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How to Create a Life you DON’T Need a Vacation From

Posted in Lifestyle
on October 30, 2017

I’m creating a life I don’t need a vacation from.

Yes, that’s right. You can create a life you don’t need a vacation from even if you’re an avid travel-lover like myself. I love to travel, but I don’t want such a stressful life that I’m always itching for a vacation and for time away from my life.

If something isn’t working for you, change it.

If your job only causes stress and not joy, leave.

If you’re not happy with where you live, move.

If you want to pursue your dream, go for it.

So what can you do about it?

We have the power to change ANYTHING we don’t like in our lives. Remember that next time you’re feeling stuck, confused and lost. You can change your address, your place of work, or anything else you don’t love about your life.

We also feel the itch for vacations because of burn out. Burn out is real in any line of work when we overwork ourselves without enough time to rest. Make sure you’re getting enough sleep, taking time away from emails and phone calls when you’re off the clock, and put your health first. If you’re not giving yourself time to unwind every day or week, then you’re going to deteriorate mentally, physically and emotionally. AKA feel stressed all the time and need to “get away from everything.” Instead, do something for yourself every few days like a workout you love, or read a new book, or spend time with friends.

Before I get comments about how everyone decided to change their life, and they STILL aren’t happy—let me remind you of one very important thing. The goal to creating a life you don’t need a vacation from is consistently feeling blissful with the everyday aspects of your life. If you don’t enjoy getting up, going to work, and coming home to your family then you’re probably not going to be happy. If you’re only happy when a big life change happens like starting a new job, moving to a new state, buying a new home, or taking a lavish vacation, you’re probably not going to be happy in general.

You need to be happy with even the most average days of your life in order to create a life you don’t need a vacation from. 

The truth is, you’re not going to have life-changing events happen every day. Instead, find bliss in Sunday breakfast with your spouse, fresh flowers, a good book, or a fun night in with your friends. Those are the moments that you should look forward to. Those are the moments that make life wonderful, and encourage you to not plan a vacation you don’t need. You can also plan mini-staycations at home when you take a Saturday to do absolutely nothing. Say no to plans you may have committed to because at the end of the day, you need to put yourself and your health first.

So, how will you create a life you don’t need a vacation from? What will you change in your life in order to live more blissfully? Make sure to share in the comments below!

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5 Things to be Happy About: October

Posted in Lifestyle
on September 27, 2017

Goodbye September + Hello October

I think I say this way more than I should, but I love fall. I love the season so much that I wish it could last a little longer, so we have more time to enjoy it before the holidays roll around. September was another month filled with work, blogging, wedding planning and other fun things. And I’m ready for a new month, with a new gratitude post on what I’m looking forward to.

1| Popcorn + Movies

Doesn’t October put anyone in a movie marathon mood? Whenever this month rolls around, I’m pumped about watching the Halloweentown movies on repeat throughout the month because they are essential during fall. P.S. What’s your favorite Halloween movie? Even on Halloween, Josh and I relax at home and watch movies. (And eat something delicious, duh.) It’s a cozy way to enjoy time together.

2| Fall Bucket List

I think it’s horrible to say I’ve lived in the Northeastern United States, and I’ve never been apple picking. I’ve done a lot of other stereotypical fall things like mastering a corn maze, carving pumpkins, movie marathons, baking and cooking all the fall recipes saved to my Pinterest board, etc. But your girl needs to: go to a football game + tailgate, have a bonfire, go apple picking, and made a homemade apple pie. What are your favorite things to do in the fall? Do you do a fall bucket list each season?

3| Wedding Dress Shopping

I’m surprised to say Josh and I have checked off a lot on our wedding to-do list, which will be wonderful to not worry about planning anything during the holidays. This month, I have two appointments booked to go look at wedding dresses for the first time; and I couldn’t be more excited. Although it’s just under a year away, it’ll be nice to have most of the wedding planning done early, so we can enjoy being engaged and celebrate time together.

4| Fall Drinks

There are so many awesome cocktails and hot drinks you can enjoy during this season, and TBH I want to host parties all-month long so I can have an excuse to make all these delicious drinks. I personally want to try the apple pie cocktail or this sangria that I would have pitches of! Do you have any other drink recipes you want to share—leave a comment letting me know, so I can make more drinks this month.

5| Decluttering + Packing

There will be a post on this coming in the next few weeks giving you all the details.; but let’s just say I’ve been taking my decluttering skills to the next level, and I’m extremely happy about how this experience has helped me see what I truly need and don’t need. Minimalism is refreshing when it comes to realizing how much we own in comparison to what we actually use.

What are you happy about now that it’s October? Are you ready for decorating pumpkins, cider donuts, and all the fall things? Make sure to leave a comment below telling me what you’re excited about this month! 

 

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5 Things to be Happy About: September

Posted in Lifestyle
on September 4, 2017

Is it fall yet?

