3 Reminders for Embracing Life’s Valleys

Life has peaks and valleys. There are times where we feel so high and on top of the world that we don’t ever want that feeling to stop, and there are times where life can have us feeling low and lost. There are many ways valleys can enter our lives that we have all experienced: rejection from a college, rejection from a promotion or job, or other unexpected changes that might interfere with previous plans (moving, changing jobs, beginning a relationship, etc.)

Some people see valleys as “bumps in the road” or a setback. While this is true, I think it negatively illustrates the value of valleys. I used to think a valley was the universe laughing at me struggling. Now, I view them more positively.

Yes, you may have gotten fired from your job; but you can use it as an opportunity to find a better job. Maybe one that pays more, or that offers more flexible hours, or where you can work from home. It’s still an opportunity.

You’ve plateaued after working hard for months on end to achieve your health and fitness goals. So what? Give yourself a week to relax and rest your body so it can work even harder. It’ll give you more motivation so you can get stronger. It’s an opportunity.

A few years ago, I experienced a “valley” when I applied to work at a local hospital. It was an opportunity I was excited about and had planned my entire summer around getting this job. Over a month past my “start date,” nothing progressed as far as paperwork or my medical clearance. Working at the hospital was my only plan for summer, and then I realized it wasn’t going to work out. I reached a valley I had no intention of being in.

Then I went through endless applications. I thought to myself, “I could go back to my old job.” But I didn’t enjoy my last job after four years. I decided to use this as a opportunity to find a job I loved. And I found it, and it paid far more than I intended. During the interview, they wanted to promote me to a higher paying position before I even began. It was a golden opportunity, and I said yes.

Fast forward a year later, and that same job lead me to my first, full-time marketing position that I’m currently working and loving today. I often think what would have happened if I ended up working at the hospital. Would I still be in a LDR with Josh? Would I have finished my Master’s? Who knows, but it’s incredible to think that begin rejected from something lead me to exactly where I needed to be. Every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being redirected to something better.

So how can YOU embrace your next valley?

1| Remember it’s temporary

If you’re going through a valley in your life, remember that your valley isn’t permanent. It won’t last forever. It’s a small stop along your journey, so treat it as such. Oftentimes, we get caught up with the negative moments in our lives that we don’t think about the positive things that could come from that experience.

2| There’s a bigger plan

You were rejected from your dream job that you’re more than qualified for. That’s horrible, and you’re probably feeling pretty sad about it, too. Take the time to go through the motions that come with rejection. But don’t let it keep you down. Remember that there’s a reason you weren’t hired for that job. You will be lead to the job you’re meant to work.

3| Opportunities are everywhere

Even in the midst of a valley and a negative situation, there is always room for opportunity.

But you have to remember to be open to the possibilities and the opportunities that could be presented to you in that season.

Think outside the box. Apply for something that is exciting and out of your comfort zone. You never know when an unexpected opportunity may present itself.

Even when we have reached a valley in life, it’s not necessarily negative. Sure, you might feel disappointed or confused on what your next step should be, but it’s easy to make a valley into a peak. All it takes is a little patience and time.

Have you experienced a “valley” in your life recently? How can you turn it into a peak? Make sure to share your stories and thoughts in the comments below!

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Bad Day Essentials & 5 Reminders You NEED to Hear

We’ve all been there…

We have been having a stressful week (or month) where work has been piling up, you haven’t been able to take care of yourself, and you are ultimately not happy. One day, things seem to be going more wrong than right: you spilled your $6 Starbucks drink, you were late to a meeting, you forgot to submit a proposal to a client, etc. Things just don’t seem to be working out in your favor today.

When these days happen, it’s easy to let negativity take over and control the remainder of your day. But there are ways to turn a bad day around and get back in a better place. I’m sharing some of my bad day essentials and activities I like to do after a long, stressful day and how you can bring a little bliss back in your day to turn it around.

1| Journal, Adult Coloring Book, etc.

Tapping into that creative side might be the best things you can do to help relax and unwind from a bad day or stressful week. Whenever I need to take my mind off of something, I’ll blog if I’m feeling creative but I’ll also write in one of my journals or write for fun, or color. You can put away the bad for an hour and solely focus on creating.

2| Workout

There’s nothing better than getting an amazing workout in after a stressful day. I find that I reach all my PRs and feel the best after crushing a cardio workout, run a little longer, or do a few more reps of an ab workout. Not only does it help your physical and mental health, but it’s a positive way to release all that negative energy from the day.

3| All. The. Food.

