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How To Stop Beating Yourself Down When Rejection Strikes

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on January 15, 2018

Hey there, friend! 

This topic has been on my heart a lot recently because I’ve witnessed it first-hand with friends, family, coworkers, and even with myself. I felt compelled to write a blog post about it because I’m hoping to help you if you find yourself struggling in the new year. So if you find yourself struggling with beating yourself down in the midst of rejection, keep reading for a little bit of bliss.

Let me tell you one thing us humans know how to do very well…

Beat. Ourselves. Down. Relentlessly. 

I’m sure you can relate to this regardless of the season of life you may find yourself in. You’re working on a huge project you’ve been putting all your time and energy into only to find out that your corporate doesn’t approve. You’ve been dreaming and working hard because this is something you’re incredibly passionate about pursuing, and everything comes crashing down once you hear that rejection. This, unfortunately, leads to a negative spiral of you questioning your worth, intelligence, and even your skills in your position. You’re left devastated and defeated.

Or, you’re a mom who is juggling work, family, taking care of kids, all while trying to stay afloat with every other commitment—and you find yourself beating yourself down on how you should sleep less, so that you have more time to spend with your family after working 40 hours each week. Guilt settles in, and eventually consumes your entire mind. Now, you’re left thinking your a bad employee, horrible mother and a less-than-perfect wife.

There are a million more examples I could list out, but the point is we have all been there whether it’s related to work, family, a passion project, and everything other situation in between. Even I have a difficult time accepting that I’ve restlessly torn myself apart with criticism and negative words, and it’s NOT  good place to be in. So, why do we allow ourselves to beat ourselves down whenever we face rejection?

Rejection is part of life. Not everything is going to go smoothly, and life is a long journey of peaks and valleys. But, when did it become normal to be so negative toward ourselves to the point where we question our self-worth simply because we are in the midst of rejection? When did it become acceptable to beat ourselves down to the point where we don’t even like who we are in that moment or situation?

I don’t know about you, but that’s not the way I want to live my life, and you shouldn’t want to live your life that way either. 2018 should be a year where we focus on self-care, self-love, and working on the best relationship with ourselves. It we truly aren’t happy with the relationship we have with ourselves, how we expect to have a good relationship with our friends and family? Once we invite more love and kindness when working on ourselves, the better we will be.

Here are some tips to NOT beat yourself down when facing rejection:

1| This too, shall pass

Remember that this moment of rejection will not last forever. It most likely will not matter in the next five years, or maybe it won’t even matter in the next five days. Although it can be difficult to move on when you feel like you messed up, it’s essential for your well being. Don’t let yourself linger in the negative feelings that follow rejection. Allow yourself to feel them for a certain amount of time, so then you can move on feeling good about yourself again. Better yet, USE the rejection as motivation to go back and learn from the rejection, so that you can conquer it next time you face that challenge.

Use your past to make you better, not bitter.

2| Let go of perfectionism

2018 is the year we should let go of perfectionism. Granted, this is ALWAYS easier said than done because perfectionism is a tough disease to fight through. But, not only will this help your mental health in the long run, but it will also help you focus on being kind and compassionate to yourself when you’re in the wake of rejection. Remember that no one is perfect, and you’re not an exception to this fact. The bad thing is that MANY of us struggle with this, so next time you see a loved one getting caught in the perfectionism trap, remind them that they are only human, they are doing the best they can; and they are more than enough.

3| Focus on self-love

Self-love is something we should be committed to working on in 2018 because without it, perfectionism takes over the mind like a wild fire. Then, you’re left soaking in the rejection while your relationship with yourself is deteriorating. Remember all the other times you faced rejection, and you thought that you weren’t going to make it through? Well, you made it. Not only that, you probably grew from the experience and it made you become even more wonderful than you already are.

So, believe in yourself and remember that despite everything you have been though, you are still standing. You are a force to be reckoned with. You will not let rejection destroy your self-esteem because you’re too good for that.

Related: 5 Reasons to Make Self-Love a Priority

The next time you face rejection, remember that it’s okay to feel upset or angry. But don’t let those emotions turn negatively onto yourself. Remember that every human will face rejection and mistakes because it is part of life. That doesn’t make you any less of a human being. If anything, the experiences should humble you being a reminder that YOU ARE human and it’s okay.

When is the last time you faced rejection? Do you find yourself struggling with perfectionism when it comes to your work? How do you handle rejection, or how can you better handle rejection next time it comes your way? I would love to her more about your experiences in the comment below!

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5 Things to be Happy About: January 2018

Posted in Lifestyle
on January 1, 2018

Cheers to 2018, friends! I hope you all had an amazing holiday season.

