something good for yourself. You deserve it no matter what day it is.

Remember: You need to take time for yourself. You aren’t helping anyone around you when you aren’t helping yourself first. So, take the time to shut off from the world for an hour, a day, or a week. Give yourself time to refresh and recharge, and you’ll be able to take on life and all that it brings.

How do you take time for yourself? Make sure to share in the comments below so we can find new ways to take care of ourselves during a busy season in life. 

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FebYOUary: A Month of Bliss

Posted in Health, Lifestyle
on January 29, 2018

I’m so excited to finally tell you what I have coming up on the blog this month.

FebYOUary: a month of self-care posts where you can focus on living your most blissful life!

Y’all I’ve been excited about this idea, and I’m pumped for you to focus on YOU all-month long. Here’s what you can expect to see over the next month on the blog:

1| Self-care posts.

2| Healthy living posts.

3| Self-love posts.

And everything in between!

I know that you have been working SO HARD in the first month of 2018. I’ve seen your tweets and Instagram Stories where you share how much time, effort and energy you have been putting into your dreams and goals. That. Is. AMAZING. But, it’s important that you also take time for yourself, so if you find that you went a little too hard on work and didn’t spend enough time resting—stop back every Monday and Wednesday for new posts. You won’t regret it.

I’m sure you’re thinking, Kiara, do I really need this whole “self-care stuff” in my life?

YES. Yes, you definitely do. You deserve you take care of yourself and make yourself a priority. When you don’t make yourself a priority, you begin to lose motivation and inspiration to continue working on your dreams and goals. It’s best when you do take time for yourself consistently, so that you always feel refreshed and ready to take on your new projects that you’re working on.

Before you make any excuses, let me tell you a few things:

1| It doesn’t cost anything to practice self-care and self-love.

2| It doesn’t take a ton of time to practice self-care and self-love.

3| It doesn’t hurt anyone to practice self-care and self-love.

Now that we got that out of the way, you don’t have any excuses to NOT join me. This month will be all about good vibes, good energy and a whole lotta bliss. So who are these posts good for? The answer is: anyone who is human.

Let’s be honest. We ALL have felt drained, overworked and mentally/emotionally/physically exhausted, but all we do is roll into bed for some sleep to start all over again instead of many changes to our lives for consistent self-care.

I’m hoping that this month will open your eyes to the beauty of frequent self-care and self-love. I’m hoping this month will show you that you deserve time to rest, recharge and rejuvenate your mind, body and soul. I’m hoping this month will show you that you are worthy of loving yourself the way you love others.

The truth is: I want this for you because I know what it’s like living a life where you’re constantly working on another project. You’re rushing through a meal without enough nutrients and drowning in cup after cup of coffee. You’re on edge from lack of sleep, and you find your motivation slowly slipping. My goal with these upcoming posts is to inspire you to take care of yourself first because that’s the only way you’re going to take care of your dreams and goals.

How do you practice self-care and self-love? Do you think you could work on adding more self-care to your routine? Make sure to share in the comments below!

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How To Stop Beating Yourself Down When Rejection Strikes

Posted in Lifestyle
on January 15, 2018

Hey there, friend! 

This topic has been on my heart a lot recently because I’ve witnessed it first-hand with friends, family, coworkers, and even with myself. I felt compelled to write a blog post about it because I’m hoping to help you if you find yourself struggling in the new year. So if you find yourself struggling with beating yourself down in the midst of rejection, keep reading for a little bit of bliss.

Let me tell you one thing us humans know how to do very well…

Beat. Ourselves. Down. Relentlessly. 

I’m sure you can relate to this regardless of the season of life you may find yourself in. You’re working on a huge project you’ve been putting all your time and energy into only to find out that your corporate doesn’t approve. You’ve been dreaming and working hard because this is something you’re incredibly passionate about pursuing, and everything comes crashing down once you hear that rejection. This, unfortunately, leads to a negative spiral of you questioning your worth, intelligence, and even your skills in your position. You’re left devastated and defeated.

Or, you’re a mom who is juggling work, family, taking care of kids, all while trying to stay afloat with every other commitment—and you find yourself beating yourself down on how you should sleep less, so that you have more time to spend with your family after working 40 hours each week. Guilt settles in, and eventually consumes your entire mind. Now, you’re left thinking your a bad employee, horrible mother and a less-than-perfect wife.

There are a million more examples I could list out, but the point is we have all been there whether it’s related to work, family, a passion project, and everything other situation in between. Even I have a difficult time accepting that I’ve restlessly torn myself apart with criticism and negative words, and it’s NOT  good place to be in. So, why do we allow ourselves to beat ourselves down whenever we face rejection?