Kidding. Well sort of. I would be lying if I said I wasn’t excited for the change in season. It’s something I look forward to every single year when summer comes to an end. Let me know what you’re looking forward to now that it’s September because I can tell you that I have a lot to be happy about

1| Goals on Goals

I have a lot of goals to finish out the remainder of the third quarter, and I’m determined to get things done. I’ve been able to get rid of more things from my closet, which I didn’t know was possible. And I’m learning more about appreciating the simple things that make life enjoyable. My goals may not necessarily be the standard or conventional goals I’ve shared, but I am excited to accomplish these goals this month.

2| Passion Projects

I’m finally working on some passion projects that have been manifesting in my mind and in my dreams for years. Although I can’t quite share these yet (stay tuned!) I am excited to dive in on projects that I love and truly enjoy. One of the amazing things about minimalism is that it allows me more time in my day to focus on what I’m passionate about. I cannot wait to share this passion with you all soon.

3| A Change in Season

Fall isn’t here, but it will be soon. I know there are so many bloggers out there who love fall, and you all know I’m right there with you. I think I feel more productive during this change in the year because I’m still in that back-to-school mindset even though I’m no loner a student. My productivity naturally spikes back in September.

4| My Vision Board Coming to Life

Did you happen to see what’s on my vision board for the next three years? Well, let’s just say that several of those things on my vision board will be happening within three months of me sharing my goals with you. Yes, really. I am incredibly thankful for all the blessings in my life, and being able to reach these goals was not planned for 2017. But I am a big believer in what’s meant to be, will be.

5| Slow Living

Life moves so quickly. And it’s very easy to get lost in the busyness of our day-to-day lives. This month, I plan to focus on the art of slow living. With a busy season at work ahead, I’m determined to focus on work-life balance and living more slowly. I’ll have more on this topic coming on the blog later this month, however if you have any posts or videos you love on this topic—please leave a link below!

What are you looking forward to this month? Make sure to share in the comments below!

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Why You NEED to do Things That Scare You

Posted in Lifestyle
on August 16, 2017

I did something that scared me the other day.

I’m sitting in my room and shaking a little more than I should as I’m trying to give myself a pep talk. “Kiara, the video will only last for 24 hours. It’s NOT  a big deal,” I kept trying to  convince myself. But it WAS a big deal and it truly felt like a big deal in the moment. When you have anxiety, your mind can play a lot of tricks on you and make you believe things that aren’t true. Your mind is clouded with negative thoughts and it prevents you from stepping outside of your comfort zone.

But I didn’t want my mind to control the things I want to do, so I made several videos on Instagram Stories, and I was proud of myself.

I’m sure you’re thinking, “Kiara, you’re a blogger and you LOVE talking. How could you be afraid to make a video?”

Well, it had nothing to do with making the video at all or talking because you’re right…I could talk for hours about anything and everything. (Just ask ANYONE who knows me.) The truth is, I let fear hold me back from doing something I wanted to do. I realized that I didn’t want to live that way anymore. So, I took a deep breath and began recording and posting. The sky didn’t fall and there were no horrible comments made. It was refreshing. I did something despite feeling afraid.

Why you NEED to do things that scare you:

1| You may discover a new passion 

If you read the last post in my vision board series, I share a HUGE goal I hope to achieve in the next three years. For me, that’s sharing more video content and beginning a YouTube channel. TBH I’ve always been passionate about creating videos, but I’ve been TERRIFIED to even make one because I feared the negativity from it. But I’ve learned that you will never know if you don’t try. Making the Instagram Stories videos solidified that I want to make more videos whether it’s on Instagram, for my blog, or for YouTube.

2| You gain confidence

I can’t tell how good it felt to do something I was afraid to do. To put it simply, you gain confidence when you do things that scare you. At one point in time, you thought you couldn’t do something—and then you prove yourself wrong! Let’s just say it’s such a wonderful feeling, and it’s worth the few seconds of fear you may have in the beginning.

3| You grow & gain a new perspective

Think about how much fear actually controls us. It’s the reason we don’t do SO MANY THINGS in life. You’re afraid of skydiving because you’re afraid of heights, but the second you begin falling—those fears go away. The highest point of fear is the second before you jump from the plane. Think of all the things you can learn and experience from removing fear from your life. By removing fear, you will naturally grow as a person and gain new perspectives.

4| You feel BLISSFUL

Point blank, PERIOD. You feel unbelievably blissful when you overcome a fear regardless of what that fear is. If you’re afraid to begin writing a book, start doing it anyway! The more you practice and work at that passion, the more you can feel confident (see point 1) and eventually publish that book despite the fear. Once you get over that initial feeling of fear, you can do anything and everything you want to do.

And that is the most blissful thing about doing something that scares you.

What is something YOU’RE afraid of but you WANT to do anyway? What fear have you conquered recently? Make sure to share your stories and thoughts in the comments below!

