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Why You NEED to do Things That Scare You

Posted in Lifestyle
on August 16, 2017

I did something that scared me the other day.

I’m sitting in my room and shaking a little more than I should as I’m trying to give myself a pep talk. “Kiara, the video will only last for 24 hours. It’s NOT  a big deal,” I kept trying to  convince myself. But it WAS a big deal and it truly felt like a big deal in the moment. When you have anxiety, your mind can play a lot of tricks on you and make you believe things that simply aren’t true. Your mind is clouded with negative thoughts and it prevents you from stepping outside of your comfort zone.

But I didn’t want my mind to control the things I want to do, so I made several videos on Instagram Stories, and I was proud of myself.

I’m sure you’re thinking, “Kiara, you’re a blogger and you LOVE talking. How could you be afraid to make a video?”

Well, it had nothing to do with making the video at all or talking because you’re right…I could talk for hours about anything and everything. (Just ask ANYONE who knows me.) The truth is, I was letting fear hold me back from doing something I wanted to do. That’s when I realized that I didn’t want to live that way anymore. So, I took a deep breath and began recording and posting. The sky didn’t fall and there were no horrible comments made. It was refreshing. I did something despite feeling afraid.

Why you NEED to do things that scare you:

1| You may discover a new passion 

If you read the last post in my vision board series, I share a HUGE goal I hope to achieve in the next three years. For me, that’s sharing more video content and beginning a YouTube channel. TBH I’ve always been passionate about creating videos, but I’ve been TERRIFIED to simple make one because I feared the negativity from it. But I’ve learned that you will never know if you don’t try. Making the Instagram Stories videos solidified that I want to make more videos whether it’s on Instagram, for my blog, or for YouTube.

2| You gain confidence

I can’t tell how good it felt to do something I was afraid to do. To put it simply, you gain confidence when you do things that scare you. At one point in time, you thought you couldn’t do something—and then you prove yourself wrong! Let’s just say it’s such a wonderful feeling, and it’s worth the few seconds of fear you may have in the beginning.

3| You grow & gain new perspectives

Think about how much fear actually controls us. It’s the reason we don’t do SO MANY THINGS in life. You’re afraid of skydiving because you’re afraid of heights, but the second you begin falling—those fears go away. The highest point of fear is the second before you jump from the plane. Think of all the things you can learn and experience from removing fear from your life. By removing fear, you will naturally grow as a person and gain new perspectives.

4| You feel BLISSFUL

Point blank, PERIOD. You feel unbelievably blissful when you overcome a fear regardless of what that fear is. If you’re afraid to begin writing a book, start doing it anyway! The more you practice and work at that passion, the more you can feel confident (see point 1) and eventually publish that book despite the fear. Once you get over that initial feeling of fear, you can do anything and everything you want to do.

And that is the most blissful thing about doing something that scares you.

What is something YOU’RE afraid of but you WANT to do anyway? What fear have you conquered recently? Make sure to share your stories and thoughts in the comments below!

 

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5 Tips for Staying Organized

Posted in Lifestyle
on August 14, 2017

Whether you’re a sophomore in college or you’ve been at work for more than five years, it’s never too late to start organizing or focus on organizing your life. If you’re in the need of some organization and bliss in your life, I’m sharing five tips that will help you get and stay organized as we’re going into fall.

1| Consistency is Key

The number one way you can stay organized is to stay consistent with how you plan your day, week, and month. Do you use a traditional planner, or do you put everything on your phone? All I can recommend is that you have one strong method of organization and stick to it. Write down and check off your daily tasks, and always reference that one item.

2| Keep it Minimal

Going off of that piece of advice, keep your organization and planning methods simple. Don’t have a calendar that’s isn’t useful. Although I love Pinterest-worthy planners, I don’t think you need all the extra items to have a successful system. Whether you color-code everything, or you’re all about staying digital with your organization—keep it simple and minimal so you don’t stress.

3| Do Small, Daily Tasks

Instead of setting aside a four hours dedicated to cleaning, cooking and everything in between twice days a week, try to do small tasks every day so that nothing piles up. Clean up dishes immediately after each meal. Meal prep for the week on Sundays. Vacuum one day each week, dust another day, and clean the bathrooms another day and so on. It’s easier to stay organized and on top of everything when you’re not overwhelmed with cleaning and cooking. Instead of spending several hours a week on these tasks, you can spend 5-15 minutes a day, which is less overwhelming.

4| Plan Ahead

If you know every weekend is booked from now until October, make sure to use your time wisely and efficiently. The most difficult part about working full time and blogging full time is that you always have to plan ahead. For example, I knew my work schedule was going to be insane for August, so I made sure to plan blog content for the month in advance, so I wasn’t stressing about it when work would consume my life. Now with wedding planning in the mix, I know the fall and winter will be equally busy. So, I know I’l have to plan ahead so I don’t fall behind.

5| Know Your Limits

See above. Don’t overbook yourself, so that you’re stressed and making meeting last-minute. It’s not a fun way to live and you’ll always feel overwhelmed. Instead, know your limits on what you can handle. If you know you have a lot going on in August, don’t overcommit and stress yourself out even more. Take things one day at a time, and know what will work best for you.

