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Why You NEED to do Things That Scare You

Posted in Lifestyle
on August 16, 2017

I did something that scared me the other day.

I’m sitting in my room and shaking a little more than I should as I’m trying to give myself a pep talk. “Kiara, the video will only last for 24 hours. It’s NOT  a big deal,” I kept trying to  convince myself. But it WAS a big deal and it truly felt like a big deal in the moment. When you have anxiety, your mind can play a lot of tricks on you and make you believe things that simply aren’t true. Your mind is clouded with negative thoughts and it prevents you from stepping outside of your comfort zone.

But I didn’t want my mind to control the things I want to do, so I made several videos on Instagram Stories, and I was proud of myself.

I’m sure you’re thinking, “Kiara, you’re a blogger and you LOVE talking. How could you be afraid to make a video?”

Well, it had nothing to do with making the video at all or talking because you’re right…I could talk for hours about anything and everything. (Just ask ANYONE who knows me.) The truth is, I was letting fear hold me back from doing something I wanted to do. That’s when I realized that I didn’t want to live that way anymore. So, I took a deep breath and began recording and posting. The sky didn’t fall and there were no horrible comments made. It was refreshing. I did something despite feeling afraid.

Why you NEED to do things that scare you:

1| You may discover a new passion 

If you read the last post in my vision board series, I share a HUGE goal I hope to achieve in the next three years. For me, that’s sharing more video content and beginning a YouTube channel. TBH I’ve always been passionate about creating videos, but I’ve been TERRIFIED to simple make one because I feared the negativity from it. But I’ve learned that you will never know if you don’t try. Making the Instagram Stories videos solidified that I want to make more videos whether it’s on Instagram, for my blog, or for YouTube.

2| You gain confidence

I can’t tell how good it felt to do something I was afraid to do. To put it simply, you gain confidence when you do things that scare you. At one point in time, you thought you couldn’t do something—and then you prove yourself wrong! Let’s just say it’s such a wonderful feeling, and it’s worth the few seconds of fear you may have in the beginning.

3| You grow & gain new perspectives

Think about how much fear actually controls us. It’s the reason we don’t do SO MANY THINGS in life. You’re afraid of skydiving because you’re afraid of heights, but the second you begin falling—those fears go away. The highest point of fear is the second before you jump from the plane. Think of all the things you can learn and experience from removing fear from your life. By removing fear, you will naturally grow as a person and gain new perspectives.

4| You feel BLISSFUL

Point blank, PERIOD. You feel unbelievably blissful when you overcome a fear regardless of what that fear is. If you’re afraid to begin writing a book, start doing it anyway! The more you practice and work at that passion, the more you can feel confident (see point 1) and eventually publish that book despite the fear. Once you get over that initial feeling of fear, you can do anything and everything you want to do.

And that is the most blissful thing about doing something that scares you.

What is something YOU’RE afraid of but you WANT to do anyway? What fear have you conquered recently? Make sure to share your stories and thoughts in the comments below!

 

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How to Create a Vision Board that will Actually Help you Achieve your Goals

Posted in Lifestyle
on July 17, 2017

Guess who’s back. Back again.

But for real though if you didn’t rap that first line, I’m going to have to ask you to leave.

I’m not going to lie, I’m incredibly excited for today’s post because I’m going to lay down all the details on how you can create a vision board that will actually help you achieve your goals.

Lets get into the good stuff:

What you need to make a vision board:

1| Time. Time to reflect about what you truly want for yourself. We’ll come back to this topic below.

2| Goals you want to achieve in the form of words, quotes, photos, graphics. Whatever you want, really. I just need you to have goals in some sort of tangible form. Got it?

3| The medium in which you want to create your vision board because you don’t have to make one on a random bulletin board. You can make a digital one, one on poster board, or whatever your heart desires. I just need you to pick a medium and stick with it.

Now that we got that taken care of, let’s go back to that point about having time to reflect on what you truly want for yourself and your future.


You can’t create a vision board with random ideas that you’re not truly passionate or serious about.

Because here’s what will happen: you’ll get discouraged and angry with yourself. Then you’ll quit the things you were never passionate about to begin with. And then feel like you’re not good enough to accomplish the goals and dreams YOU ARE passionate about. And that’s just all no bueno. You feel? So don’t do that. Here’s what I want you to do instead.

Set aside a week or so to really think about your goals and ask yourself the following questions:

1| How much time do you want to give yourself to accomplish these goals? 3 months? 3 years?

2| What categories are essential for your board? Career? Home and Life? Personal?

