5 Reasons to Make Self Love a Priority

I. Love.Quotes. I was that girl in college who always had inspirational quotes on the walls of her dorm because she was that IN LOVE with quotes. I love learning inspirational messages, and dishing them out to friends and family where they’re struggling, or need a little pick-me-up pep talk. It’s not abnormal for me to search Pinterest for words of wisdom on a rainy evening. Recently, I was reminded of a quote, and it brought on a lot of emotions.

“If I asked you to name all the things you love, how long would it take for you to name yourself?”

It makes me teary-eyed to read those words and think that at one point in my life I would have said, “I don’t think I would name myself at all.”

Unfortunately, I don’t think I’m the only person who thinks that.

Bottom line: you need to love yourself.

We live in a world where it can be very difficult to love ourselves. With unrealistic standards of beauty, unrealistic standards of happiness and the do-it-all mentality—loving ourselves can be stressful and complicated. We are constantly absorbing content where we see other bloggers and people that exude confidence and happiness. They’re always doing something spectacular, fun and Instagram-worthy. We see fitness accounts filled with inspiration that makes us hate the way we look. And these are only a few examples.

We need to stop comparing our lives to the Instagram of our favorite blogger. In reality, that person still struggles with things we know nothing about. Similar to how other people don’t know what our personal struggles are.

So why should you make self love a priority?

1| It’s necessary for your health

Not just your mental health, but also your physical and emotional health, too. Self love affects all these areas of your well-being, so it’s important to love yourself. When you drop negative self talk, you’ll be more positive and confident. This positive change will bring out healthy ways of living like working out regularly and taking care of yourself. Self love is a powerful thing.

2| You focus on the most important relationship

The most important relationship you’ll have in your life is the relationship you have with YOURSELF. You have to live with yourself until the day you die, so you need to love and appreciate that relationship. Self love will help you focus and learn more about yourself, what you need and what your goals and ambitions are. Journaling and having time alone to yourself is important.

3| It reflects positively in other relationships

Because you’ll have a positive, strong relationship with yourself, you’ll notice a huge, POSITIVE change in your relationships with other people. Your love, confidence and bliss will resonate with other people, and that will change their perception of you for the better. They will want to be around you more because you have a positive impact on them in your friendship/relationship, etc.

4| You’ll be blissful

More importantly, you should practice self love because it will truly make you blissful. When you stop the comparison game with everyone around you—you feel the weight of mountains lifted from your shoulders. Real talk: NOT loving yourself is exhausting because you’re constantly at war with yourself. Always tearing yourself down while lifting someone else up. That isn’t a healthy way to live.

5| It’s essential. Period.

We need to remember that we are not perfect, and we weren’t created to be perfect. We are constantly striving to achieve the “best” life. And while being ambitious is a positive quality, the pressure we put on ourselves is too much. Self love is essential because there are many times where we think perfection is the answer when perfection is the reason for destroying our love for ourselves.

Today I’m encouraging you to give yourself a compliment (or five) because you’re absolutely amazing and you deserve to think so! Let’s set aside our flaws and focus on our strengths. We have positive qualities we should love about ourselves. Now it’s time to love ourselves the way our friends and family love us.

What do you love about yourself? Go ahead, be confident and leave a comment with your favorite qualities about yourself! How do you practice self love?

 

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5 Tips If You’re Interested in Minimalism

So, you want to be a minimalist?

Well, to be honest, I don’t truly consider myself a “minimalist” because there are a ton of expectations surrounding that word that I don’t agree with. But, I do tell people that my lifestyle has minimalist/intentional living ideas in it. Whether you’re just beginning your minimalism or you’re reevaluating your lifestyle altogether, here are 5 tips I give to people who are interested in pursuing a more simple, minimalist lifestyle.

1| It’s not all about Pinterest

Just because you see photo after photo of a perfectly white kitchen, white furniture, with very little color doesn’t mean that you aren’t a minimalist if you don’t want to replicate that in your own home. Although there are people who love white everything in their home and who a minimalist, that doesn’t mean all minimalists live in a perfectly white home. The same can be said for your wardrobe or anything else in your life. Just because it’s shown that way on Pinterest doesn’t mean it’s the only way.