Girl, if you had a bad day, don’t feel guilty about treating yourself to your favorite meal, dessert or snack. Buy your favorite sushi or visit that cupcake shop for your go-to treat. Treating yourself to something you love will instantly boost your mood and make you feel just a little better about the day you’ve been having.

4| “Feel Good” Things

After a bad day, it’s important to focus on the good things that you love. So now that you have your favorite food, now it’s time to watch your favorite movie, or spend a few hours reading that book you’ve been putting off for months. Spend time doing something you love and that you know will bring a little bliss to your life.

5| Pamper Essentials

Let’s be honest, there’s nothing better than treating yourself to anything pampering related. Make a last-minute appointment for a pedicure or manicure at your go-to salon. Or, if you’re on a budget, create a relaxing space in your bathroom for face masks, body scrubs and a long bath.

If you’re having a rough day or week or month, keep reading these five reminders I want you to hear to help you get through whatever bad you’re experiencing. Make sure to share some of your own positive reminders in the comments below that you tell yourself when you’re having a bad day.

1| Look for the positive in each day, even if some days you have to look a little harder.

2| Storms don’t last forever.

3| It’s a bad day, not a bad life.

4| When you can’t find the sunshine, be the sunshine.

5| The sun is a daily reminder that we can rise from the darkness. That we can shine our own light. 

What are some of your bad day essentials? What activities do you do whenever you’ve had a bad day? What quotes do you remind yourself to stay positive? Make sure to share in the comments below!

 

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31 Tips To Stay Blissful All-Month Long

Let’s be honest, friends—life can be stressful. Work can be too much, and we forget to enjoy moments outside of the office and be present in the moment. Needless to say, the last two months at work have been a lot and I’m making it my mission to focus on life outside of work because self-care is important and you should always be focusing on things that make you happy.

1| Take a walk.

2| Read a book.

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3| Two words: Adult Coloring.

4| Take a drive.

5| Watch your favorite movie.

6| Call a friend to catch up.

7| Treat yourself to a manicure or pedicure.

8| Binge-watch Netflix.

9| Do your favorite workout.

10| Meditate.

11| Write down five things you’re grateful for.

12| Wake up 30 minutes early and enjoy your morning.

13| Blast your favorite song and SING!

14| Be present in the moment, whatever that moment may be.

15| Write a list of everything you love.

16| Have a glass of wine (or three).

17| Treat yourself to your favorite Starbucks drink.

18| Have a girl’s night in.

19| Try a new restaurant in your city.

20| Have a no-complaint day.

21| Buy yourself flowers.

22| Make your favorite meal.

23| Declutter your closet.

Read: 10 Things to Remove from your Closet Right Now

Read: 8 Tips to Master your Closet

24| Buy the cake & eat it, too.

25| Dog Therapy (Yes I’m serious and you’re welcome in advance.)

26| Go to bed early.

Read: Mental Cleanse Challenge Week 2

27| Drink water.

28| Write for fun.

29| Take your workout outside.

30| Put on a face mask.

Read: 5 Holy Grail Skincare Products that Will Change Your Skin

31| Think positively.

I hope you find time to slow down this month and truly enjoy every moment that comes your way. Life is too quick not to appreciate all the little things that make it special. 

Make sure to share how you focus on self-care and what you’ll be doing this month to stay blissful. Share how you treat yourself after a stressful day (or week) so we can all focus on the good this month!

 

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5 Things to be Happy About: April Edition

I’ve always been a little biased about April because it’s my birthday month, so naturally I love this month more than some others. Raise your hand if your birthday month is April!? There is a lot that I am especially looking forward to this month, so I’m not too sure how I’m going to keep it to five things, but we’re going to try!

1| Travel

I find that I get to travel in April and May whether it’s for my birthday or I’m able to take time off from work because it’s not the busy season for us yet. This month, I’m going to Boston for a week for the first time with Josh, and we are both so excited to take time off from work and get a chance to explore a new city. We have been trying to schedule one city trip a year so we can explore new places every year. Needless to say, there will be some exciting travel-related content coming your way on the blog!

2| Treat Yourself

It might have to do with this month being my birthday month and the Easter season, but I find that I’m always more comfortable to treating myself to anything whether it’s dessert, wine, or an experience (like a trip to a new city)! After the holidays, I get pretty strict about eating healthy, working out and saving my money. After three months, I’m ready to give myself one (or several) treats!

3| Easter 

Easter has always been a holiday I look forward to because it’s a time for family, food and it’s overall a relaxing and enjoyable day. We always celebrate the holiday at my parent’s house with a big brunch. We even still color eggs as a family and get chocolate treats from my mom! But hey, it’s a tradition my family has and loves, and it’s something I look forward to every April.

