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Why You Need to Take Time for Yourself + 5 Tips to Get Started

Posted in Health, Lifestyle
on November 15, 2017

Although I’ve had so many wonderful things happen over the last few months, life is unpredictable still brings some unexpected changes or experiences your way. We’ve all been there before: it a series of one stressful problem after the next, and you’re feeling overwhelmed beyond belief. I’ve been feeling that way recently, and my first instinct was to ignore it and keep showing the optimistic, blissful side I show 99 percent of the time in life. I would beat myself up and feel guilty if something negative happened and tell myself:

“You shouldn’t be upset about that because you OWN A HOUSE. Look at the good in your life.”

“Don’t let that get to you because today is going to be a good day.”

I would default to happiness and ignore the problems so much that they kept piling up one after another. Not long after everything came the inevitable…I would eventually break down.

The issue is that I can’t exactly do much about the problems that have been coming up. And that’s difficult for me to handle as a problem-solving perfectionist. When something is out of my control—I feel my skin crawl, and I can’t bring myself to relax until I know it’s solved. I felt as though I had no choice, BUT to put on a brave face and smile through all the problems hoping I could forget about them. And life simply doesn’t work that way.

A few weeks ago, this took a turn on me, but I didn’t say a word to anyone. I kept it all to myself and kept the brave face strong. Then, I was reminded by a friend that you need to do what’s best for you.

You need to take time for yourself because you can’t help others when you’re not helping yourself first.

It clicked that I wasn’t going to be able to solve the problems that were in front of me. But, I could help myself cope with those problems by dealing with them instead of ignoring them. And above all else, I really needed to take more time for myself.

Taking time for yourself is essential. When stress builds, you need feel-good activities and ways to deal with stress and problems in life. Even when everything is going perfectly fine in your life—you STILL should take time for yourself and do so as often as possible. So, if you’re needing a little extra time for yourself, but aren’t too sure where to begin—continue reading my five tips to get started.

1| Remind yourself you deserve this

Yes, you! You absolutely deserve to take some time for yourself and often as you need it. Weather it’s a day off from work, or two hours focusing on a passion project that calms you instantly. You definitely deserve a little extra time for yourself no matter what situation or state you may be in. Remind yourself that it’s okay to take time to shut off from the world for a little bit.

2| Allow yourself to feel

If things haven’t been going well, and you’ve been dealing with a lot—allow yourself to feel. Take time to feel sad or angry. Take time to feel everything you feel because your emotions ARE VALID. You should never feel like you need to push those emotions away. Accept them temporarily, so that you can eventually heal.

3| Shut off completely

Sometimes, social media and the Internet can be the worst place when you’re feeling overwhelmed, anxious, stressed and several other adjectives all mixed into one. Take time away from your phone so you can focus on dealing with the problems in front of you rather get caught up texting friends about their problems, scrolling through Twitter catching up on the latest world tragedy or something similar.

4| Make a list of things you love

This is what of the best things I’ve done because now I have a go-to list filled with things I love including favorite movies, websites, foods, and everything in between. The goal is to have a quick reference on the feel-good things you can do whenever you decide you need to take time for yourself. Do you have an entire day to yourself? Read your favorite book, watch your favorite movie, and treat yourself to your favorite food from the take-out place down the street. If you only have an hour, treat yourself to your favorite face mask and show you’re watching on Netflix while your phone is off.

5| Do something a little extravagant 

If you have a little extra money and time to treat yourself, do something more than the typical feel-good stuff if you’ve been feeling more low than normal. Treat yourself to a massage. Treat yourself to a more expensive meal. Make your favorite dessert and indulge without guilt. Open that bottle of “special occasion” wine. Buy a dress you’ve had your eye on for the last few months. Life is too short not to do the things you want to do. Life is too short to wait for a special occasion to do something good for yourself. You deserve it no matter what day it is.

Remember: You need to take time for yourself. You aren’t helping anyone around you when you aren’t helping yourself first. So, take the time to shut off from the world for an hour, a day, or a week. Give yourself time to refresh and recharge, and you’ll be able to take on life and all that it brings.

How do you take time for yourself? Make sure to share in the comments below so we can find new ways to take care of ourselves during a busy season in life. 

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Self-Care Challenge: Week 4

Posted in Health, Lifestyle
on July 28, 2017

I feel like this month has been flying by! I can’t believe this is the last week (with the exception of the weekend) for our 30-day self care challenge. If you haven’t been keeping up with the last few posts, make sure you check them out: week one self care challenges, week two self care challenges, week three self care challenges.

Week Four Challenges:

Watch your favorite movie.

I have too many favorites, but I decided on Pitch Perfect because you can’t go wrong with singing and Anna Kendrick. Right? What is your favorite movies or top five list of favorite movies?