How do you stay organized? What tips do you have that help you stay on top of all your tasks!? Make sure to share in the comment below!

 

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How I Really Feel About Being Engaged & How He Proposed

Posted in Lifestyle
on August 9, 2017

If you aren’t following me on social media, you might not know that I got engaged in July. Of course, I’m going to share all the details on how he proposed, but I also plan to share my REAL THOUGHTS on being engaged. I would also LOVE to hear your engagement stories in the comments below, so make sure to tell me all those love stories because I am a sucker for love and romance.

How he proposed:

It was Saturday, July 15th—four years to the day that Josh and I had first “met.” I use that term loosely because we met while working for our university as Orientation Leaders in July, 2013. We got to know each other well because the team was a small group of 15 people, so there were many long nights of talking with everyone and hanging out as college students.

Fast forward four years later, and we found ourselves back at university for a day trip. Orientation sessions were going on since it was July, so everything felt extremely sentimental to us and our relationship. As avid planners, Josh and I had talked about this as early as fall of last year because I had not been back to school since I graduated in 2015, so it was long overdue for a visit. Nothing seemed strange about the plan, but Josh knew all along that’s where he would propose.

We got in the car and drove off for the short hour and a half car ride. We jammed out to Bruno Mars (P.S. Can’t WAIT to see him in concert on the 15th!) and drove to our favorite restaurant for a late breakfast. Our meal couldn’t have been more perfect and delicious.

We stopped over to visit one of Josh’s roommates from college who works for the university. We caught up on life and talked for an hour before he had to go to work. Then Josh and I headed to campus to walk the trail along the river, and visit some of the buildings that had been remolded since I graduated.

After walking for awhile, we visited our favorite spot on campus. When we had first met and throughout our first year of dating, we spent a lot of time on this hill that overlooked the mountains on campus. It’s without a doubt, the most beautiful view at school. Josh told me he had to grab something from the car, and from the trunk he pulls out a cooler, which I thought was perfect since I really needed water.

I find a plastic bag in the cooler and in it is a picnic with two PB&J sandwiches and Reese’s peanut butter cups. And I’m pumped thinking, “Awe, he knows me so well. He brought more food.”

But, boy, can that man plan a surprise. 

He says, “So, I thought this was special because on our first date you packed my favorite food and took me on picnic to one of your favorite places in Buffalo to begin our relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend. So, I thought we could have the same picnic with the same foods at our favorite place on campus to end our relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend.” He goes on to telling me some wonderful, amazing things about us and our relationship before officially asking to marry me. We cried and hugged each other before I even thought about putting the ring on. It was the most beautifully romantic moment of my life.

I had NO IDEA it was coming, and you can clearly see that from the photos as I was sobbing my eyes out from his proposal. It was so personal and significant to our relationship. Then I see Josh wave to someone, and out comes his friend we met with earlier holding a camera. He got photos of the proposal, which also meant the entire world to me, and it still makes me cry to think about Josh planning this with his friends.

After calling our family and close friends, we got changed and we were able to get some photos that day of our engagement.

The next day, My parents came down to Pennsylvania to visit with Josh’s parents, and we celebrated with champagne, dinner and dessert. The weekend was simply magical, and I couldn’t ask for a better way to begin my engagement with the love of my life.


So, now we can get on to the details on how I REALLY feel about being engaged.

1| I’m excited to begin this new chapter

I love my fiancé, and I can’t wait to begin this journey of planning our wedding together because HELLO, we are both disturbingly organized. Planning and organizing makes us happy, so of course wedding planning will be so much fun for both of us.

2| I’m nervous because TBH a lot of people judge YOUR wedding

It has only been a month, so I don’t even have a full wedding planned yet. I don’t even have much of the wedding planned altogether. But, people have made so many comments about why I should never choose *that* venue or why my colors should definitely be *mint green and coral.* Everyone is so quick to throw shade at the plans for your big day and that’s wrong. Don’t ever judge what someone wants to do for their day because it’s personal to the bride and groom…not you.

3| I can’t get over the love we received on our engagement 

That weekend alone, I had calls, texts, Instagram messages telling me how thrilled and excited people were for our engagement—you name it, I had it. The amount of love Josh and I received that weekend was insurmountable to anything I’ve felt from family and friends. It was beautiful, and it reminded me how truly blessed I am to have the family and friends I have in my life.

4| Everyone randomly tells you about THEIR wedding…

And your girl is NOT here for it because to be honest, it’s a little awkward. Several people had asked me something related to my wedding, and not even 10 seconds into me answering their question is when they would tell me something about their wedding more than 10 years ago. “Well, back in the day, we didn’t have wedding websites, so why would you have one now?” Or, they will make snide comments about your decisions for your wedding (see number 2) and then proceed to tell you why you should do what THEY did for THEIR wedding. It’s weird and rude, especially when it comes off condescending. Please don’t look down on someone for whatever their wedding decisions are, and don’t try to convince them to change their mind by telling them what you did for your wedding.


