FebYOUary: 10 Ways to Practice Self-Love on Valentine’s Day

Posted in Lifestyle
on February 14, 2018

Happy Valentine’s Day, friends!

I’m hoping that this post will help you rethink this holiday. Instead of being focused on being in love or not being in love, I think we can restructure this holiday to be about the love we have for ourselves.

Related: 5 Reasons to Make Self-Love A Priority

Self-love is all about nourishing the relationship you have with yourself. To be honest, that’s a pretty important relationship you should always be focusing on. Today, I’m sharing 10 ways to practice self-love not only on Valentine’s Day, but any day where you want to show a little gratitude toward yourself!

1| Self-love affirmations.

Choose some words of wisdom that truly stick out to you, and use it as a daily mantra or affirmation that you say to yourself at the beginning of each day. Not only will this bring your spirits up, but this will also serve as a reminder that you deserve love, and you deserve to treat yourself with kindness and respect. Therefore, you shouldn’t accept anything other than kindness and respect from others, you feel? Here are some affirmations that you can use:

“I am enough.”

“What you believe about yourself on the inside is what you will manifest on the outside.”

Are there any mantras you love? Make sure to share them below!

2| Journal to focus on your relationship with yourself.

What compliment do you refuse to accept about yourself? What do you need to forgive yourself for? Oftentimes, we overlook the things we aren’t happy about with ourselves, and shadow them with negative self talk. Instead, forgive yourself for what you did wrong when you were 17. Forgive yourself because you are human, and you are going to make mistakes. That’s okay. Instead of turning to negative self talk, try journaling to learn more about yourself in the process, so you can get to the root of the problem. Write everything down as a way of learning more about yourself in the process.

3| What is something you need to say yes to?

Saying yes and doing things that you love are both important. So make sure that you’re making time to do the things you love. With the help of minimalism, you’re able to create more time, money and energy for things you’re passionate about. You also have time to focus on the goals that mean the most to you so you can live your most blissful life.

4| What is something you need to say no to?

It’s equally important to say no as it is to say yes, so make sure you’re paying attention to what you say yes to and when you need to say no. Don’t commit to projects or events that you truly don’t want to be part of. If you have a ton on your plate, be honest about it at work, so that you’re not feeling overwhelmed. The key is communication and being honest with yourself on what you can handle.

5| Treat yourself to something special.

You don’t need a significant other or anyone else to have an enjoyable night! We know that self-care isn’t all about bath bombs, put pour yourself a glass of wine and watch a cheesy, romantic Hallmark movie. Or, you can take yourself out on a date. Bring your laptop to your favorite coffee place and relax while catching up on YouTube videos. Whatever you decide to do, make sure it’s something that you enjoy!

6| Give yourself a break.

You’re probably taking on a lot more than you realize. From working 40 hours a week, to cleaning and cooking, to spending time with loved ones, and making time for other commitments in your life —it can be difficult to focus on work-life balance. However, it’s not impossible. When you shut down for the day, make sure you aren’t bringing your work home. On the weekends, don’t consistently check emails. Remember that if there’s an emergency, someone will call you.

7| Do a lifestyle audit.

If you’ve been working on your vision board to achieve your goals, you probably have determined the big things you want to accomplish. Now, you need to focus on how you’re spending your time daily to make those dreams happen. How much time are you spending on social media? Is this helping achieve any one of your dreams? How can you better spend your time, so that you’re accomplishing everything on your list? Here are some questions you can ask yourself:

  • Is this helping me achieve my dreams?
  • Do I actually enjoy it?
  • What am I gaining by doing this?
  • Is this helping me to fulfill other needs in my life?

8| Fill your calendar with designated “me time.”

Schedule it in regularly just like you would schedule a doctor’s appointment or working out. The goal is to make sure you’re practicing self care regularly, and spending time with yourself whether you set aside 20 minutes or 2 hours. Enjoying time alone is a good thing even though it can be intimidating at first! If you want a separate post on learning to enjoy spending time alone, let me know in the comments!

9| Get rid of items that don’t make you feel good about your body.

Yes, decluttering your closet CAN be extremely therapeutic when you think about getting rid of anything and everything that doesn’t make you feel fierce and fabulous. You should only wear clothes that make you feel amazing and confident. Don’t own any clothes that don’t fit, or that you truly don’t enjoy. Trust me when I say that you won’t miss those old clothes.

10| Take a risk on something that excites you.

Accountability is a real thing, ya’ll. If there’s something that excites you, make sure you keep yourself accountable by enlisting the help of your support system. If you’re looking to write a book, have a few friends read the first draft to keep you on track. If you’re looking to sell a new product, have some bloggers test it out to see what they think of it! If it’s important to you, you will work on it regularly, and your friends and family will be there to support you. Remember that the goal here is to BELIEVE in yourself and believe in your dreams. Use those positive affirmations to help you along the way! Don’t let fear hold you back.

SO sweet friend, how are you going to practice self-love for the rest of the week? Make sure to share your plans for the weekend in the comments below, and share how you’re going to work on your relationship with yourself! 


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  • I completely agree that only keeping clothes that you actually enjoy wearing and feel good in can make all the difference!

    • Yes! My favorite thing is when people HATE the item and HATE how it looks on them, but they still keep it. WHY!? Haha. You should only have things you love and things that you know look good on you.

  • I love this so much! this is the first time in sooo long that I am single on Valentine’s Day but I am not sad about it, in fact I’m pretty happy I don’t have to spend money on someone else and I can use that to buy myself something instead, LOL! I’m going to spend tonight finishing up my puzzle, watching some TV, maybe make a bowl of popcorn and have a quiet night in. 💕☺️

    • We’re both the same person because having a quiet night in is probably my favorite night to have for myself. Spend a little quality time with yourself and enjoy! 🙂

  • I love that “me time” is becoming so popular. It’s SO important for people. Especially those who are known to pack their life with too many to dos!

    • EXACTLY! When you’re making it a consistent habit, you will see results for your mental and emotional health! It’s the same as eating healthy and getting in exercise regularly.

  • Ruthie Ridley

    Love this list so much!!! I am working so hard on those self-affirmations right now!

    • It can be difficult at first for sure. However, it truly does help to have some positive, self-love mantras for yourself!

  • I really like the “lifestyle audit” idea! It’s very wise to do that from time-to-time.

    • Sometimes, we do have to sit down and ask ourselves those questions. I’m happy this was something you could take away from my post!

  • I find that putting the “me time” on the calendar really helps a lot. I’m so structured and I always feeling like I should be doing something or accomplishing something. If it’s written down as something I should be doing, I actually feel better about doing it.

    • YES! I couldn’t agree with you more because I am the same way about scheduling things in. It helps because then it becomes part of my to-do list and part of my schedule.

  • Taylor Smith

    This is wonderful!!!

  • Nicole DaRosa

    These are fantastic! I’m huge on journaling so that one is my favorite 🙂

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