22 Things I Learned By 22

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Today is my 22nd birthday. Over the last year, I feel like I’ve learned so much about myself, what I am passionate about, and what I see in my future. Your early 20s are special because you’re developing more every single day. This year especially, I learned so many things in life. And I am glad I learned this advice at a young age.

In honor of my birthday, I thought I would share 22 little lessons I’ve learned by age 22. I am still working on some of these things in my personal life, but I feel that we are all constantly a “work in progress.” So, here’s some life wisdom I want to share with you.

1.Things will work out the way they’re supposed to.

2. Never strive to be someone else. Instead, become a better version of yourself.

3. You need to take care of yourself before you can help anyone else.

4. Dwelling on the past will not help you presently.

5. There’s always room for improvement.

6. Accept yourself and love yourself.

7. Make your health a priority.

8. If you don’t like something, change it.

9. If someone wants you in your life, they will make an effort to have you in their life.

10. If it’s important to you, you’ll find a way. If it’s not, you’ll find an excuse.

11. Your passions aren’t silly. They are your calling.

12. Friends should never make you feel bad.

13. Learning is something you should never take for granted.

14. If you can’t get a miracle, be a miracle for someone else.

15. Don’t go to bed with makeup on. Don’t go to bed mad at someone.

16. When in doubt, make a list.

17. Always look at the big picture. Whatever is bothering you won’t matter in five years.

18. Don’t feel pressured to be perfect. Being your genuine self is perfect enough.

19. Breathe. This too, shall pass. Take life one day at a time.

20. You can’t plan for everything in life, and that’s perfectly okay.

21. Being present is so special. Practice it daily.

22. Give yourself a break. You’re doing the best you can.

I feel like this last year has taught me so much about the type of person I am, and the type of person I want to be. These lessons and pieces of advice have allowed me to grow as a person, and I hope you can learn something from this list as well!

What life lesson or piece of advice can you add to the list? Make sure to leave a comment below!

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Life Lately: Job, Moving to PA + My First Place!

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The last three weeks have been a little crazy for me. I’m less than a month away from finishing my Master’s degree and celebrating my 22nd birthday, which is insane to think about. However, as you can tell from the title, there is more exciting news of what’s happening in my life.

First (Real) Job:

If you would have told me that I would have a secured job before graduation, I would have laughed because I know many graduates who interview for months before they land their first job.

What’s crazy about this job is that it all fell into place in the matter of two weeks. In two weeks, I sent in my resume, went through two interviews, received an offer and accepted to complete the process. I am a big believer that everything happens for a reason, so it’s no doubt that this was meant to be.

I’m incredibly blessed to have found an amazing job in my field. I will be a Marketing Director for a mall in Pennsylvania, which brings me to my next piece of exciting news.

New State:

Yes, I will be moving out of my home state of New York and move down to Pennsylvania. For those who don’t know, Josh is originally from Pa., and he has had a great job there that he loves. We thought it would be best for me to try and find a job there instead of us both searching for a job in New York. Thankfully, he has family there, and my family won’t be too far away either in case we need anything.

First Place:

Josh and I found a beautiful place, within 10 minutes of both of our offices, and has perfect location to everything we need. Of course, the price was also right for us. What’s crazy about the townhouse is that the process went smooth as well. It just felt like all of this was meant to work out this way, and I couldn’t feel more blessed about the entire situation.

So, what now?

I’m nervous to begin this new chapter of my life because it’s my first real job out of college, and I’ll be in a new place that I’ll call home. But I’m equally excited because I truly feel like the job is a great fit for me and my skills, and I couldn’t be happier about where we will be living.

However, there will be some weeks in April where I post less content here on my blog. Between finishing my degree and moving, there will be a lot going on for the upcoming month. I will be sure to at least post once a week to keep you guys updated on anything beauty, fashion, or life related.

I want to thank you all in advanced for being patient while I’m ending one chapter of my life and beginning a new one. I’m couldn’t ask for a better blogging community to be part of, and I can’t wait to begin this new journey of my life.

What has been going on in your life lately? Do you have any tips for me about my first job, first place or moving out of state? Please send links to your blog posts or leave your tips in the comments below!

 

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Why I Take Social Media Breaks (& Why You Should, Too!)

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Being part of the blogging world is extremely exhausting. There’s always a pressure to build your brand, engage in conversations with others in your niche, etc. The list of what a blogger does on a daily basis in never-ending.

It wasn’t until December that I took a real break from social media. It lasted about a week, and it was the best week of my life.

I didn’t feel pressured to take pictures simply to post them to Instagram. I didn’t feel pressured to construct witty tweets that would get favorites and retweets. There was no pressure at all.

After that week, I vowed to take more social media breaks regularly. At first, I felt self-conscious and nervous about not posting several times a day between all of my social media accounts. “Will people unfollow me?” I thought to myself. An entire weekend passed without a single update on Instagram, Twitter or Facebook—and I felt good.

Now, I find myself less concerned about creating content for social media, and more about posting for my blog, or when I feel inspired to post the content. Of course I want to stay up-to-date on social media to read what other bloggers have posted, read world news, etc.—but I don’t want it to be the first thing I think about when I wake up, or be the activity I do before bed. It has become so normal to be on our phones, that we forgot how to enjoy a meal without taking a picture of it before we eat.

So, after taking several, mini breaks from social media, I have noticed a huge decrease in my level of anxiety, and a decrease in the pressure to have an “Instagram-worthy” life. Let’s be honest, I’m not a person who could (or should) post a photo of my outfit each day because a lot of them would be me in a pair of sweatpants. But, that’s okay!

