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Why You Should Say Yes & Take Risks

Posted in Lifestyle
on May 29, 2017

Let me first say that I’m all about saying no when it makes sense to say no. For example, I will always say no to anything I know I truly can’t commit my time to in order to get that project or task done. I think it’s important to know when you should say no because it helps you understand what your limits are.

Recently, I have noticed a trend in my life where I kept saying no so much that life wasn’t enjoyable. I let fear dictate every decision even if it was to meet a friend for happy hour after work. Living with anxiety isn’t easy, and it’s something that was truly affecting my ability to say yes. Instead, I kept saying no.

I become so comfortable with saying no, that I stopped saying yes to opportunities. I stopped taking risks even if they were GOOD risks!

No bueno. Am I right?

I became comfortable with saying no because I didn’t want to take risks. I was afraid to take risks. I had already taken some risks, so I convinced myself that I no longer needed to say yes and take risks in life. My life felt stagnant because that’s what saying no and NOT taking risks does: It leaves you in a space when you’re not gaining or losing anything. You’re at a standstill. And that’s boring, and it’s not what I wanted my life to look like anymore.

There are so many things I said no to even things I wanted to say yes to. But the uncertainty of failing and fear consumed my mind and heart so much that I kept saying no. I continued to sit at a stagnant point in my life and truly not succeed.

If you’re questioning if you should take a risk whether it’s for a career move, beginning your business, writing a book, a relationship, moving across the country—do it. Don’t sit back and wait. There might not be time later in life. You’re always going to have fears regarding the risk you want to take, or saying yes to an opportunity. And that’s okay!

It’s okay to be afraid, but don’t say no ONLY because you’re afraid. 

If we were to only wait to do things when we felt “ready,” we wouldn’t accomplish anything. REAL TALK: You’re never truly going to feel “ready” to ask for that promotion, move to a different country, start your business that you’ve always dreamed of, but allowing fear to determine your future isn’t the answer.

So, I’m making a change.

Today, I will stop living in fear of all the things that could go wrong, and focus on all the things that could go right. Live is too short to say no to opportunities that will help you grow and get you to where you want to be in life. I let fear control me and my decisions for too long, and now—it’s time to say yes and it’s time to take a risk.

There are a lot of risks I’m hoping to take this year. And I hope you feel confident and comfortable to take that risk you’ve been wanting to take, too. I hope you feel confident and comfortable to say yes to that new opportunity you’ve been thinking about. Because if it’s still in your mind, it’s worth taking the risk.

What risks do you want to take this year? What is an opportunity you want to say yes to, but haven’t yet because you were afraid? Make sure to share your experiences in the comments below!

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7 Things to Consider Before Graduating Early

Posted in Lifestyle
on May 17, 2017

For those who don’t know, my college experience was very unique. I graduated a year early from a private university; and I was able to get my Bachelor’s and Master’s, and a minor in four years. I loved and appreciated my college experience despite the fact it wasn’t your typical college experience. I want to share why I decided to graduate early, and what advice I have for current college students who are considering graduating early as well.

I’m going to be honest. My decision to graduate early was not an easy decision, and there were many factors that came into play. I knew going into college that I could graduate early because I had a lot of college credits from high school, so this idea was in my mind from the beginning of my college career. But, I didn’t think I would want to graduate early because college is a fun and I didn’t want to cut that experience short, but I had many reasons for wanting to graduate early.

If you’re on the fence about wanting to graduate early, here are some things to consider if you’re questioning whether you should or not:

1| Is it possible?

The first question you need to ask yourself is whether or not you can graduate early. Some academic programs are quite intense and rigorous with scheduling, lab requirements, internship requirements, etc. Make sure you consider all areas of your academic program. If you’re not to type of person who can handle six (or more) classes a semester, this might not be the right choice for you.

2| Find out the why.

Why do you want to graduate early? I personally had several reasons: 1. I knew it was possible. 2. I wanted to save money on my Bachelor’s and Master’s because I couldn’t afford to be in school for six years.  3. And I knew I could graduate early without feeling like I “missed out” on a college experience. Find out your reasons for why you want to graduate early as weigh the pros and cons of graduating in three years verses graduating in four years.

3| Make a plan.

I made my plan for all four years of college during my freshman year. I knew that if I was going to graduate in four years with two degrees, it was going to take conscious planning and effort. I planned all my classes for six semesters, which included courses for my B.A. and M.A. in addition to planning my internship requirements, when I would study abroad, what organizations I would be involved in, etc. Consider everything that goes into your college experience and make sure you write down a plan.