Rejection is part of life. Not everything is going to go smoothly, and life is a long journey of peaks and valleys. But, when did it become normal to be so negative toward ourselves to the point where we question our self-worth simply because we are in the midst of rejection? When did it become acceptable to beat ourselves down to the point where we don’t even like who we are in that moment or situation?

I don’t know about you, but that’s not the way I want to live my life, and you shouldn’t want to live your life that way either. 2018 should be a year where we focus on self-care, self-love, and working on the best relationship with ourselves. It we truly aren’t happy with the relationship we have with ourselves, how we expect to have a good relationship with our friends and family? Once we invite more love and kindness when working on ourselves, the better we will be.

Here are some tips to NOT beat yourself down when facing rejection:

1| This too, shall pass

Remember that this moment of rejection will not last forever. It most likely will not matter in the next five years, or maybe it won’t even matter in the next five days. Although it can be difficult to move on when you feel like you messed up, it’s essential for your well being. Don’t let yourself linger in the negative feelings that follow rejection. Allow yourself to feel them for a certain amount of time, so then you can move on feeling good about yourself again. Better yet, USE the rejection as motivation to go back and learn from the rejection, so that you can conquer it next time you face that challenge.

Use your past to make you better, not bitter.

2| Let go of perfectionism

2018 is the year we should let go of perfectionism. Granted, this is ALWAYS easier said than done because perfectionism is a tough disease to fight through. But, not only will this help your mental health in the long run, but it will also help you focus on being kind and compassionate to yourself when you’re in the wake of rejection. Remember that no one is perfect, and you’re not an exception to this fact. The bad thing is that MANY of us struggle with this, so next time you see a loved one getting caught in the perfectionism trap, remind them that they are only human, they are doing the best they can; and they are more than enough.

3| Focus on self-love

Self-love is something we should be committed to working on in 2018 because without it, perfectionism takes over the mind like a wild fire. Then, you’re left soaking in the rejection while your relationship with yourself is deteriorating. Remember all the other times you faced rejection, and you thought that you weren’t going to make it through? Well, you made it. Not only that, you probably grew from the experience and it made you become even more wonderful than you already are.

So, believe in yourself and remember that despite everything you have been though, you are still standing. You are a force to be reckoned with. You will not let rejection destroy your self-esteem because you’re too good for that.

Related: 5 Reasons to Make Self-Love a Priority

The next time you face rejection, remember that it’s okay to feel upset or angry. But don’t let those emotions turn negatively onto yourself. Remember that every human will face rejection and mistakes because it is part of life. That doesn’t make you any less of a human being. If anything, the experiences should humble you being a reminder that YOU ARE human and it’s okay.

When is the last time you faced rejection? Do you find yourself struggling with perfectionism when it comes to your work? How do you handle rejection, or how can you better handle rejection next time it comes your way? I would love to her more about your experiences in the comment below!

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8 Things to Let go of in 2018

Posted in Health, Lifestyle
on January 10, 2018

I hope you are all having a wonderful 2018 so far!

I have been reading posts in the blogging community about their goals for the new year, or their word for 2018, and similar posts. We are constantly adding things that we want to do or accomplish in a new year, but we don’t often think about things we should let go of. It had me thinking about a new perspective I want to challenge you all with for 2018, so I decide to share what you should let go of in 2018. If you’re looking for a little inspiration, and a lot of bliss—keep reading.

1| Perfectionism

It’s okay to go to work without a full face of makeup and perfectly done hair. It’s okay if your Instagram isn’t perfectly cohesive. It’s okay if you’re not going to cute cafes, and traveling to new places every single month. It’s okay if your party doesn’t have Pinterest-worthy foods and DIY decorations. Life isn’t perfect, so we shouldn’t keep bringing ourselves down in 2018 when things aren’t perfect. You won’t have it together all the time, and there’s nothing wrong with it. Embrace the imperfect moments of life.

2| Negative self-talk

You are beautiful. You are loved. You are needed. You are enough. If there’s one thing you need to let go of in 2018 it’s negative self talk. Self love should be a priority in your life because you deserve to have a positive, loving relationship with yourself. After all, you’re going to be with yourself for your entire life, so you may as well like yourself. Drop the negativity and be kind to yourself. Remember that you’re doing the best that you can, and you’re always going to be a work in progress.