2| Don’t make it overwhelming

The issue with calling yourself a minimalist is that you are immediately placed in a box where people place unnecessary expectations on you, and you feel trapped, overwhelmed and stressed. The purpose of this lifestyle is to remove stress in your life. If you decide that there are some things that are overwhelming about this lifestyle, take a step back and give yourself time. You don’t need to rush this process. You don’t need to follow through on every process just because some YouTuber told you to, which brings me to my next point.

3| THERE ARE NO RULES

I could write a novel about this because I’ll keep things short and sweet. There are no rules. There is no godly book of minimalism that gives a code to live by that you must follow or you will never be able to identify as a minimalist. You don’t need to downsize to a tiny home. You don’t need to be able to pack all your belongings in one suitcase. There are no rules with this lifestyle, so don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. What works for your will not work for someone else. That’s okay. That’s how it should be.

4| It can fit your lifestyle

The goal is to identify what your main goals are with wanting to pursue this lifestyle altogether. Are you looking to stop spending money unnecessarily on clothes, jewelry, shoes? Are you looking to save so you can pay off your debt? Are you looking to simple more simply because life has been stressful? Whatever your goals and intentions are: write them down and revisit them frequently to check your progress. Use that to work minimalism into your life that won’t bring any stress and will help you to achieve your goals.

5| You can stop/change 

Similar to anything else in life, if there’s something you don’t like about what you’re doing with this lifestyle, you can change it or stop it completely at any time. It’s okay if you work through some decluttering and downsizing to a smaller home if that’s your goal. If you want to practice saving, and conscious shopping but you don’t want to practice other areas of minimalism—that’s great, too. The point of this journey is to find what works best of your and your life. Something might not work for you, but you shouldn’t stress over it. Find what you love, and pursue it. Find what you don’t love and get rid of it.

I hope this helped anyone who was questioning whether or not this lifestyle would work for them. Although it can be very overwhelming to think about changing your life, remember that everything is temporary. You can apply this lifestyle to fit your needs and your life to help achieve your goals. You don’t need to follow any rules except the rules you give yourself on this journey. If anyone makes you feel stressed about not being “minimalist” enough, remind them that’s your journey and you’re happy with the way you’re living.

Have you ever considered minimalism? What is holding you back from trying this lifestyle? What questions do you have for anyone who is a minimalist?

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Monthly Favorites & Sharing Love

Wasn’t May 1st like…yesterday?

Is it just me, or is 2017 flying by for everyone else, too? Because I truly feel like this year has been flying by every single month and it doesn’t seem to be slowing down. Now we’re heading into the summer months, and I’m hoping to kick my blog work and goals into high gear for the second half of the year. What are your goals for June or for summer altogether? Make sure to share your goals in the comments below because #accountability. Am I right?! Also make sure to share what you’ve been loving this month whether they are beauty products, podcasts or anything in between!

May Favorites:

My favorites all weren’t necessarily beauty or fashion favorites, but they were favorites that I know we can all relate to if you love podcasts, blogging courses, and everything in between. Make sure to leave comment below telling me what you’ve been loving this month whether it’s food, fashion or tech-related!

1| The Lavendaire Lifestyle

I have been loving podcasts this month and I’m not too sure how I didn’t get into them months ago. I have been watching Aileen from Lavendaire on YouTube for awhile now, but I just recently began listening to her podcasts. Her podcasts alone have inspired me so much that I’ve been catching up on several episodes a day. (Not every day, but quite often!) I love how she is able to discuss different topics and reach her audience by sharing inspiration for living your best life. If you’re into podcasts like the Lively Show and Big Magic, you’ll love Lavendaire Lifestyle.

2| Blogging Courses

Y’all, I’ve been all about the downloads, e-courses, webinars, and everything else you can imagine. Whether it’s about pitching to brands, to learning more about Instagram—blogging courses in general have been my jam this month. I wanted to take the month to really focus on learning. So I put away the books for a month, and focused on courses, classes and videos. Needless to say, I have some plans for the blog I hope to share with you soon. I recently reviewed my notes from Erica’s #BrandOut presentation, and I’ve been putting some of those tips into actions. What blogging courses, webinars, e-books, etc. have you been loving? Make sure to share your favorites!

3| Pedicures

And if we’re being honest, I’ve been loving manicures, too. I go through phases where I get my pedicures done religiously basically from May to September and then stop from October through April. Because why spend money when your feet won’t see the light of day for months on end? So, I have given permission to treat myself for a few months out of the year for a pedicure and color change for summer.