Take a social media break.

It was a perfect day to take time away from social media because I had everything scheduled in advance, so I wasn’t even worried about posting to different platforms. It’s amazing what this little break can do for your well-being. I was able to focus on enjoying the day rather than aimlessly scroll on social media!

Meditate for 10 minutes.

I’m a person who meditates so much better when I’m listening to soundscapes like summer thunderstorms. It definitely helps me relax a lot easier and enjoy the time in peace. Do you meditate? Do you listen to guided meditations or have any apps you use? Make sure to share in the comments!

Try an online class or webinar.

I’ve been taking so many online classes, courses and webinars for all things, blogging, social media, etc., and this one was no different. I decided to focus more on YouTube, and I can’t express how much I learned. P.S. this might be a hint of something coming to Blissfully Brunette soon!

Visit a chiropractor.

My chiropractor is incredible. It’s amazing what one little adjustment can do for my neck. If you struggle with neck and back pain, I would definitely recommend it because it will change your life. I promise.

Take a power nap.

This was after a LONG week and even a longer weekend ahead, so this nap was so well deserved. If Corrine says we should take naps, then we should take naps. Side note: Are you watching the Bachelorette? Who do you think will win?

Compliment a stranger.

It’s incredible to see how taking the time to compliment someone can make their day, especially when they’re a stranger. Take the time to spread some love and kindness by complimenting that girl at work or someone at the bar.

Week Five Challenges: 

Two words: adult coloring.

Buy flowers and plants for your home and office.

 

What tasks did you enjoy the most from week four? Which tasks were the most difficult? Make sure to share your experiences in the comments below!

 

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Self-Care Challenge: Week 3

Posted in Health, Lifestyle
on July 21, 2017

Goodbye week three and hello week four. Make sure to go back to the self-care challenge week one and self-care challenge two if you haven’t read my review of those challenges yet. Then we can review the week three challenges, and then it’s time to move on to week four. How have you been enjoying the challenges so far? What has been your favorite week? What week has been the most difficult? Make sure to share all your thoughts in the comments below!

Week Three Challenges: 

Create a calming playlist and relax while you listen.

So I didn’t necessarily make a playlist but I did listen to a lot of soundscapes, which I didn’t realize how much I love listening to them. It’s very relaxing after a long day of work to enjoy. I even threw on a sheet mask while I listened to thunderstorms. What a better way to spend a weekend, amiright?

Do yoga or pilates for 30 minutes.

I am all about pilates, so I decided to try yoga for something different because it has been awhile since I’ve done a good 30 minutes of yoga. Let me tell you that it was so relaxing, and I’m wondering why I haven’t been doing this more frequently. Did I feel sore? Yes. But was it the BEST kind of sore? Absolutely!

Plan a night out with friends.

Sushi nights are the best nights. My favorite thing to do is to grab some sushi with my friends, and hangout with some wine and relax after a long day at work. It’s the little things in life that make it wonderful. Whether you’re relaxing at your house or going out for a girl’s night to the bar, make sure to spend quality time with friends.

Take a scenic drive.

I’m happy to live along the lake where I can enjoy beautiful views and a scenic drive along the water. I used to hate driving, but now I find it to be calming and relaxing when my favorite music is playing. I took a drive out along the lake and it happened to be a beautiful night with an even better sunset.

Organize your digital life.

My laptop was looking a little crazy after planning so much content for this month and for next month, so it was in desperate need of some organization. Let me tell you that my laptop is looking good after a few minutes of filing and sorting through my blog content.

Write 5 things you love about yourself.

1| My ambition.

2| My ability to dream no matter how big those dreams may be.

3| My compassion for others.

4| My ability to give love.

5| My strength.

Treat yourself to your favorite dessert.

What do you do when all desserts are your favorite? Oops. Just kidding. I plan on going on an ice cream date with Josh later today to treat myself to some ice cream, and I know I’ll have absolutely no regrets. Neither should you, so go #treatyoself today.

 

Week Four Challenges:

Watch your favorite movie.

Take a social media break.

Meditate for 10 minutes.

Try an online class or webinar.

Visit a chiropractor.

Take a power nap.

Compliment a stranger.

 

What tasks did you enjoy the most from week three? Which tasks were the most difficult? Make sure to share your experiences in the comments below!

 

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Self-Care Challenge: Week 2

Posted in Health, Lifestyle
on July 14, 2017

One week down and three more weeks of self care to go! If you’re tuning into this challenge for the first time, make sure you catch up on my previous posts so you can learn about why I decided to create this challenge for July and how it will benefit you to begin focusing on self care. Are you ready for this week’s challenges?

Declutter your closet.