3| Toxic relationships

Let go of the people who don’t lift you up or bring any positivity to your life. Whether it’s a family member, long-time friend, or a coworker you have been spending time with. If they are constantly bringing you down, or they aren’t there for you when you need them there, they probably aren’t a friend worth keeping in the new year. Remember that not every person who comes in your life is meant to stay around forever, and it’s okay to let go of those relationships.

4| Items you don’t love or need

I had to get honest with myself on this one because I’ve noticed a few things I’ve been holding on to that I truly don’t need or even enjoy having around the house. Minimalism has definitely played a large role in my life, and I’m reminded that removing things I don’t love will only make space for more things that I do love. Take time to sort out your closet by asking yourself these 10 questions while decluttering. If you’re already past your closet, try a decluttering challenge, or look into other areas of minimalism that doesn’t involve decluttering.

5| The past 

2018 is a new beginning for all of us, and we should treat it as such. Remember to let go of the negative moments of the past year, so that it won’t hold you back in the new year. This can apply to any period of your life for that matter. When we hold on to feelings of the past, it affects our present self and potentially our future self. So, let the past stay in the past, and you’ll feel content living in the present moment.

6| Busy schedules

We need to stop glorifying busyness. We need to let go of packed schedules and saying yes to plans we don’t even want to make. It’s time we take care of ourselves, and have more time to live slowly and intentionally. Focus on self-care with a mental cleanse challenge. It’s important to have a balance between work and time for yourself. Oftentimes, we get caught up in work and constantly being on the go that it takes a horrible toll on our health altogether.

Related: 8 Small Improvements to Live a Blissful Life

7| Procrastination

Sitting on Pinterest dreaming about the life you wish to have can only get you so far. You need to get up and do the things you want to accomplish. Creating a vision board works wonders on achieving your goals, and it’s a great place to start if you’re looking for a little motivation in the new year, too. Find your passion in life, and work at it every single day. Stay consistent with your goals and be productive with your day.

Related: 8 Tips to Get Your Life Together in 8 Hours

8| Comparison

Hey there, beautiful soul. Here’s a gentle reminder that you don’t need to compare yourself and your journey to someone’s else experiences. That’s how you get in a rut, and that’s no bueno. Instead of comparing yourself to other, remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can right now, and there’s always room for improvement. But don’t let comparison steal your joy from the things you love most.

What are you letting go of in the new year? Whether it’s something on the list I have or something completely different, make sure to share your thoughts in the comments below! I would love to hear more about what you plan to let go of in 2018.

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Self-Care Challenge: Week 4

Posted in Health, Lifestyle
on July 28, 2017

I feel like this month has been flying by! I can’t believe this is the last week (with the exception of the weekend) for our 30-day self care challenge. If you haven’t been keeping up with the last few posts, make sure you check them out: week one self care challenges, week two self care challenges, week three self care challenges.

Week Four Challenges:

Watch your favorite movie.

I have too many favorites, but I decided on Pitch Perfect because you can’t go wrong with singing and Anna Kendrick. Right? What is your favorite movies or top five list of favorite movies?

Take a social media break.

It was a perfect day to take time away from social media because I had everything scheduled in advance, so I wasn’t even worried about posting to different platforms. It’s amazing what this little break can do for your well-being. I was able to focus on enjoying the day rather than aimlessly scroll on social media!

Meditate for 10 minutes.

I’m a person who meditates so much better when I’m listening to soundscapes like summer thunderstorms. It definitely helps me relax a lot easier and enjoy the time in peace. Do you meditate? Do you listen to guided meditations or have any apps you use? Make sure to share in the comments!

Try an online class or webinar.

I’ve been taking so many online classes, courses and webinars for all things, blogging, social media, etc., and this one was no different. I decided to focus more on YouTube, and I can’t express how much I learned. P.S. this might be a hint of something coming to Blissfully Brunette soon!

Visit a chiropractor.

My chiropractor is incredible. It’s amazing what one little adjustment can do for my neck. If you struggle with neck and back pain, I would definitely recommend it because it will change your life. I promise.

Take a power nap.

This was after a LONG week and even a longer weekend ahead, so this nap was so well deserved. If Corrine says we should take naps, then we should take naps. Side note: Are you watching the Bachelorette? Who do you think will win?

Compliment a stranger.

It’s incredible to see how taking the time to compliment someone can make their day, especially when they’re a stranger. Take the time to spread some love and kindness by complimenting that girl at work or someone at the bar.

Week Five Challenges: 

Two words: adult coloring.

Buy flowers and plants for your home and office.

 

What tasks did you enjoy the most from week four? Which tasks were the most difficult? Make sure to share your experiences in the comments below!

 

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