Letting go and moving forward

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Dress: T.J. Maxx

Wedges: DSW

Sunglasses: francesca’s

Earrings: Unknown

Belt: Target

Today, I want to talk about letting go (cue Elsa singing Let it Go) and how to move forward with mistakes we have made in our past.

No one is perfect. And, I’m coming to understand this more and more. We all have a past, we all have done things we might not be proud of, and we all feel some guilt or shame for those mistakes.

Whether you hooked up with a random guy drunk or you quit a job too soon and are struggling to find a new one, mistakes are inevitable. They will continue to happen and they will become part of our past. But that’s the beautiful thing about our past—it doesn’t (need to) effect on our present days or our future days ahead. I think we forget that.

Do you ever have those nights where you stay up or can’t fall asleep because you’re reminiscing of all the things you’ve done or said that you regret? For me, that includes the two times in my life I got too drunk and cried in front of multiple people. Both happened this summer, and even though I didn’t do anything crazy that you’d see in a movie or during spring break, I still regret it.

As I talk about how much I regret and hate that I got drunk twice this summer, the more I laugh at how stupid that sounds. Why should I care? It was an accident, no one got hurt, nothing horrible happened, the world didn’t end, so why harbor those feelings and memories?

Trust me, getting drunk isn’t the only thing I regret. I have many things I regret including: almost all of my previous relationships, things I’ve said, how I’ve handled certain situations, etc.

What I’m trying to say is every time you make a mistake or a decision you regret (whether it was last night or 10 years ago) don’t beat yourself up for it. Let it go and move forward. Don’t look back at your past in shame or regret. It’s okay that you made a mistake; just learn from it and apply that to your future.

What do you need to let go of from your past? Maybe it’s an old relationship you never fully healed from. Maybe it’s a fight you had with an ex-friend. Maybe it’s a night you drank too much. Regardless, it’s time to let go and move forward from the regrets you have in your past. It’s in your past for a reason, so make sure to leave it there.

What do you need to let go of and move forward from? Make sure to share your thoughts and stories below!
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  • Joy

    Isn’t it frustrating when these things actually keep you up at night? I had an old boss who would say things that would burrow under my skin and I’d lose tons of sleep over it. Once I took a breath and realized she was taking out her own insecurities on me, I could let it go. As for saying or handling relationship things poorly…
    I remember dating or seeing a guy and thinking about everything I said and how he might have taken it and I would think it into the ground. Being married, I still probably do or say things that are so dumb… but now, I don’t even think twice about it because my husband REALLY isn’t reading into things. Frankly, neither were the guys I was dating/seeing. I made it all up and lost sleep over it. Until I read your post I never thought about the fact that somewhere in there I stopped reading into everything… so if it helps, that will come to an end. Haha. Happy Thursday, friend! And LOVE those wedges.

    • kiaracatanzaro@gmail.com

      Exactly! I think situations like this is where we DO make it up in our heads because that’s what we truly believed at the time. The truth is, we need to let things go and stop overthinking (I’m telling you–overthinking will be the death of me!) And we need to work on being more kind to ourselves with forgiving ourselves when we do make mistakes. At the end of the day, we are human and we aren’t perfect, so why should we pretend to be? Thanks so much for sharing all your stories and thoughts on this! It makes me feel good knowing I’m not the only one who has went through this!

  • Letting go of past mistakes is so important to move on in life from a healthy standpoint! Thank you for sharing your heart on this subject! Something that I’ve also learned in addition to letting go is to making changes. If there is something that I regret doing I think about how I got there. If I was out too late or hanging with a group of people who have different convictions than mine, or if I’m just lonely and need someone to talk to and pay attention to me I need to stop and think in the future. Will this help me? Will I regret this? Will this hurt anyone else? If the answer is yes to any of those 3 questions than I know it’ll only end badly, so I need to change my route of action.

    • kiaracatanzaro@gmail.com

      I love your insight on this! First, I appreciate your comment so much, so thank you for your kind words! The three questions you ask are ones that can be applied to most situations we encounter in life. Making changes can be difficult, but they are worth it if you know you need to make the change. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts on this!

  • Love those glasses!

    • kiaracatanzaro@gmail.com

      Thanks, girl!

  • Thanks for sharing your story with us! And I love your shoes!