I did a huge overall f my closet a year ago, but I still go through it rather frequently because when I realize I’m not wearing an item, I will donate or sell it. On this day, I got rid of three pairs of shoes, two wallets, and a handful of other items as well. It’s amazing how much you don’t wear. As I continue to declutter these areas in my home, I find myself feeling happier every time. Read: 10 Questions to Help you Declutter your Closet

Do a random act of kindness.

My coworkers and I put together a gift for an employee who has been having a hard time. We got her and her children day passes to a water park, so they could enjoy the day together. She cried because it made her so happy, so of course I cried because she was crying. At least they were all happy tears! It warmed my heart to be able to do this. Whether it’s paying for the person’s coffee behind you, or leaving a note in a local bathroom, kindness can do wonders.

Try a new hobby and practice it during the challenge.

Fun Fact: I want to play the ukulele and I’m going to practice consistently throughout the remainder of this challenge to see how much I can learn over the next few weeks. Wish me luck! What hobby will you try for the remainder of this challenge? Make sure to share in the comment below!

Call/ FaceTime a family member to catch up.

I FaceTimed my friend which I do once in awhile. But since I haven’t seen them in so long, it’s always wonderful to talk and catch up on our lives like we’re actually together instead of states apart having coffee over the phone.

Plan a staycation in your town for a weekend.

My friend is visiting me for the first time in PA, so I’m planning a staycation with her that will be filled with things we’ve both never done before like: visit local museums, tour the beaches, go kayaking on the lake, and try restaurants unique to the city, etc. It’s fun to explore your own city sometimes.

Turn off your phone for a night.

This happened to be a day where I was feeling like I needed a break from social media and my phone altogether. I really put some time and energy into self care by having a glass of wine, reading outside on the patio, and indulging in some adult coloring. It’s the little things, right?

Write 5 things you’re thankful for.

1| Josh

2| My Job

3| Friends and Family

4| My Health

5| Self-Care

Week Three Challenges:

Create a calming playlist and relax while you listen.

Do yoga or Pilates for 30 minutes.

Plan a night out with friends.

Take a scenic drive.

Organize your digital life.

Write 5 things you love about yourself.

Treat yourself to your favorite dessert.

What tasks did you enjoy the most from week two? Which tasks were the most difficult? Make sure to share your experiences in the comments below!

 

 

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Self-Care Challenge: Week 1

Posted in Health, Lifestyle
on July 7, 2017

Week One Challenges:

Take a 10 minute walk at work.

I’m thankful that I have an opportunity to walk quite a bit during the week at work because I think I would lose my mind if I sat at a desk non-stop for eight hours. However this was on a Saturday, so I wasn’t in the office this day, but I made sure to still get my walk in on this day outside.

Spend an hour reading your favorite book.

Sundays are for reading #amiright? I love being able to sit down with a good book and this day was no different. It was nice to be able to enjoy reading without rushing, etc. It was sincerely therapeutic. I’ve been loving Big Magic from Elizabeth Gilbert. P.S. What books have you read recently that you’ve been loving? Make sure to share in the comment below!

Treat yourself to coffee from a local cafe.

Coffee and Monday go together like peanut butter and jelly. Today I visited a cute coffee shop and treated myself to a latte, which is something I definitely don’t do enough. It’s the little things in life that make a Monday enjoyable (like incredible coffee in the cute cafe).

Cook your favorite meal.

I’ve been cooking up a storm recently. I’m all about making fresh, whole meals that I truly enjoy. I wanted to treat myself to a meal I love and prep extra for some leftovers for the week, too. I made a pasta dish that could definitely be served in a restaurant (jokes).

Make a DIY face mask and pamper yourself.

My skin needed some TLC. So I treated it to a simple face mask with honey, sugar and olive oil. It’s a three ingredient mask that helps with any redness and also helps with brightening your skin as well. Honey works wonders for curing redness, acne, and help making your skin look its best.

Go for a hike on a trail near your home.

Get outside and walk somewhere new near your home. Explore a new hiking trail or a park that you’ve never been to before. Spending time outside does wonders for your health and well being, so take the time to enjoy and explore.

Journal for 20 minutes.

I have all different journal, but today I plan to sit down and write down whatever comes to mind. Stream of consciousness journaling is therapeutic and beneficial, and I’m excited to try this for the first time as part of this challenge. Journaling always helps me feel stress-free almost immediately, so I’ll be taking time today to write.


Week 2 Challenges:

Declutter your closet.

Do a random act of kindness.

Try a new hobby and practice it during the challenge.

Call/ FaceTime a family member to catch up.

Plan a staycation in your town for a weekend.

Turn off your phone for a night.

Write 5 things you’re thankful for.

What tasks did you enjoy the most from week one? Which tasks were the most difficult? Make sure to share your experiences in the comments below!

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