So tell me, how did your husband/fiancé propose? Do you have any tips or blog posts related to wedding planning that you can share? Please send me links in the comments below!

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5 Looks I’m Lusting For: August

Posted in Fashion
on August 7, 2017

It has been a minute since I’ve done a five looks I’m lusting for post, and I knew August would be the perfect month to bring those back on the blog. After a month of self-care content and how to achieve your goals with vision boards, I want to keep August fun and fresh!

Make sure to share in the comment what summer trends you’ve been loving so far, or if you’re more excited for fall fashion coming up here in the next few months?! Also, if you were one of the MILLIONS of bloggers who talked about the Nordstrom sale, be sure to let me know what items you picked up that you would recommend to a friend.

Over-sized tops like this have been a staple for me all summer long, and I don’t think August will be any different! I love that you can easily wear this to work, but you can also style this casually with denim or shorts. I’m also loving the statement earrings that have been everywhere this summer, but I haven’t taken the plunge to buy them myself.

Cold-shoulder tops + chunky, strap sandals = the perfect outfit combination for August. I have also been loving the knotted-top trend that I’ve been seeing all over in stores and with other bloggers recently. It’s a simple detail that can transform a plain T-Shirt. I need more cold-shoulder tops in my closet because pretty soon I’ll be busting out my fall sweaters, and will have to say goodbye to my summer clothes for the season.

Ruffle sleeves and bold, embroidered patterns have been catching my eye all summer long. This dress is slaying the summer trend game with the off-the-shoulder trend, floral embroidered trend and ruffled sleeve trend. At first, I wasn’t sure how much I would like this, but after seeing it more and more, I’m definitely loving it for the end of summer. This dress instantly makes me want to take a vacation to the Caribbean, and makes me wish summer would never end. What are your thoughts on ruffled sleeves and bold embroidered patterns?

These romper dresses are EVERYWHERE and I’m not mad about it. Although I don’t think I could ever pull off this outfit, I love seeing other bloggers and influencers style it. The outfit is partly casual because of the romper, but the long “dress” in the back would make me feel like a movie star. Am I the only one who feels this way? Have you tried on one of these yet? TBH they seem rather intimidating, so I haven’t, but I’m starting to think I need to try one before summer’s over! So if you have any store recommendations, leave a comment below!

You know how I’m always throwing in a wild card outfit for these posts? Well, here’s my August wild card. You all know I love my white T-Shirts and cute booties, but that pinafore is quite overwhelming for me. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love the detail and that it’s denim, but I don’t think it would be anything I could pull off. It also takes me back to the 90s when I owned one pair of overalls that made me feel so cool. Do you own overalls? Are you liking that this trend is coming back? Let me know in the comments.

What trends and styles have you been loving this month? What are your thoughts on the trends I’ve shared today!? Make sure to share links for what you’ve been loving in the comments below!

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5 Things to be Happy About: August

Posted in Lifestyle
on August 2, 2017

Hey, July. You were the best month to date this year.

And no, I’m not only saying that because I got engaged. But, I will say that was a HUGE part of it! Today I’m sharing all the wonderful things I’m looking forward to this month, and I would love to know what you’re excited about now that it’s August! Make sure to leave your plans in the comments below!

1| Wedding Planning

So, if you didn’t hear the news on Instagram or Twitter, your girl got engaged! It has been crazy the last few weeks and I’ve been taking every moment in as we begin this new chapter in our lives. If you want to hear more about how my fiancé (still weird to say) proposed, leave a comment below, and I’ll share all the details and photos in a post!

2| AuGUEST

Who doesn’t love a good pun, #amiright?! So, I’ve been making a ton of plans in August to visit with family and friends that I’ve literally claimed the month of August to be AuGUEST. I’m so excited to see friends and family members in our home here in PA, especially with the recent engagement—there will be so much to celebrate and enjoy this month.

3| Focus on Fitness

Because #WeddingBod, right? I don’t believe in going overboard with not eating and working out seven days a week just to fit in a dress for a day. That’s not me and everyone knows it. I am passionate about healthy living and working out consistently, but I have been falling off track because of celebrating the engagement. So, it’s time to get back to where I was at a month ago. Do you have any workouts you’ve been loving on YouTube? Make sure to send them my way!

4| BRUNO MARS Concert

Because of all the excitement of getting engaged, I completely forgot about going to see BRUNO MARS this month! If you know anything about me, you know that I’ve been loving him since the beginning and his new album is FIRE. So I cannot wait to dance all night long without a care in the world! Have you been to any concerts recently? Which ones have you been loving or looking forward to?

5| Enjoying engagement

It’s so easy to get caught up in all the hustle and stress of wedding planning because there are so many expectations and Pinterest-worthy pins your friends and family are sharing. But, I’m simply looking forward to being engaged to my incredible fiancé and enjoying every moment of planning our wedding together.

So tell me, what are you happy about now that it’s August? What plans do you have this month that you’re excited about? Make sure to share in the comments below!

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