The last few weeks have been a complete whirlwind, and I don’t know how it’s already a full week into the new year. I always kick-off a new year with a ton of energy and motivation even though I’m also recovering from the holidays. So, I’m sharing five things that I’m looking forward to for the rest of the month.

1| Clean Slate

January is an underrated month because I love a fresh start at the beginning of a new year. You can move past any of the negative times from the previous year, and focus all your time and energy on the new year ahead. There’s something refreshing about the post-holiday season in my opinion. Are you excited about a clean slate for the new year? Or, are you still riding the high from 2017?

2| Saving Money

Y’all, the holidays are expensive. January is not only a time where I personally recuperate, but my wallet also takes some time to recuperate. This is when I’ll plan a spending freeze, and cut out some unnecessary purchases for the month to get me back in a better space financially for the new year. I’m looking to cut back my spending for the next few months to meet my savings goal for 2018.

3| Motivation to the Max

Am I the only person who feels so motivated and ready to get to work in the new year? Maybe it’s because my goals are new and exciting. I feel like I plan the most content for the blog in January and feel very creative after the holiday season. It’s a time where I use my motivation to my advantage because I know there will be times where a blogging rut will hit.

4| Relax + Hygge

I’m sure thinking…how are you motivated, but also taking time to relax? I’m always motivated in January, so I have more time to relax and practice hygge at the end of a productive day. Hygge is something that I picked up on last year, and it has made winter much more enjoyable. Not too sure where to begin with self-care and time to relax? Try a self-care challenge for some inspiration. My favorite way to unwind after a long day is to go for a walk, or to watch YouTube while cleaning and cooking.

5| Healthy Habits

Along with motivation, I’m all about positive and healthy habits Over the last few years, I’ve found that January is when I ride strong with healthy living. I get enough sleep, drink tons of water, eat well, exercise regularly, and take care of my mental health consistently. Now, I need to continue those habits into the over 11 months of the year, too.

So tell me, what are you looking forward to this month (and this YEAR for that matter)!? I would love to hear what you’re excited about and what has you motivated and working hard. Make sure to share in the comments below!

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Holiday Home Decor 2017!

Posted in Lifestyle
on December 20, 2017

Merry (almost) Christmas, friends! Is anyone else in denial that Christmas is a few days away?

Or is that just me?

I hope you are all having a wonderful week! Today I’m sharing some photos of my decorated home for the holidays. If you missed it, we purchased our first home a few months back, and we officially moved in at the end of October, so it’s our first Christmas celebrating in our house! Speaking of celebrating Christmas…I get a little more sad toward the end of the holidays because I’m never ready for the season to end. I want these days to drag on a little longer, so I can have extra time to enjoy the festivities. So, I hope you all have a long weekend filled with love, family, food and everything else wonderful in life.

P.S. make sure to share links if your shared your holiday decor in your home. I love seeing how other people decorate, especially for the holidays!

 

How would you describe your decorating style? I definitely have a traditional look in my home for the holidays.

I hope you all enjoyed taking a quick look in my new home to see how I’ve decorated for the holidays! Make sure to share links to your blog posts of your holiday decor for 2017. 

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2017 Review (Goals + Vision Board)

Posted in Lifestyle
on December 18, 2017

HOW ARE WE SO CLOSE TO 2018!?

Is anyone else in denial, or, is it just me?

2017 was arguably the best year YET. And yes, I knew 2016 was going to be hard to top after getting my Master’s at 21, landing my dream job, and moving in with Josh. Somehow, I managed to top those huge milestones by getting engaged, buying a house, and other exciting news I haven’t shared with you all yet.

Today, I want to reflect on my goals for 2017, so I can begin planning my goals for the new year. A few of these goals I’ve already began working on in December, and I’m excited to see what’s in store for the 2018.

Related: Why you should begin your resolutions in December

Here’s a look at my goals from 2017:

 

Personal Goals:

1| Read 8-10 books throughout 2017

I’m happy to say I read more than planned for 2017, and I’m extremely happy about reaching this goal! I knew this would be a busy year for me, so I wasn’t sure how this goal would play out, but I ended up reading 12 books this year.

2| Plan 2-3 trips for 2017

We had two trips in 2017: Boston, and Canada. It was our first time visiting Boston, and we had an amazing time. The other trip was a day trip to Niagara Falls, and Niagara on the Lake, which were both so fun! I wanted to plan more trips, but with wedding planning, work, and moving in a home—it was best to skip the trips for the remainder of the year.

