How to Deal: Toxic Friendships

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We all have been there. And trust me when I say it’s not a fun place to be in. You love and care about your friend, but his or her problems adds stress on your life. Maybe it’s a friend you’ve known for years, but they constantly put you down. Toxic friendships are never easy to handle, but hopefully these tips can add some bliss to your life whether you’re experiencing a toxic friendship or have been through one in the past.

What is a toxic friendship?

A toxic friendship can be different depending on the person. To create a condensed list, a toxic friend is someone who adds negative, unnecessary stress to your life, makes you feel bad about yourself, puts you down, etc. The relationship is most likely one-sided (where you’re constantly supporting or helping them and they don’t return the favor when you need it). You find yourself spending more time ignoring them than wanting to hangout with them.

Can you stay friends with someone who is toxic?

This is another question with unlimited answers. In some cases, yes you can be friends with the person if you decide to talk to them about your friendship and how it’s causing you stress. If you can work past it, that’s the best case scenario. However, it can be difficult for that to happen because oftentimes, a toxic person won’t change. Sometimes, it’s best to distance yourself and remove yourself from the situation. If the friendship is particularly bad, it’s best to cut ties because you don’t need to deal with a bad friend. Your health and happiness should come first, even if it means removing a person from your life.

How do you know when to end the friendship?

Ending a friendship can be extremely difficult, but it can be necessary if your happiness is on the line. You should consider ending a toxic friendship no matter what because you shouldn’t feel stressed from a relationship. However, that’s easier said than done. If you find yourself exhausted from helping them through their daily problems, that’s a sign you should end the friendship. Or, if you feel that the person tears you down more than they build you up, you should also end the friendship. You shouldn’t be friends with someone who constantly brings you down. Be with people who build you up.

Although this topic is very difficult for anyone to handle, remember that you deserve to be with people who make you feel good and lift your spirits. Don’t have a relationship with someone who only adds negative energy. If you surround yourself with positive people, you’ll live a positive life.

Have you ever had a toxic friend? How did you deal with it? What advice do you have for someone who has a toxic friendship? Make sure to leave a comment below!

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  • Steph Jenssen

    Hey Kiara! Love this post, I definitely needed to read this! You offer some great advice, thank you for posting 🙂

    xx | Steph @ http://www.thelovelyessentials.com

    • No problem! I’m so glad it helped you; and thanks for the comment!

  • I have been in a toxic friendship before and it didn’t end well. I’m not a competitive person (like, not at all) but somehow our friendship became all about finding out who was getting the best grades, who was getting the most attention from boys, etc. I was sick of that and ended that friendship and I’m so happy I did.

    • Yes! Sometimes a toxic friendship can also be about competition. You shouldn’t see friends as competition, they should be people who you love and support and who also love and support you. Thanks so much for your comment.