4| Stay dedicated.

Most people tell me that they have considered graduating early from college, but by their third year, they lose motivation and focus, and decide to come back for that final year. Don’t put in time and effort if you’re going to sell yourself short, and not follow through with your plan. It’s so important to keep reminding yourself of why you wanted to graduate early in the first place. Remember the money and time you’re saving, or any other reason why you’ve decided this in the first place. You got this!

5| Don’t overthink it.

I remember overthinking my decision a month prior to graduation back in 2015. I was done, and I was about to go on to finishing my M.A. in my fourth year of school, and I was overthinking whether or not this was a good decision. “But what if I don’t pass my Master’s thesis, and this was all for nothing?” “What if I regret not spending that extra year in school?” Don’t let the “what if” questions get to you because it’s not worth losing sleep over. Again, remember why you started this journey, and follow through.

6| Don’t let school take over your life.

I can’t tell you how many people thought that just because I was graduating early meant that I did nothing but study and focus on school. This couldn’t be further from the truth. I had a social life, I was involved in organizations on campus, I had internships, I blogged, and I took care of myself by getting eight hours of sleep, working out three days a week and giving myself breaks to relax. It’s so important to NOT only focus on school so that you can have a life outside of studying and working.

7| Don’t settle.

I think people settle on a potential job or graduate programs because they’re graduating early from college. If you have dreams to graduate early, but you also want to move to a big city and follow your dreams of working in a law firm—do it. If you want to graduate early, so you can have money to travel abroad for a month, or to start your own business—do it. Don’t let your current decision to graduate early affect the plans you set for yourself after graduation. Always follow your dreams and go for it.


If you’re considering graduating early, I hope this post helped answer some questions and gave you some insight on what goes into the process of graduating early. If you decide that this isn’t the right choice for you, that’s completely okay. But, if you do find that graduating early is right for you—Make a plan, stay dedicated and keep moving forward. I promise that the hard work and dedication will pay off!

Did you graduate early, or did you attend college for all four years? If you could go back, would you consider graduating early from college? Why or why not? Make sure to leave a comment below!

 

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23 Things I’ve Learned in 23 Years

Posted in Lifestyle
on April 19, 2017

While you’re reading this, I’m off adventuring in Boston for the first time with Josh in celebration of our birthdays. Yesterday, I turned 23 (eek!) and I have to say that I’m happy with where I’m at with this age. Today, I want to share 23 things I’ve learned in 23 years with you. Make sure to share some important lessons you’ve learned over the years as well!

1| Do more of what makes you happy.

Why wait until you’re 30 to pursue your dream job? STOP WAITING. Go out and do all the things you want to do right now. I’ve realized that your passions are your calling and you should always pursue them. So go out and start doing what you love!

2| Love above all else.

Let’s be real, friends. Life is too darn short to waste it on hatred. Giving love even when you think that person may not deserve it is one of the strongest things you can do. When in doubt, let love win. Always choose love and always give love.

3| Don’t let social media fool you.

That girl took more than 40 selfies to get the right angle to post on Instagram. The lighting isn’t always perfect, and yes—everyone reuses their Starbucks cup for several Instagram photos because no one wants to spend $50 a week on coffee.

4| If you can’t get a miracle, be a miracle for someone else.

Simply remember the words.

5| Friday nights are different. And that’s okay.

Because there’s nothing better then spending a night in with good friends, some Disney songs and a lot of sushi. You don’t always need a night out to enjoy your time with people you care about.

6| Surround yourself with people who lift you up.

You deserve to be around people who love you and appreciate you. Don’t waste time on people who are negative and don’t bring anything positive to your life. You’re a product of your environment, so make sure you’re spending it with amazing people.

7| Savings are too important to ignore.

Girl, pay off your debt and start putting aside money every week and every month. You can’t pretend that savings aren’t important because they are. Set a budget, prioritize the necessities, and start saving money for your future house, travel, your business or anything else that is important to you.

8| Quality over quantity.

Now is the time to invest. Invest in one pair of high-quality shoes that you will love and use for the next 10 years. Invest in your skincare products, invest in good luggage, invest in a a good piece of jewelry you’ll wear every single day. But always remember quality over quantity.

9| You are enough.

You are enough. You are so enough it’s unbelievable how enough you are.

10| Take care of yourself.

Drink water. Get enough sleep. Keep your home clean. Make yourself healthy meals you truly enjoy. Make regular doctor’s appointments. Ask for help when you need it. Take time for yourself when you’re overwhelmed.