3| Achieve my career goals for 2017

I was able to cross this off my list after six months, which was surprising to me because I gave myself a LONG list of goals to achieve at work. Needless to say, I only plan to accomplish more in 2018.

4| Focus on my vision board

If you haven’t read my vision board for the next three years, you’ll see that I gave myself some pretty big things to cross off my list. In only two months, I managed to knock off getting engaged, buying a house, and another milestone I haven’t shared yet with you!

 

Blogging Goals:

1| Focus on my blog direction

I couldn’t be happier with deciding to change the direction of my blog in 2017. After a year, I’ve created more minimalism and intentional living posts, which brings me so much joy. I hope to continue this in 2018 while adding back in some health content, wellness, etc., that I’ve written over the years as well.

2| Increase blog social media engagement by 20 percent

I knocked this one out of the park, which really shows how low my social media engagement was at the end of 2016 and beginning of 2017. After consistently posting and engaging with others, I’ve seen a huge increase in my overall engagement.

3| Take more risks

This is something I want to work on more in 2018 because I was able to collaborate with bloggers in 2017, but I didn’t do as many as I would have liked. I also took risks with the type of content I shared that was more personal and difficult to write, which I consider to be just as significant’

 

Financial Goals:

1| Put an extra $8-10,000 into savings

I achieved this goal with ease just after summer. The main reason for wanting to put so much into savings was to continue saving for a home. Since finding our dream home, this money was put to it’s proper use! Now, I’m going on a huge spending freeze at the beginning of the year to get ahead in saving for 2018.

2| Track my spending regularly

I don’t know why I find it so difficult to track my spending regularly. It’s something I’m not used to doing, so I hope to make this a solid habit in 2018.

 

Health Goals:

1| Increase my weekly running distance

During running season, Josh and I did great with reaching out goal, but it’s also hard to say because we haven’t been running for the last few months with the weather, and moving into our home. I plan to rethink this goal for 2018 and how I can better track it throughout the year.

2| Don’t focus on numbers

Yes. And I couldn’t be happier with not focusing on numbers anymore.

3| Focus on workouts I enjoy

There’s nothing better than doing workouts you love, and that’s what I began doing in 2017. Now, I look forward to Pilates after work, or a total body workout that only take 30 minutes. I can’t recommend this enough!

Next week, I’ll be sharing my 2018 goals with you, but I want to hear how you did with your goals for 2017? What are you most proud of? What’s something you NEVER thought you’d do, but you DID this year? Make sure to share everything in the comments below!

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4 Ways to Bring Bliss During the Holidays

Posted in Lifestyle
on December 11, 2017

During a time of craziness, parties, shopping for gifts, spending time with family and friends, and a million reasons to feel thankful; it’s important to remember that not everyone associates happiness during the holiday season. For some, the holidays can be a very difficult time, and can bring a lot of sadness. So today I’m sharing five ways to bring bliss to other people during the holidays wether they are a close friend, or a complete stranger.

1| Pay it forward

Pay for the person’s coffee behind you in line at Starbucks. Put a coin in a meter that’s about to expire. Offer to shovel your elderly neighbor’s driveway, or pick up groceries for them. We all know money is tight during this time of year, but you don’t always have to give a large amount of money to pay it forward. No one ever become poor by giving. Always remember there is a way to pay it forward to someone in your life whether they’re a coworker or a stranger.

2| Give your time

Read to children who are in the hospital during the holiday season. Visit with the elderly at a local nursing home to volunteer and play games with them. Bag food at a food bank or serve meals at a homeless shelter. Walk puppies at a local shelter. There are a million ways to donate and volunteer your time during the holidays. Find something that you’re passionate about, and give your time during the holidays.

3| Donate

Donate to your favorite charity. Buy cards to send to soldiers who are away from home, send cards to older men and women in nursing homes who may never have family come in, buy toys to give to Toys for Tots, or adopt a family during the holidays. It can be difficult to donate your time during this busy time of year, but if you can spar $15-$50 to give back in some way—do it. I promise you won’t regret it.

4| Random acts of kindness

Declutter your closet, and donate old clothes you no longer need. Donate books to local hospitals or schools that could use them. Leave money in a vending machine for the next person who needs a drink. Compliment a stranger. Run an errand for a family member. Babysit your friend’s child, so they can enjoy a night out. Bake something for your office to share. Give up your seat for someone else on the bus. You’d be surprised how much these small gestures can make someone’s day. There’s always a way to give and spread a little kindness.

What are some other ways you can bring a little bliss to someone else this holiday season? Make sure to share your ideas in the comments below!

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