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8 Things to Let go of in 2018

Posted in Health, Lifestyle
on January 10, 2018

I hope you are all having a wonderful 2018 so far!

I have been reading posts in the blogging community about their goals for the new year, or their word for 2018, and similar posts. We are constantly adding things that we want to do or accomplish in a new year, but we don’t often think about things we should let go of. It had me thinking about a new perspective I want to challenge you all with for 2018, so I decide to share what you should let go of in 2018. If you’re looking for a little inspiration, and a lot of bliss—keep reading.

1| Perfectionism

It’s okay to go to work without a full face of makeup and perfectly done hair. It’s okay if your Instagram isn’t perfectly cohesive. It’s okay if you’re not going to cute cafes, and traveling to new places every single month. It’s okay if your party doesn’t have Pinterest-worthy foods and DIY decorations. Life isn’t perfect, so we shouldn’t keep bringing ourselves down in 2018 when things aren’t perfect. You won’t have it together all the time, and there’s nothing wrong with it. Embrace the imperfect moments of life.

2| Negative self-talk

You are beautiful. You are loved. You are needed. You are enough. If there’s one thing you need to let go of in 2018 it’s negative self talk. Self love should be a priority in your life because you deserve to have a positive, loving relationship with yourself. After all, you’re going to be with yourself for your entire life, so you may as well like yourself. Drop the negativity and be kind to yourself. Remember that you’re doing the best that you can, and you’re always going to be a work in progress.

3| Toxic relationships

Let go of the people who don’t lift you up or bring any positivity to your life. Whether it’s a family member, long-time friend, or a coworker you have been spending time with. If they are constantly bringing you down, or they aren’t there for you when you need them there, they probably aren’t a friend worth keeping in the new year. Remember that not every person who comes in your life is meant to stay around forever, and it’s okay to let go of those relationships.

4| Items you don’t love or need

I had to get honest with myself on this one because I’ve noticed a few things I’ve been holding on to that I truly don’t need or even enjoy having around the house. Minimalism has definitely played a large role in my life, and I’m reminded that removing things I don’t love will only make space for more things that I do love. Take time to sort out your closet by asking yourself these 10 questions while decluttering. If you’re already past your closet, try a decluttering challenge, or look into other areas of minimalism that doesn’t involve decluttering.

5| The past 

2018 is a new beginning for all of us, and we should treat it as such. Remember to let go of the negative moments of the past year, so that it won’t hold you back in the new year. This can apply to any period of your life for that matter. When we hold on to feelings of the past, it affects our present self and potentially our future self. So, let the past stay in the past, and you’ll feel content living in the present moment.

6| Busy schedules

We need to stop glorifying busyness. We need to let go of packed schedules and saying yes to plans we don’t even want to make. It’s time we take care of ourselves, and have more time to live slowly and intentionally. Focus on self-care with a mental cleanse challenge. It’s important to have a balance between work and time for yourself. Oftentimes, we get caught up in work and constantly being on the go that it takes a horrible toll on our health altogether.

Related: 8 Small Improvements to Live a Blissful Life

7| Procrastination

Sitting on Pinterest dreaming about the life you wish to have can only get you so far. You need to get up and do the things you want to accomplish. Creating a vision board works wonders on achieving your goals, and it’s a great place to start if you’re looking for a little motivation in the new year, too. Find your passion in life, and work at it every single day. Stay consistent with your goals and be productive with your day.

Related: 8 Tips to Get Your Life Together in 8 Hours

8| Comparison

Hey there, beautiful soul. Here’s a gentle reminder that you don’t need to compare yourself and your journey to someone’s else experiences. That’s how you get in a rut, and that’s no bueno. Instead of comparing yourself to other, remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can right now, and there’s always room for improvement. But don’t let comparison steal your joy from the things you love most.

What are you letting go of in the new year? Whether it’s something on the list I have or something completely different, make sure to share your thoughts in the comments below! I would love to hear more about what you plan to let go of in 2018.

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My Story: Comparing Myself To Other Bloggers

Posted in Health, Lifestyle
on May 9, 2016

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This is the first blog post I’ve written that makes me incredibly emotional simply because of the topic.

For those who don’t know me, I am the definition of a type-A perfectionist. I thrive on organization and making to-do lists. I love having a busy schedule and planning tons of projects. I’m always trying to improve my skills to be better than I was yesterday. Improvement, for me, can also mean that I’m looking to other bloggers as an inspiration to become better as well.

In hindsight, this doesn’t sound like a horrible thing, right?

Remember in elementary school when your teacher said you had to “peel back the onion”  to see all the different layers? This behavior can be dangerous even if it doesn’t seem that way on the surface. Once you peel back the layers of the onion, you see more of the dangers of comparison.

What I didn’t realize is how much comparison consumed my life. Growing up as an athlete, comparison and striving to improve was essential to succeed among tough competition. Unfortunately, most of the time, this lead to unhealthy behaviors with working out too much or not eating enough. But, it goes to show that comparison has been part of my life for many years.

Then college came around, and comparison was in full force. Now, post college, I realize that comparison didn’t rule my life as much as I was expecting until I noticed my unhealthy obsession with comparing myself to other bloggers.

Most people don’t know this, but I have been blogging for awhile. I see some bloggers are making thousands of dollars after launching a website in under six months. Whereas I’ve been working on this for years and haven’t quite found my way yet.

There are fashion bloggers who have beautiful, outfits, a full face of Instagram-worthy makeup and Pinterest-perfect hair. There are beauty bloggers who can create unique makeup looks, and show their skills easily on their blog. There are lifestyle bloggers who passionately share their stories that so many people can relate to.

I didn’t feel like I could measure up to all the talented bloggers I know.

I didn’t feel good enough.

Every post I put up, I hated. I didn’t like anything I was creating because comparison got in the way of my judgement. It made me feel horrible about myself.

That’s when I knew I had to stop.

Whether you’re comparing yourself to the model on Instagram, or to the blogger you have looked up to for five years—you cannot compare yourself to that person. Of course, this is easier said than done. There will still be days where I’m going to doubt myself and fall back into the comparison trap because it’s an easy trap to fall for.

But I will not allow it to control my thoughts about myself and my self worth. One of my goals was to be more kind to myself, and this is one aspect I know will help me reach that goal.

If you’re out there comparing yourself to anyone whether it’s a friend, a model, a blogger, or someone you don’t even know…please stop. You are most likely doing more harm than good. It’s okay to learn and improve, but it’s not okay to judge yourself negatively. You deserve to be kind to yourself.

I hope this has helped someone, or has inspired someone to begin a new chapter in their life free of comparison.

Have you ever struggled with comparison? Make sure to leave a comment below!

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