Welcome to my first post in my new series “A Mindful Mentality.” In this series, I hope to shed light on how to become more mindful in everyday life. The first component I want to talk about regarding mindfulness is authenticity.
A quote about authenticity from Brene Brown has always stood out to me: “Authenticity is not something we have or don’t have. It’s a practice—a conscious choice of how we want to live. Authenticity is a collection of choices we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.”
This isn’t some revelation. Being our true selves shouldn’t be difficult. Unfortunately, that is the case for many people. But why?
Because authenticity requires the ability to be vulnerable; and that’s absolutely terrifying.
Sometimes, we don’t want to reveal everything about ourselves because that means we must be vulnerable in front of others. It’s important to know that vulnerability is part of life. We can’t let being vulnerable stand in the way of who we truly are.
Because authenticity and approval aren’t synonymous.
Everyone wants to be accepted, but some people don’t click. Just remember that you can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be someone who hates peaches. Don’t change who you are in order to receive acceptance. Be you, and attract people who accept the real you. I promise you’ll love life with people who truly love you.
Because authenticity requires self-acceptance.
More often than not, we have problems with accepting every aspect of ourselves. The issue is that authenticity means self-acceptance is a must. So in order to be your truest self, you need to love yourself. This takes time, but you will get there.
Above all, remember that authenticity is a constant project. It won’t magically appear; it’s something that needs to develop over time. Authenticity is a step toward mindfulness of others and yourself, so it’s worth investing your time and energy.
How are you authentic in everyday life? Make sure to leave a comment below!