4| My Birthday 

I’ll actually be in Boston on my birthday, so I think it’ll be a great way to ring in 23 years! Stay tuned for a post coming up soon on 23 lessons I’ve learned in 23 years. I think it’s something you’ll enjoy reading. When is your birthday month? Make sure to share in the comments below!

5| Spring Outfits

For those who don’t know, I’ve been ready for spring since January but the weather here in PA hasn’t been giving that to me. We had a snowstorm in the middle of March, and all I’ve been wanting is to have warm enough weather to wear spring dresses and outfits. I’m hoping April is when I can finally bust out my spring clothes since I haven’t been able to yet!

What are you looking forward to this month? Make sure to share in the comment below!

 

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Mental Cleanse Challenge: Week 5

It’s crazy to think that this month has flown by so quickly. It seems like yesterday that Erin reached out to me to see if i was interested in collaborating with her on this challenge. After going through this month with focusing on self care, relaxation and more—I’ve learned so much from this process and experience. I want to thank Erin from A Welder’s Wife for joining me with these challenges and experience altogether. It has been wonderful to work with her and see how she has done each week during the challenges!

If it’s your first post catching up on the Mental Cleanse Challenge visit the posts below to catch up on the weekly challenges and posts below to see how Erin and I did each week!

My Posts:

1| Week 1: Introduction

2| Week 2: Self Care

3| Week 3: Diet & Exercise

4| Week 4: Digital Cleanse

Erin’s Posts:

1| Mental Cleanse Challenge Week 1

2| Mental Cleanse Challenge Week 2

3| Mental Cleanse Challenge Week 3

4| Mental Cleanse Challenge Week 4

Now keep reading below to see how I did last week on the positivity challenges:

Feb. 20: No complaint day.

I was a little nervous about this challenge because if I’m stressing out over a workout…I will complain. But, I’m happy to say that I made it through Insanity without a single complaint! A huge win for me personally, haha!

Feb 21: Write down 3 great things that happened today.

1. I had a productive day at work. 2. I worked hard on the blog after work. 3. I meal prepped for the entire week.

Feb 22: Spend 15 minutes in silence focusing on one positive attribute about yourself.

My positive attribute was focusing on my self-motivation and drive to keep going. The part I struggled with was only focusing on this one thought when there were other thoughts in my head.

Feb 23: Compliment a stranger.

This is never a difficult task since I’m around people most of the time. It is always nice to see someone light up after you give them a genuine compliment.

Feb 24: Write a letter to yourself explaining why you are unique.

I thought I was going to have a difficult time with this one, but instead of writing a letter, I decided to do it as a list, which seemed less daunting and overwhelming for someone who feels uncomfortable talking about themselves.

Feb 25: Ask your friends to describe you in 3 words, write them down, and repeat it to yourself throughout the day.

I decided to ask my co-workers it was the best decision of my life. They said: confident, outgoing and crazy (in a good way, haha). It makes me happy to see how they perceive me is in a positive way. It definitely made my day to think about this throughout the rest of the day.

Feb 26: Write out your challenge wins and treat yourself!

I’m so happy to say that I was able to complete all the challenges throughout this month. This challenge and teaming with up Erin taught me so much about practicing self care and focusing on time for myself, which was so important. I was most surprised about the diet and exercise challenges like going vegan and trying a new workout!


Overall, I’m sad to see that that challenge is over with, but I love knowing it’s something I can plan for another month down the road when I’m in need of some self care and relaxation. If you followed along with these challenges:

What was your favorite/least favorite week?

My favorite week was the self care week because it had mix of everything from walking to pampering sessions and everything in between. My least favorite week was probably the diet and exercise because it was a little more challenging even though it was worth it!

What challenges were you most surprised that you were able to accomplish?

No complaint day during the positivity week and trying a new workout during the diet and exercise week. Both were two that I was worried about, but was happy and proud for accomplishing them.

What challenges were your favorite or most difficult to complete?

I loved all the positivity challenges even though they were also the most difficult challenges to complete for me personally. When I was able to cross the daily challenge off my list for each day, it was so satisfying.

Is this something you’d like to try again down the road?

YES! I definitely want to plan this for summertime when I’ll need another pick-me-up-month and need to focus on self care, relaxation and refreshing my mind altogether.

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I hope you enjoyed following along on these challenges throughout the month of February with Erin and I. It was so fun and refreshing to have a month filled with challenges that focused on self care, relaxation and everything in between to focus on mental health. Make sure to leave comments below asking the reflection questions and any other comments you have from participating in the challenges!

 

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