 

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How I Really Feel About Being Engaged & How He Proposed

Posted in Lifestyle
on August 9, 2017

If you aren’t following me on social media, you might not know that I got engaged in July. Of course, I’m going to share all the details on how he proposed, but I also plan to share my REAL THOUGHTS on being engaged. I would also LOVE to hear your engagement stories in the comments below, so make sure to tell me all those love stories because I am a sucker for love and romance.

How he proposed:

It was Saturday, July 15th—four years to the day that Josh and I had first “met.” I use that term loosely because we met while working for our university as Orientation Leaders in July, 2013. We got to know each other well because the team was a small group of 15 people, so there were many long nights of talking with everyone and hanging out as college students.

Fast forward four years later, and we found ourselves back at university for a day trip. Orientation sessions were going on since it was July, so everything felt extremely sentimental to us and our relationship. As avid planners, Josh and I had talked about this as early as fall of last year because I had not been back to school since I graduated in 2015, so it was long overdue for a visit. Nothing seemed strange about the plan, but Josh knew all along that’s where he would propose.

We got in the car and drove off for the short hour and a half car ride. We jammed out to Bruno Mars (P.S. Can’t WAIT to see him in concert on the 15th!) and drove to our favorite restaurant for a late breakfast. Our meal couldn’t have been more perfect and delicious.

We stopped over to visit one of Josh’s roommates from college who works for the university. We caught up on life and talked for an hour before he had to go to work. Then Josh and I headed to campus to walk the trail along the river, and visit some of the buildings that had been remolded since I graduated.

After walking for awhile, we visited our favorite spot on campus. When we had first met and throughout our first year of dating, we spent a lot of time on this hill that overlooked the mountains on campus. It’s without a doubt, the most beautiful view at school. Josh told me he had to grab something from the car, and from the trunk he pulls out a cooler, which I thought was perfect since I really needed water.

I find a plastic bag in the cooler and in it is a picnic with two PB&J sandwiches and Reese’s peanut butter cups. And I’m pumped thinking, “Awe, he knows me so well. He brought more food.”

But, boy, can that man plan a surprise. 

He says, “So, I thought this was special because on our first date you packed my favorite food and took me on picnic to one of your favorite places in Buffalo to begin our relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend. So, I thought we could have the same picnic with the same foods at our favorite place on campus to end our relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend.” He goes on to telling me some wonderful, amazing things about us and our relationship before officially asking to marry me. We cried and hugged each other before I even thought about putting the ring on. It was the most beautifully romantic moment of my life.

I had NO IDEA it was coming, and you can clearly see that from the photos as I was sobbing my eyes out from his proposal. It was so personal and significant to our relationship. Then I see Josh wave to someone, and out comes his friend we met with earlier holding a camera. He got photos of the proposal, which also meant the entire world to me, and it still makes me cry to think about Josh planning this with his friends.

After calling our family and close friends, we got changed and we were able to get some photos that day of our engagement.

The next day, My parents came down to Pennsylvania to visit with Josh’s parents, and we celebrated with champagne, dinner and dessert. The weekend was simply magical, and I couldn’t ask for a better way to begin my engagement with the love of my life.


So, now we can get on to the details on how I REALLY feel about being engaged.

1| I’m excited to begin this new chapter

I love my fiancé, and I can’t wait to begin this journey of planning our wedding together because HELLO, we are both disturbingly organized. Planning and organizing makes us happy, so of course wedding planning will be so much fun for both of us.

2| I’m nervous because TBH a lot of people judge YOUR wedding

It has only been a month, so I don’t even have a full wedding planned yet. I don’t even have much of the wedding planned altogether. But, people have made so many comments about why I should never choose *that* venue or why my colors should definitely be *mint green and coral.* Everyone is so quick to throw shade at the plans for your big day and that’s wrong. Don’t ever judge what someone wants to do for their day because it’s personal to the bride and groom…not you.

3| I can’t get over the love we received on our engagement 

That weekend alone, I had calls, texts, Instagram messages telling me how thrilled and excited people were for our engagement—you name it, I had it. The amount of love Josh and I received that weekend was insurmountable to anything I’ve felt from family and friends. It was beautiful, and it reminded me how truly blessed I am to have the family and friends I have in my life.

4| Everyone randomly tells you about THEIR wedding…

And your girl is NOT here for it because to be honest, it’s a little awkward. Several people had asked me something related to my wedding, and not even 10 seconds into me answering their question is when they would tell me something about their wedding more than 10 years ago. “Well, back in the day, we didn’t have wedding websites, so why would you have one now?” Or, they will make snide comments about your decisions for your wedding (see number 2) and then proceed to tell you why you should do what THEY did for THEIR wedding. It’s weird and rude, especially when it comes off condescending. Please don’t look down on someone for whatever their wedding decisions are, and don’t try to convince them to change their mind by telling them what you did for your wedding.


So tell me, how did your husband/fiancé propose? Do you have any tips or blog posts related to wedding planning that you can share? Please send me links in the comments below!

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