3| What are the top three, non-negotiable goals/dreams you have for yourself?

4| Are you being realistic. If not, how can you make this more realistic to fit your life?


So it has been a week and you’ve laid out those plans and goals for yourself and you’re ready to make that vision board.

Wait. Don’t start yet.

First, you have to commit that you will dedicate time and energy to these goals EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.

If you can’t make that commitment, you have to go back and reevaluate those goals and plans for your board. But if you can (and will) make that commitment—then you can get to work on your vision board.

Now, I’m not going to talk about how I think you should physically make the board because that should be completely up to you. Creativity is a wonderful thing that you should embrace, so by all means, go get creative. Create the board in whatever way you feel will be the best for you. But, make it fun and enjoyable because it should be fun creating something that will help your achieve your goals, right?

So now you’ve read about my previous success with vision boards and how to create a vision board that will actually help you achieve your goals. Now what?

Well, that’s the most difficult part.

Now you have to put that board somewhere where you’ll see it every single day. Somewhere that you’ll see several times a day. It should serve as a reminder to you that you have goals that you need to work on. It’ll motivate you to always remember what those goals are, and work to achieve them.

But you have to put in that work to make those goals happen. I can’t do that for you and the vision board can’t do that for you. As much as I would love to create something that would just do all the hard work, it simply doesn’t work that way. That’s why you made that commitment, remember? 

If you want to learn more about how you can work to make your goals from your vision board a reality…leave a comment below so I can begin working on that as a potential series for you as well.

Until then, let me know how you’re doing with all this vision board talk. Are you feeling more comfortable and confident about creating one yourself? Leave a comment below telling me about what goals you have that would be on your vision board if you were to create one!

 

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My Previous Success With Vision Boards: How to Create a Vision Board that Will Actually Help You Achieve Your Goals

Posted in Lifestyle
on July 10, 2017

IT’S. FINALLY. HERE.

This series is something I’ve been dreaming up for awhile now, and I’ll talk more about why I put off this series for a few months. But I’m excited to share my three-post series on making a Vision Board that will ACTUALLY help you achieve your goals. If you want to make all your #GirlBoss Goals come to life, you’re definitely going to want to stop back all-month long for a ton of bliss. Cause let me tell you, when you achieve your goals, bliss is the only word that comes to mind.

There will be three different posts in this series on Mondays on the blog. Today’s post will be about the back story of:

1| How I first created my own vision board before I even knew what it was.

2| My previous success using Vision Boards.

3| Why I’ve been using them ever since.

In next week’s post, you’ll see more on physically creating the board itself that will set you and your goals up for success and some topics you can add to your board. And in the last post, I’ll show my own vision board that I have for myself for the next three years.

So let’s get into all this vision board talk so YOU can achieve YOUR goals!

Okay, but for real, what even is a vision board?

The simple answer: a vision board is a board you create that outlines your goals. You can create it on poster board, bulletin board, etc. or you can make a digital version and save them on your computer if you also want it handy when you’re at work. There are so many ways to create a vision board, but the goal is to have a place where all your goals and motivations are highlighted.

Fun Fact: I created a vision board before I knew what it was.

No, seriously…that happened. I’m a quotes/motivational messages girl. I always had inspiration sayings on my bulletin board and lists of my goals so that I always had some motivation to keep working hard. Spring semester freshmen year was a whirlwind for me, but I knew I had some goals that were intertwined with my quotes. Take note of these few goals:

1| Graduate in 3 years with distinction

2| Get my Master’s in Integrated Marketing Communications

3| Minor in Spanish

4| Study Abroad in Italy

5| Focus on Internships

After my sophomore year of college, I was packing up my room and taking down some my bulletin board. It had photos of Italy, quotes in Spanish, pictures of magazines, quotes to motivate me to continue my education, etc.

It was in that moment I realized my GOALS and DREAMS became a reality. I received my acceptance letter to begin my Master’s in the fall (my third year of school). Which leads me to my next point: I committed to graduating in three years by my sophomore year because I was about to spend the summer in ITALY in order to graduate early with my B.A. and minor in Spanish. Oh wait, and I secured two AMAZING INTERNSHIP opportunities for the summer that I was excited for.

Are you picking up what I’m putting down?

I connected the dots rather quickly, and realized this bulletin board had magical powers.

Just kidding. The board didn’t have magical powers. But I went out searching the Internet for “Goal Bulletins” and “Goal Planners” and such because I was feeling amazing about meeting these goals after a year. That’s when I stumbled across Vision Boards. I remember sitting in my room shrieking, “OHMYGOD THAT’S IT! THAT’S WHAT I MADE!”

