You know those friends who you haven’t heard from in months because they have become too involved with someone they’re dating? You know the type. Their Instagram feed solely consists of photos of them and their significant other. They can never hangout because they have plans (again) for a dinner date with that person, etc.
It can be frustrating to have someone in your life who acts that way, which is why I made sure that my relationship with Josh would never turn into that type of relationship.
I never want to lose myself for love. And you shouldn’t want to lose yourself either. I understand that you have to spend time with your significant other, and make sure your relationship is growing, evolving and improving every single day. Here are a things that you should never lose sight of regardless of the person you’re seeing.
1| Time with friends and family
Please don’t stop seeing your friends and family just because you have began dating someone new. If that person truly cares about you, they will always want you to spend time with your friends and family. If you’re scheduling time to spend with your boyfriend or girlfriend, you can schedule time to see your friends and family as well. Family should always comes first, and friends should always remain an important component in your life.
2| Your passions and hobbies
Why would you want to abruptly stop reading, writing, working out, or any other activity you’re passionate about? You would be surprised how many people will stop pursuing their passions because of the person they’re seeing. Never quit something unless it doesn’t make you happy. This is similar to the friends and family scenario—your partner should want you to pursue your passions because you love them! Focus on what you love and the people you love in your life. Your relationship should fit into the life you already have.
3| Time for yourself
Time for yourself is always important whether you’re in a relationship or not. But it can be easy to become dependent on a person always being around to the point where you don’t know how to be alone, or how to do anything on your own without feeling overwhelmed. Remember, you are a whole person. You’re not a half a person in love with another half of a person. You need to be able to do things alone and be comfortable with that fact.
It’s important to allow your relationship to flourish whether you’ve been together for three months or three years. However, you should never allow your relationship to control how you live your life, or how it affects other areas of your life. Don’t stop living a life you love only because of the person you’re dating. You shouldn’t stop being the person you once were simply because you’re dating someone.
Have you ever lost yourself for love, or have had a friend who lost themselves for love? What did you learn from it? Make sure to leave a comment below!