11| On that work/personal life “crisis.”

In the midst of what seems to be a disaster, ask yourself: will this matter in five years? The truth it, it might not even matter a year from now or a week from now. Take every “crisis” in stride and remember that this too, shall pass.

12| Minimalism matters.

Get rid of anything in your life that isn’t beautiful, useful or brings a sense of joy. You’ll be amazed what a difference this makes.

13| Forgive yourself & others.

Things happen and everyone makes mistakes. Forgive others if they have wronged you, but also remember to forgive yourself of your past mistakes, too.

14| Travel and explore.

The world is too large and beautiful to stay in one place. Spend money on adventures and traveling. Traveling is the only thing you can buy in life that will make you richer.

15| Spend time alone.

The most important relationship, and the relationship you’ll have for the longest is with yourself. Enjoy time alone and use it to learn and grow. Your future self will thank you.

16| Never stop learning.

You have a degree, but that doesn’t mean you should stop learning. Read as much as possible. Listen to podcasts. Watch documentaries. Listen when someone is speaking. Travel (See number 14). There are so many opportunities to learn in your lifetime.

17| Treat yourself.

Treat yourself to a hot bath with Lush products, or to a glass of wine, or your favorite dessert. Buy that Starbucks drink when you know you haven’t had it in months. You deserve it. Remember it’s the little things in life!

18| On working out.

Working out isn’t just about “looking” good. You should be spending time working out because it’s good for your mental, physical and emotional health. Work out because it’s a priority for your well-being. Find exercises you enjoy and do them regularly.

19| Don’t sweat the small stuff.

Don’t let that negative email from your boss or the evening traffic get to you. Life is too short to get worked up over things you can’t control. Remember this when something unexpected and frustrating comes along in your life.

20| It’s okay to not have it all figured out.

Of course, we want to be able to say we know exactly what we want and have our 5-year plan mapped out. This isn’t always realistic. It’s okay if you know where you want to be in 5 years. But if you don’t, that’s okay, too because plans change. It’s all about being able to roll with the punches.

21| Dress up. Show up. Never give up. 

If you’re having a rough day, dress up and spend a little extra time getting ready so you feel good. Put on an outfit you can rock all day. It will help with your productivity and happiness throughout even the most difficult Monday. I promise.

22| Learn when to say yes and no.

Say yes to adventures, new experiences and things that will bring you the most joy. Say no when you know you’re unable to fully commit to something and when you need a break. Learn when to say these two words, and you’ll always find balance in your life.

23| Be thankful.

Be thankful for every positive and negative experience in your life because it was either a blessing or a lesson. Regardless, it was able to help you grow! Express gratitude at every opportunity.

What are some life lessons you have learned over the years? Make sure to share them in the comments below!

 

 

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10 Things to Remove From Your Closet Right Now

Posted in Fashion
on August 10, 2016

BB8816_10 Items to Remove from Your Closet Right Now!2016 has been the year that I have removed anything and everything from my life. I don’t want to say that I have gone full-blown minimalist, but I have been actively trying to remove items from my life every single month. Since the beginning of the year, I have gotten rid of more than half of my closet. If you count clothing, jewelry, accessories, shoes, etc., I have easily donated more than 500 pieces altogether.

This is really says a lot about how badly I needed to make a change in my life; and I couldn’t be happier with the progress I have made this year. That’s why I’m sharing 10 things you can remove from your closet right now, so that you can add a little bliss back to your closet and life!

1| Anything That Doesn’t Bring You Joy

There are several things hanging in your closet right now that you don’t love. These are the first items you need to remove from your closet as soon as possible. Why waste space in your closet on items that you truly don’t love and enjoy wearing? Either donate these pieces to charity or give it to a friend who will use it.

2| Anything That Doesn’t Fit Your Body

I used to have a bag that was essentially for clothes that, “If I lost 15 more pounds this will *maybe* fit.” Yes, I’m serious. I was that convinced that I needed to keep those pieces of clothing because they might fit again some day. The reality is that my body when I was 15 years old is completely different than my body at 22 years old. And that’s okay! Donate or sell the items that don’t fit.

3| Anything That Doesn’t Fit Your Style

I’ve been changing my personal style more and more throughout 2016. I’ve been removing more trendy, bright-colored pieces and focusing more on purchasing neutral colors that can be paired with several outfits. If you’re in the process of changing your style, remove anything that doesn’t fit your current style or the style you hope to have.