I think there has become this push for everyone to have adventures, take risks, try weird and cool things simply to post about it online. If you want to take a vacation, try a new cafe—don’t do it because you want to impress your Instagram and Twitter followers. Do it because it’s something you want to do, and enjoy those moments for yourself. Yes, it is possible to take a photo of something and not post about it on social media. It’s all about balance.

If you have never considered taking a break from social media, I would highly recommend it. Instead of reaching for your phone to scroll through your feeds, carry a book or magazine on you and read. Or, take time to enjoy the silence. You’ll be amazed at what a break from social media can do for you.

Have you ever taken a break from social media? If not, why don’t you? Make sure to share your thoughts in the comments below!

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The One Resolution I Won’t Give Up On

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Now that we are a few months into 2016, I decided it would be a good beginning point to check my progress on my goals for the year. When I looked at my list, I knew there was one goal in particular I would be the most happy about—being more spontaneous.

If I could give a short synopsis about myself it would be: “A girl who plays by the rules, has her planner filled in two weeks in advanced, and prepares for anything to go wrong.”

Yeah, I’m pretty boring.

I’m a planner. I’m a hyper-organized person. The thought of not having my closet color-coded gives me hives. As you can imagine, being spontaneous isn’t my forte.

This was my number goal for 2015 and I failed miserably with it. But this year, I knew I wanted to give this resolution a do-over. So, three months into 2016 I can safely say that I’ve (slowly) taken some steps to become the spontaneous, adventure-seeker I want to be.

Two months ago, I decided to book a plane ticket to Austin to stay with my friend for four days after graduation. No planning, no searching and scouring places in advanced to plan out my trip. Nothing. I said, “I’m leaving the trip in your hands. Just tell me what we’re doing.”

Yeah, I felt pretty cool.

Then, a few days ago, my friend from the Saratoga/Albany area said her spring break is this week—and that I should come down for a few days since I’ve never been there before.

“Sounds great! I’ll be there Friday to Sunday—just let me know what we’re doing.”

I literally had an adrenaline rush from feeling so spontaneous and not turning these amazing offers down.

If this would have happened last year, I would have made up some excuse about work and school and other commitments, and turn my friends down. The idea of driving over four hours by myself on a mini road trip is overwhelming.

Of course, I know there’s still a lot more to work on with being more spontaneous, but I feel like this is amazing progress coming from a girl who isn’t about last-minute decisions and who always needs to have a written, set-in-stone plan. For me, this is a big deal, and I’m really proud of myself for going through with this resolution.

Being spontaneous isn’t about wild, irrational decisions that could potentially harm me. It’s about feeling confident enough to not have a plan, and still roll with it. Let’s be honest, you can’t always have a plan that will go perfectly, so I feel that my resolution to become more spontaneous will help me down the road when life takes unexpected twists.

I hope this posts inspires you to check back on your goals for 2016 and see how you’re doing so far. What’s one goal you truly don’t want to give up on this year? And how are you going to make sure you accomplish it? Make sure to share your thoughts below!

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When To End A Friendship

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As an Aries, I truly value friendships. I am the type of person who would rather have five incredible friends who I trust with my whole heart rather than a group of 15 friends who aren’t always there for me. I’ve always been that way. I am mindful of the people who I consider friends or best friends.

Over the last two years, I ended some friendships over very different circumstances. One friend was toxic, another friend wasn’t really a friend at all. I’ve had different experiences with ending friendships, and it turns out that my life was better without them. So, I want to share some information on when you should end a friendship.

If you have a friend that possesses one or more of these traits , you might want to reevaluate your relationship with that person, and consider ending your friendship. Here’s what you should look out for.

The one-sided friendship:

This friendship is draining because you’re always the one to make plans, you’re always calling her to check in and see how everything is going. Essentially, you’re the ringleader to ensure that the friendships stays alive. Unfortunately, if someone wants you in their life, they’re going to make an effort to have you in their life. If they don’t make the effort, they don’t care. It’s as simple as that. If your friendship is all weighted on your end, you might want to considering ending this friendship.

The one who lies:

Nothing bothers me more than a person who lies. I would rather have someone “hurt my feelings” by being honest rather than do something behind my back. The only reason a friend should be lying to you is because she’s part of a huge surprise for your birthday/wedding/visit etc. If she lies outside of those reasons, you should definitely end that friendship.

The one who is toxic:

“Letting toxic people go isn’t an act of cruelty, it’s an act of self-care.” I’ve sadly had to end friendships simply because their toxic actions became an overwhelming part of my life. I would be worried about being there for them that I wasn’t there for myself. That is not a healthy friend to have in your life. You should never feel guilty for wanting to end a friendship with someone who is toxic. It proves that you’re looking out for yourself and your well-being.

The one who causes problems:

If a friend causes problems, you might want to consider ending your friendship. There is one girl out there looking for trouble. She likes to stir the pot. She always looking to cause drama between other friends, talk about her friends behind their backs, lie, etc. Essentially, this is someone who you should never call a friend to begin with because they don’t know how to be a friend.

The one who only cares about herself:

You drop everything you’re doing to go pick her up at a guy’s house where she spent the night last night. You drive her downtown to get her car from a night of drinking. You plan a special birthday for her…but she forgets your birthday. She calls you whenever she needs something, but that’s the extent of it; and she doesn’t do anything for you in return. Please do yourself a favor and end your friendship with this person. You deserve to have friends in your life who are there for you.

I hope this post helped anyone who might be deciding whether of not they should end a friendship. Although ending a friendship can be difficult or complicated, it’s best to remove these people from your life. You deserve to have friends that lift you up, are there for you when you need them, and are positive influences in your life.

Have you ever ended a friendship? How did you know when to end it? What tips can you offer to others? Make sure to share in the comments!

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