And I’ve never looked back.

So now you’re like, okay Kiara you made one vision board and now you expect us to believe making one will work for us?

Yes, girl. I do. Because listen up: I made another vision board shortly after with a new set of goals over the span of a few months:

1| Graduating Summa Cum Laude with my Master’s.

2| Start a full-time marketing job I love.

3| Find my first home and move in with Josh

4| Focus on health and and fitness

And I accomplished those goals, too. And, no. I didn’t play it safe with my goals either. I laid down another tall order that seemed rather impossible, but that’s the problem—it always seems impossible until it’s done.

 

That’s why I am writing this series. That’s why I want you to read this series—so you realize YOUR dreams and YOUR goals ARE POSSIBLE. 

So, you have two choices. You can continue to sleep with your dreams. Or you can wake up and chase them. (After you read the next two posts in my series on how to create a vision board that will actually help you achieve your goals.)

Next week, I’ll be sharing how to create a vision board that will actually help you achieve your goals. And the following week I’ll be sharing my current, updated vision board for the next three years.

So tell me, have you created a vision board? Has it worked for you in the past? Would you be open to creating a new one using the tips from this series? Tell me all about it in the comments below!

 

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2017 Goals: 6-Month Update

Posted in Health, Lifestyle
on June 21, 2017

We’re halfway through the year, and I don’t even know what to say. Is this what being old feels like? Feeling continuously shocked by how quickly the year is going?

For 2017, I decided that I was going to take my goals a little more seriously. To keep myself more accountable of these goals I set for myself, I decided to do check-in periods every quarter where I would review my progress with my goals for the year. I knew that when I set these goals, I wanted to take them seriously, so writing these posts are helpful because I am reminded of what I want to achieve this year. You can read my 3-month update on my 2017 goals.

Personal Goals:

1| Read 8-10 books throughout 2017

I’m up to seven books this year and I couldn’t be happier that I’ve been focusing on this goal for 2017. In my 3-month update, I said I was thinking about hitting this goal by summer, which is today, so I don’t think that is going to happen.

2| Plan 2-3 trips for 2017

So far, we went to Boston. Instead of focusing only on “big” travel plans, I want this to be more about traveling and experiencing new places I’ve never been before even if they’re weekend trips. I’m also considering a trip to visit my friend in San Francisco this winter. I’ll be sure to keep you guys up-to-date on my travel plans!

3| Achieve my career goals for 2017

I can officially cross this one off my list because I have been working so hard for the last six months at work to achieve all my goals for the year and I’m happy to say this is one I don’t have to keep stressing about for the second half of the year. Now it’s time to focus on my other goals.

4| Focus on my vision board

I said in my 3-month update that I want to write a series of posts on how to make a vision board, what I’ve learned from using this method to achieve my goals, etc. If you’re interested in seeing a post on this, leave a comment below! I am planning this for my July/August content calendar but it went on hold for spring because a lot of my time and energy was focused on work.

Blogging Goals:

1| Focus on my blog direction

This can officially be crossed off my list because after six months of content being put out, I feel that my blog direction and theme has truly changed for the better. I feel better writing the content I’ve been putting on the blog since I decided to write more about self care, lifestyle, minimalism and overall wellness and living a life of bliss.

2| Increase blog social media engagement by 20 percent

Although I can say that my engagement has definitely increased a ton of Twitter and Instagram, I can’t say the same for Facebook. But it’s all a work in progress, right?

3| Take more risks

Well, I took one amazing risk thanks to my lovely friend Erin! We did a collab on a monthly challenge where we gave challenges to help you relax and refresh your mind for February. The challenges focused on mental clarity and self-care, which are two topics I’m passionate about. I’m hoping to collab with bloggers more throughout the year and take more blogging risks overall. Stay tuned to read more on this!

Financial Goals:

1| Put an extra $8-10,000 into savings

I’m still on track to achieve this goal a several months earlier than anticipated, which makes me incredibly happy. I know saving in your 20s is so important, and it’s something I want to keep focusing on for the remainder of 2017. If you want to read posts on how I save money, let me know in the comments!

2| Track my spending regularly

It’s a lot of work to continuously update your spendings. I’m not someone who wants to track everything I spend because I realize it causes more stress than happiness. I’m more than comfortable with what I’m spending and saving since I don’t spend much to begin with. You feel? I’m realizing this isn’t the “goal” I originally set out to do in 2017, so I’m updating it to reflect my lifestyle. Instead, I want to make sure I’m spending the majority of my money on necessities: food, bills; and a small portion of my money each month is spending money for a pedicure, haircut or treating myself to happy hour.