4| Anything You Haven’t Worn in a Year

My tip for you is to place all your hangers on your closet rack facing backwards. Every time you wear an item from your closet, flip the hanger around the proper way to show that you’ve worn that item. When a year is up, anything you haven’t worn that year—toss it, donate it or sell it. If you haven’t worn it in a year, you probably won’t wear it again.

5| Anything That’s Damaged

I had a skirt hanging in my closet for well over a year that was ripped at the seam that I never fixed or replaced. It was actually so long that I wore it completely forgetting that it was damaged to begin with. If you know you’re not going to repair the item, you may as well toss it out because you won’t wear it unless it’s fixed.

6| Anything You Wouldn’t Repurchase

This is a question I have asked myself more and more that I’ve been going through my closet every few months. “Would I repurchase this item if I was out shopping today?” I can’t tell you how many dresses and shoes I have donated due to this question. Maybe two years ago, that romper was perfect for your lifestyle and now it’s not. That’s okay! As long as you’re being honest about your answers in the process.

7| Anything That Makes You Feel Bad About Your Appearance

You know the skirt that isn’t flattering or the top that makes you feel uncomfortable if you’re not sitting perfectly? Whatever the case may be, donate, sell or toss any item that doesn’t make you feel your very best when you wear it. It’s important to feel comfortable and confident in the clothes that you wear.

8| Anything You’re Keeping For Sentimental Reasons

I kept a Bridesmaid dress I wore for my sister’s wedding back in 2009. Yes, 2009. I knew very well that I was never going to wear this dress again, but yet I kept it because I felt bad about getting rid of it. “But it was my sister’s wedding!?” Let’s be honest, no one is going to have hard feelings because you donated a dress you wore seven years ago. When it doubt, donate it.

9| Anything That Isn’t Useful

Have you ever kept a box or bag of items that simply don’t serve a purpose in your daily life? For example, I had a pair of heels that simply weren’t useful for pairing with outfits or fitting to my personal style. Yet I kept them because there wasn’t anything wrong with them. If it’s not useful for your style and life, get rid of it.

10| Anything Not Worth Keeping

After you cycle through all of the questions above, ask yourself, “Is this worth keeping?” Meaning: is it in your best interest to keep this item. If not, consider selling or donating it to someone who will find it worthy of keeping in their closet. Don’t feel guilty if you’re getting rid of pieces for this reason. At least you’re being honest with yourself about what you want in your closet.

What would you add to this list? What have you removed from your closet recently? Make sure to leave a comment below!

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Don’t Lose Yourself For Love

Posted in Health, Lifestyle
on August 3, 2016

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You know those friends who you haven’t heard from in months because they have become too involved with someone they’re dating? You know the type. Their Instagram feed solely consists of photos of them and their significant other. They can never hangout because they have plans (again) for a dinner date with that person, etc.

It can be frustrating to have someone in your life who acts that way, which is why I made sure that my relationship with Josh would never turn into that type of relationship.

I never want to lose myself for love. And you shouldn’t want to lose yourself either. I understand that you have to spend time with your significant other, and make sure your relationship is growing, evolving and improving every single day. Here are a things that you should never lose sight of regardless of the person you’re seeing.

1| Time with friends and family

Please don’t stop seeing your friends and family just because you have began dating someone new. If that person truly cares about you, they will always want you to spend time with your friends and family. If you’re scheduling time to spend with your boyfriend or girlfriend, you can schedule time to see your friends and family as well. Family should always comes first, and friends should always remain an important component in your life.

2| Your passions and hobbies

Why would you want to abruptly stop reading, writing, working out, or any other activity you’re passionate about? You would be surprised how many people will stop pursuing their passions because of the person they’re seeing. Never quit something unless it doesn’t make you happy. This is similar to the friends and family scenario—your partner should want you to pursue your passions because you love them! Focus on what you love and the people you love in your life. Your relationship should fit into the life you already have.

3| Time for yourself

Time for yourself is always important whether you’re in a relationship or not. But it can be easy to become dependent on a person always being around to the point where you don’t know how to be alone, or how to do anything on your own without feeling overwhelmed. Remember, you are a whole person. You’re not a half a person in love with another half of a person. You need to be able to do things alone and be comfortable with that fact.

It’s important to allow your relationship to flourish whether you’ve been together for three months or three years. However, you should never allow your relationship to control how you live your life, or how it affects other areas of your life. Don’t stop living a life you love only because of the person you’re dating. You shouldn’t stop being the person you once were simply because you’re dating someone.

 

Have you ever lost yourself for love, or have had a friend who lost themselves for love? What did you learn from it? Make sure to leave a comment below!

 

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