4| Pinterest Inspiration 

For awhile, I was lacking inspiration in all areas of my life, but especially with blogging and my journey toward living minimally. I felt lost and needed to kickstart my inspiration ASAP. Pinterest has been incredible for me this month because of the way I’ve been using it. I haven’t been aimlessly scrolling on my feed. Instead, I treat it like “studying.” Ask yourself, what is your goal? Are you trying to get some motivation for decluttering your closet? Are you looking for clogging resources? Social media is an amazing tool to help achieve your goals when you use the platform wisely.

5| Self-Tanning Products

Back in high school and early college, I would tan for two months out of the year. You know the awkward period from April through May where you can wear spring/summer clothes, but you look horrible because you’re still so pale? But I know how horrible tanning is for you, which is why I decided to take an alternative route for getting a healthy, glowing look. My favorite product has been The Banana Boat Self-Tanning Lotion. It’s only $7 at Target (yes, really!) and I love everything about it. You don’t need to apply much to see results, and it doesn’t leave that sticky feeling on your skin. TBH it will be my go-to product from now on.


Sharing Love: May 

1| “I was born to stand out” from Erica 

I was yelling, “YASSS, PREACH” during this post because Erica was dropping some major true bombs left and right. Needless to say, I was ALL about it. Especially when she discussed how giving yourself permission to live your best life, you’re giving others permission to live their best lives as well! All of her insights on this topic hit home for me, so if you’re looking for a pick-me-up post, I’d give this a read as soon as possible. P.S. Who else joined in for Brand Out because I LOVED it. Let me know your thoughts on it in the comments on her tips!

2| How to Find Community in the Blogging World from Summer

Summer is one of those bloggers I can always trust for some amazing blogging advice, and this post was no different. I loved reading more about what specific things you should look for when looking for a blogging community that’s right for you and your blog. She also talks about the importance of community in the blogging world, which is something I needed to be reminded of. What are some of your favorite blogging communities and groups that you’re part of through social media? I’d love to check them out!

3| Summer Reading List from Neely

Guys, I needed a little reading motivation this month. The last two months have been slow in terms of books that I’ve read, so I’m hoping to change that for June and July. Neely has amazing taste in books, although I might be biased because I think her and I have similar taste in genres of books, which is why I trust her reviews and opening of books. Her post gave me a ton of new titles to add to my list for summer. I’m hoping to knock out three books or more for summer, so I want to get to it.

4| How to Stay Motivated from Rachel

Sometimes, it can be difficult to always stay motivated and stay on top of every to-do list, task and list of goals you have set for yourself. I love how she talks about the importance of finding your high energy times throughout the day so you can focus on your most important to-do list items for productivity. Organization and scheduling your day is so important to getting things done and staying motivated! If you’re trying to work on these things, check out her post!

5| Finding Work-Life Balance in a 24/7 World from Kristen

We simply live in a world where we are expected to work all the time and that’s not healthy whatsoever. It’s so important that we take time to set work aside, destress, unwind and recharge for the next day, so we can have another productive day at work! When I fist started my full-time job, I was all about working extra hours, checking emails at any hour of the day, etc. Now, when 5 p.m. rolls around, emails stop and I give myself the rest of the evening to relax and take the time to work out, read, spend time with Josh, etc. How do you unwind after a long day?

What have you been loving this month? What are some posts you have read this month that you have loved from your blog or from other bloggers? Make sure to share the links in the comments below!

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Why You Should Say Yes & Take Risks

Let me first say that I’m all about saying no when it makes sense to say no. For example, I will always say no to anything I know I truly can’t commit my time to in order to get that project or task done. I think it’s important to know when you should say no because it helps you understand what your limits are.

Recently, I have noticed a trend in my life where I kept saying no so much that life wasn’t enjoyable. I let fear dictate every decision even if it was to meet a friend for happy hour after work. Living with anxiety isn’t easy, and it’s something that was truly affecting my ability to say yes. Instead, I kept saying no.

I become so comfortable with saying no, that I stopped saying yes to opportunities. I stopped taking risks even if they were GOOD risks!

No bueno. Am I right?

I became comfortable with saying no because I didn’t want to take risks. I was afraid to take risks. I had already taken some risks, so I convinced myself that I no longer needed to say yes and take risks in life. My life felt stagnant because that’s what saying no and NOT taking risks does: It leaves you in a space when you’re not gaining or losing anything. You’re at a standstill. And that’s boring, and it’s not what I wanted my life to look like anymore.

