5 Reasons to Make Self Love a Priority

Posted in Health
on June 12, 2017

I. Love.Quotes. I was that girl in college who always had inspirational quotes on the walls of her dorm because she was that IN LOVE with quotes. I love learning inspirational messages, and dishing them out to friends and family where they’re struggling, or need a little pick-me-up pep talk. It’s not abnormal for me to search Pinterest for words of wisdom on a rainy evening. Recently, I was reminded of a quote, and it brought on a lot of emotions.

“If I asked you to name all the things you love, how long would it take for you to name yourself?”

It makes me teary-eyed to read those words and think that at one point in my life I would have said, “I don’t think I would name myself at all.”

Unfortunately, I don’t think I’m the only person who thinks that.

Bottom line: you need to love yourself.

We live in a world where it can be very difficult to love ourselves. With unrealistic standards of beauty, unrealistic standards of happiness and the do-it-all mentality—loving ourselves can be stressful and complicated. We are constantly absorbing content where we see other bloggers and people that exude confidence and happiness. They’re always doing something spectacular, fun and Instagram-worthy. We see fitness accounts filled with inspiration that makes us hate the way we look. And these are only a few examples.

We need to stop comparing our lives to the Instagram of our favorite blogger. In reality, that person still struggles with things we know nothing about. Similar to how other people don’t know what our personal struggles are.

So why should you make self love a priority?

1| It’s necessary for your health

Not just your mental health, but also your physical and emotional health, too. Self love affects all these areas of your well-being, so it’s important to love yourself. When you drop negative self talk, you’ll be more positive and confident. This positive change will bring out healthy ways of living like working out regularly and taking care of yourself. Self love is a powerful thing.

2| You focus on the most important relationship

The most important relationship you’ll have in your life is the relationship you have with YOURSELF. You have to live with yourself until the day you die, so you need to love and appreciate that relationship. Self love will help you focus and learn more about yourself, what you need and what your goals and ambitions are. Journaling and having time alone to yourself is important.

3| It reflects positively in other relationships

Because you’ll have a positive, strong relationship with yourself, you’ll notice a huge, POSITIVE change in your relationships with other people. Your love, confidence and bliss will resonate with other people, and that will change their perception of you for the better. They will want to be around you more because you have a positive impact on them in your friendship/relationship, etc.

4| You’ll be blissful

More importantly, you should practice self love because it will truly make you blissful. When you stop the comparison game with everyone around you—you feel the weight of mountains lifted from your shoulders. Real talk: NOT loving yourself is exhausting because you’re constantly at war with yourself. Always tearing yourself down while lifting someone else up. That isn’t a healthy way to live.

5| It’s essential. Period.

We need to remember that we are not perfect, and we weren’t created to be perfect. We are constantly striving to achieve the “best” life. And while being ambitious is a positive quality, the pressure we put on ourselves is too much. Self love is essential because there are many times where we think perfection is the answer when perfection is the reason for destroying our love for ourselves.

Today I’m encouraging you to give yourself a compliment (or five) because you’re absolutely amazing and you deserve to think so! Let’s set aside our flaws and focus on our strengths. We have positive qualities we should love about ourselves. Now it’s time to love ourselves the way our friends and family love us.

What do you love about yourself? Go ahead, be confident and leave a comment with your favorite qualities about yourself! How do you practice self love?


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  • Alissa Carpenter

    Self love is so essential not only for us as individuals but to help us really thrive in our personal relationships. Thanks for such an awesome post!

    • Thank you for reading, and I’m happy to know you’ve enjoyed this post! Thanks, Alissa!

  • So well said! Thanks for the reminder 🙂

  • I love my blue eyes and how thorough I am when I research something (whether its a new tv or pair of shoes). Thanks for the self-love tips!

    • Those are amazing things to love about yourself, Davi! You’re welcome; and I’m so happy to hear that you’ve enjoyed reading these tips.

  • Wow, that statement really does make you do a double-take. I think we’re all way too hard on ourselves, and it’s crazy. Taking the time to love yourself and all of the amazing qualities we each have is a must. Thanks for the reminder.

    • You’re so welcome, Cara! I agree that we are always too hard and negative with ourselves and we truly need to focus on self-love so much more. Thanks for your comment!

  • Corey Wheeland

    I struggle with self-love, but now that I have a daughter, I try to be much easier on myself to teach her that loving oneself is so important!

    • That’s so wonderful that you’re working on this, Corey! It’s amazing to see what that positive impact will have on your daughter when she grows up! She’ll look to you and know she has a wonderful mom. Thanks for your comment!

  • This reminds me of the sex and the city movie, where Samantha decides she needs to work on the relationship with herself above anything else. Such a powerful scene

    Self love is so so important, and often overlooked. I love myself because I am TENACIOUS. If I decide I want something, try and stop me.

    Fab post!
    Laura @ http://www.cookwineandthinker.com

    • YES, GIRL! Focusing on your relationship with yourself is so darn important in life because at the end of the day, you’ll always have yourself. 🙂

  • I love this post and it is so important to make self-love a priority! When we love ourselves, we can give so much more love to the others in our lives! Thank you for sharing 🙂

    Kristen | http://www.sophisticatedgal.com

    • Couldn’t agree with you more on this, Kristen! My hope is that other women can see that they should make self-love a priority in their lives simply because they deserve it! Thanks for your comment.

  • My favorite thing about myself is my ability to connect with other people! Learning to love myself has made it so much easier to love others. You can’t pour from an empty cup 🙂 Great post, thank you for sharing!

    • YES, Exactly! You can’t pour from an empty cup, so it’s important to focus on loving yourself and taking care of yourself. great message, Amanda!

  • I have been doing yoga and meditation as part of my self-care ritual for several months and I can’t believe I went so long in life without it. Really support self love.

    • I’ve heard so many positive benefits of practicing yoga and meditation more regularly, so I’ve been trying to meditate a little more on weekly basis. It has done wonders to say the least!

  • Yes, this is so important! We should all love ourselves and make ourselves a priority.

    • Thank you, Jenny! I’m so happy you agree with that 🙂 Thanks for reading!

  • I love that quote and I love the point you make about it reflecting in other relationships. I know that when I’m in a healthy place with how I feel about myself, I can focus on giving more to others!

    • Thank you, Chelsie! I appreciate that so much! I couldn’t agree with you more on this because it’s so true.

  • Self love is something I love reading, and talking, about. We are all at our very bests when we’re comfortable and happy in our own skin. I’m certainly no expert at it, and I probably have more bad days than good, but I’m still actively trying to change the way I see myself. I am determined to live a good life and I’m not going to let any self negativity bring me down!


    • PREACH, girl! I love your mindset on this because we should all want to live a good life and not let the negativity get to us ever. Loving the positivity in your comment–so thank you!

  • Self-love is a hard one for me, but I am working on it. This past weekend I was updating some old posts and found that I have come a long ways from where I was then. However, I still have a ways to go before self-love will feel like second nature. What I love about myself is my ability to be honest with myself about where I am in my journey. Two years ago, this would not have been possible.

    • I’m so happy to hear that this is something you’re working on, Erin! And yes, I was actually working on the exact same project and having the same realization. Although I was cringing at some old posts, I also realized, “Wow, I’ve come so far.” We’re definitely on the same page with that. And I love that you mentioned being honest with yourself because that’s so important especially when you’re focusing on your specific journey. LOVE this!

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