Health Goals:

1| Increase my weekly running distance

I’ve realized this is something we’re still not focusing on because we have been focusing more of our workouts to high intensity interval training where we will run hard for one minute and then walk for two minutes. We repeat this cycle 8-10 times before finishing off with a cool down of walking for 15 minutes and stretching. Once we get more into running for distance, I’ll be sure to update you on this goal.

2| Don’t focus on numbers

I truly stopped caring about numbers I have found that it has done wonders for my self-esteem and happiness altogether. I said it once, and I’ll say it again: NUMBERS. DO. NOT. MATTER. Once you stop focusing on the numbers and more on how you feel, you will see a huge difference in how you feel about working out and your body image altogether.

3| Focus on workouts I enjoy

I’e been loving my Tuesday and Thursday workouts, which have been a combination of different abdominal, leg and arm strength-training exercises that I do in sets of 2 or 3. It usually takes about 45 minutes of working out and I’ll finish with stretching for 15 minutes. It’s wonderful to spend time working out when you love the workouts you’re doing.

How have you been doing on your goals for 2017? Check your list you made a few months ago and start working on how you can work on them for the next few months! Make sure to leave a comment below saying what goals you have been working on/already have achieved this year!

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3 Reminders for Embracing Life’s Valleys

Posted in Lifestyle
on June 19, 2017

Life has peaks and valleys. There are times where we feel so high and on top of the world that we don’t ever want that feeling to stop, and there are times where life can have us feeling low and lost. There are many ways valleys can enter our lives that we have all experienced: rejection from a college, rejection from a promotion or job, or other unexpected changes that might interfere with previous plans (moving, changing jobs, beginning a relationship, etc.)

Some people see valleys as “bumps in the road” or a setback. While this is true, I think it negatively illustrates the value of valleys. I used to think a valley was the universe laughing at me struggling. Now, I view them more positively.

Yes, you may have gotten fired from your job; but you can use it as an opportunity to find a better job. Maybe one that pays more, or that offers more flexible hours, or where you can work from home. It’s still an opportunity.

You’ve plateaued after working hard for months on end to achieve your health and fitness goals. So what? Give yourself a week to relax and rest your body so it can work even harder. It’ll give you more motivation so you can get stronger. It’s an opportunity.

A few years ago, I experienced a “valley” when I applied to work at a local hospital. It was an opportunity I was excited about and had planned my entire summer around getting this job. Over a month past my “start date,” nothing progressed as far as paperwork or my medical clearance. Working at the hospital was my only plan for summer, and then I realized it wasn’t going to work out. I reached a valley I had no intention of being in.

Then I went through endless applications. I thought to myself, “I could go back to my old job.” But I didn’t enjoy my last job after four years. I decided to use this as a opportunity to find a job I loved. And I found it, and it paid far more than I intended. During the interview, they wanted to promote me to a higher paying position before I even began. It was a golden opportunity, and I said yes.

Fast forward a year later, and that same job lead me to my first, full-time marketing position that I’m currently working and loving today. I often think what would have happened if I ended up working at the hospital. Would I still be in a LDR with Josh? Would I have finished my Master’s? Who knows, but it’s incredible to think that begin rejected from something lead me to exactly where I needed to be. Every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being redirected to something better.

So how can YOU embrace your next valley?

1| Remember it’s temporary

If you’re going through a valley in your life, remember that your valley isn’t permanent. It won’t last forever. It’s a small stop along your journey, so treat it as such. Oftentimes, we get caught up with the negative moments in our lives that we don’t think about the positive things that could come from that experience.

2| There’s a bigger plan

You were rejected from your dream job that you’re more than qualified for. That’s horrible, and you’re probably feeling pretty sad about it, too. Take the time to go through the motions that come with rejection. But don’t let it keep you down. Remember that there’s a reason you weren’t hired for that job. You will be lead to the job you’re meant to work.

3| Opportunities are everywhere

Even in the midst of a valley and a negative situation, there is always room for opportunity.

But you have to remember to be open to the possibilities and the opportunities that could be presented to you in that season.

Think outside the box. Apply for something that is exciting and out of your comfort zone. You never know when an unexpected opportunity may present itself.

Even when we have reached a valley in life, it’s not necessarily negative. Sure, you might feel disappointed or confused on what your next step should be, but it’s easy to make a valley into a peak. All it takes is a little patience and time.

Have you experienced a “valley” in your life recently? How can you turn it into a peak? Make sure to share your stories and thoughts in the comments below!

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