There are so many things I said no to even things I wanted to say yes to. But the uncertainty of failing and fear consumed my mind and heart so much that I kept saying no. I continued to sit at a stagnant point in my life and truly not succeed.

If you’re questioning if you should take a risk whether it’s for a career move, beginning your business, writing a book, a relationship, moving across the country—do it. Don’t sit back and wait. There might not be time later in life. You’re always going to have fears regarding the risk you want to take, or saying yes to an opportunity. And that’s okay!

It’s okay to be afraid, but don’t say no ONLY because you’re afraid. 

If we were to only wait to do things when we felt “ready,” we wouldn’t accomplish anything. REAL TALK: You’re never truly going to feel “ready” to ask for that promotion, move to a different country, start your business that you’ve always dreamed of, but allowing fear to determine your future isn’t the answer.

So, I’m making a change.

Today, I will stop living in fear of all the things that could go wrong, and focus on all the things that could go right. Live is too short to say no to opportunities that will help you grow and get you to where you want to be in life. I let fear control me and my decisions for too long, and now—it’s time to say yes and it’s time to take a risk.

There are a lot of risks I’m hoping to take this year. And I hope you feel confident and comfortable to take that risk you’ve been wanting to take, too. I hope you feel confident and comfortable to say yes to that new opportunity you’ve been thinking about. Because if it’s still in your mind, it’s worth taking the risk.

What risks do you want to take this year? What is an opportunity you want to say yes to, but haven’t yet because you were afraid? Make sure to share your experiences in the comments below!

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Bad Day Essentials & 5 Reminders You NEED to Hear

We’ve all been there…

We have been having a stressful week (or month) where work has been piling up, you haven’t been able to take care of yourself, and you are ultimately not happy. One day, things seem to be going more wrong than right: you spilled your $6 Starbucks drink, you were late to a meeting, you forgot to submit a proposal to a client, etc. Things just don’t seem to be working out in your favor today.

When these days happen, it’s easy to let negativity take over and control the remainder of your day. But there are ways to turn a bad day around and get back in a better place. I’m sharing some of my bad day essentials and activities I like to do after a long, stressful day and how you can bring a little bliss back in your day to turn it around.

1| Journal, Adult Coloring Book, etc.

Tapping into that creative side might be the best things you can do to help relax and unwind from a bad day or stressful week. Whenever I need to take my mind off of something, I’ll blog if I’m feeling creative but I’ll also write in one of my journals or write for fun, or color. You can put away the bad for an hour and solely focus on creating.

2| Workout

There’s nothing better than getting an amazing workout in after a stressful day. I find that I reach all my PRs and feel the best after crushing a cardio workout, run a little longer, or do a few more reps of an ab workout. Not only does it help your physical and mental health, but it’s a positive way to release all that negative energy from the day.

3| All. The. Food.

Girl, if you had a bad day, don’t feel guilty about treating yourself to your favorite meal, dessert or snack. Buy your favorite sushi or visit that cupcake shop for your go-to treat. Treating yourself to something you love will instantly boost your mood and make you feel just a little better about the day you’ve been having.

4| “Feel Good” Things

After a bad day, it’s important to focus on the good things that you love. So now that you have your favorite food, now it’s time to watch your favorite movie, or spend a few hours reading that book you’ve been putting off for months. Spend time doing something you love and that you know will bring a little bliss to your life.

5| Pamper Essentials

Let’s be honest, there’s nothing better than treating yourself to anything pampering related. Make a last-minute appointment for a pedicure or manicure at your go-to salon. Or, if you’re on a budget, create a relaxing space in your bathroom for face masks, body scrubs and a long bath.

If you’re having a rough day or week or month, keep reading these five reminders I want you to hear to help you get through whatever bad you’re experiencing. Make sure to share some of your own positive reminders in the comments below that you tell yourself when you’re having a bad day.

1| Look for the positive in each day, even if some days you have to look a little harder.

2| Storms don’t last forever.

3| It’s a bad day, not a bad life.

4| When you can’t find the sunshine, be the sunshine.

5| The sun is a daily reminder that we can rise from the darkness. That we can shine our own light. 

What are some of your bad day essentials? What activities do you do whenever you’ve had a bad day? What quotes do you remind yourself to stay positive? Make sure to share in the comments below!

 

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