4 Tips to Help Stop Unnecessary Shopping

Posted in Fashion, Lifestyle
on March 29, 2017

We’ve all been there when we are excited about tax returns and feel that spending money to #treatyoself is completely justifiable. TBH, I’m all for treating yourself if you’ve been working hard achieving all your girl boss goals and saving money to buy something you wouldn’t normally spend money on otherwise.

But, what isn’t justifiable is dropping hundreds of dollars every few months on clothes, shoes, and everything in between that you truly don’t need or love.

I can relate in some ways because I loved having things. I loved having things even if I didn’t love that particular item. A pair of shoes sat in my closet for two years because I didn’t love them. Even worse, I would still buy other shoes if they weren’t practical and if I didn’t love them. The stuff piled up.

Why do we buy things unnecessarily? There are a ton of incredible articles on this topic that could be an entire blog post in itself, but I’ll that’s a different story for a different day, y’all.

So, how did I stop shopping unnecessarily?

I changed my mindset. I had a little heart-to-heart with myself over a year ago when I decided to get rid of more than 60 percent of what I owed. Today, I want to share some of those mindsets and ideas I incorporated to my lifestyle and how it has helped me even more than a year later. If you’re looking to add a little bliss to your life, wallet and closet, keep on reading!

1| You can’t take it with you when you die

Okay, Kiara…we’re starting off a little morbid here. But when you think about it—it’s true! You can’t take anything with you when you die, so how important are those pair of shoes or that handbag you want to buy? This also applies with minimalism because there are so many things we have in our closets that we never use or wear. Instead of having those pieces collect dust, you can sell them or donate them so they can go to someone who will love them. You don’t need to buy another pair of jeans when you have 10 pairs in at home. Use what you have and use it as motivation to remove what you currently don’t use or love in your home.

2| The things you own don’t truly matter

Picture yourself when you’re 70 years old. Are you really going to think about all the fabulous clothes you bought (and most likely haven’t had for more than 40 years) or are you going to think back on the important things in life like your family, where you’ve traveled to, your career, and what you’ve done on earth? I promise you won’t remember a dress from your 20s. So when you’re out shopping, think about the simple questions first like: if you need it? Do you love it? Is it versatile? Is there anything similar to it that you already own? Etc. Then think about the actual wear you can get out of that item over the years. If it’s a classic blazer you know you’ll wear for 10 or more year, buy it. If it’s a trend that you think won’t last for more than a year, skip it. Remember that you’ll be spending a lot of money on clothes over the years, so everything you buy at this point in your life is temporary. It’s best to save or invest where you can.


Going off that last sentence…can we think about how much money we spend on clothes in our lifetime? I can’t even imagine that number, but I know that I want to decrease that number by the time I’m 80 years old. When you shop, think long term. Don’t want to buy something that you’ll only love for a year or two. Invest in pieces you can keep for 10 years or longer. There’s this idea we’ve learned that buying trends is normal and that fast-fashion is inevitable. But it doesn’t have to be. We can invest in high-quality items that we will wear and love for decades rather than spending $10 on a top that we will only wear once. I would rather spend $100 on the perfect LBD that I’ll wear for years than spend $10 on 10 dresses than I will only wear a handful of times. Think about the money and time you’ll save yourself when you stop shopping unnecessarily.

4| What can I do instead?

Instead of buying a pair of trendy shoes, what can you put that money toward? Whether it’s a house, travel, your child’s college fund, retirement plan, or an investment for your business—there are so many more important things you can do with your money than spend it on clothes, shoes, accessories, and ALL. THE. THINGS. You have goals you want to achieve and you have plans for yourself, so think long term about your money and what you’re spending it on. I don’t know about you, but there are a lot of things I want to do with my money rather than see it wasted on things I don’t love in my closet. Next time you’re out shopping, think about what you could do with that money instead down the road.



I hope this inspired you to think about your spending habits and how you stop unnecessary shopping! Make sure to leave a comment below on other tips that help you stop from spending money when you’re shopping! P.S. what’s something that you almost bought, but were happy you didn’t spend the money on? 

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  • Abby

    The best way I’m able to avoid shopping is to not even visit stores’ websites. As far as near-purchases I’ve been glad I didn’t make, there are a TON. I often add items to my virtual cart, but when it comes to check out I realize I don’t need the items I’m selected, even if they’re way on sale.

    • I’m not a big online shopper, however I love to browse and search for things online to read reviews and learn more about products, etc. But I know exactly what you mean with filling up the virtual cart and then realizing you definitely don’t need all those things!

  • Ashley Stephenson

    I definitely need to listen to your tips! I have a shopping problem. But I am working on it!

    • It’s okay that it’s a work in progress! That is what life is about! I hope these tips have helped you, Ashley!

  • Leighann Hall

    Yes to all of this! I love thinking about what I can do with the money instead! Often times a new outfit could equal some sort of utility bill or phone bill! It changes the way you look at things!

    • Exactly! Of course, I’m all about treating yourself when it’s within reason, but I don’t think it’s reasonable to always spend money on unnecessary things where there are bills to pay, trips to go on, etc.

  • sheismelrose

    I do feel like is wasted money i recently went to event where you trade and donated clothes by a group called girl mob it was amazing

  • Sarah Jean

    When I feel tempted to buy myself something I first take inventory of what I already have. For instance, before I buy a new cream at Sephora I realize I have a handful of samples I still haven’t used yet from the store and that helps me NOT buy more.

    • Ooh, I love that idea especially for Sephora because you can definitely get carried away with all the different samples. I’ve been trying hard to say no to the product first, but try a sample size beforehand. If I truly love it that much, I’ll be back in the shop to buy the full size version!

  • Elizabeth Johnson

    This is a great post! It is so easy to get caught up in buying things. I like to have a list when I go to the store that way I don’t buy extras. I also don’t go to the store a lot. I find that if I stay home I am way less tempted to spend money. With two kids they help keep me busy and off of Amazon. haha!

    • Yes! Always sticking to the list is so important when you don’t want to overspend and you can focus on what you truly need!

  • Abbey Phipps

    I love your point that the things you own don’t truly matter. I’m spring cleaning (okay, nesting) right now, and I’m realizing that more and more! Filling up our dumpster pretty fast, too! Haha

    • Thank you so much! I know some people might take that in a negative way, but it couldn’t be more accurate when you think about the big picture!

  • I like the point about investing in pieces that you would wear for a long time vs. fast fashion. It’s worth it in the long run!

    • YES! I’m all for investing in high-quality items when it makes sense. Like a great pair of work heels I know I’ll need to wear several times a week or a LBD. You can never go wrong with investing in these items!

  • Leah

    Girl. This is such a real post for me! I am such a shop-a-holic and it’s a seriously problem. I really struggle giving things up in my closet 🙁 Something though, that I’ve found helps is having a friend come over and help me go through my closet. If I am struggling with giving away a particular item, I let them decide!

  • Lauren McPherson

    This was very good for me to read, I’m an avid shopper and it gets even worse when I’m anxious about something! Definitely going to use some of your tips!

    • Thank you so much, Lauren! I hope that these help you in the future when you try to not make a purchase.

  • Kseniya Gershberg

    Great tips! I am a recovering shopaholic and sometimes still buy on impulse especially if it says SALE! These are really great tips because you can’t take all the stuff with you when you die and there is so much more to life than possessions. I agree that traveling and making memories are so much better.

    • I definitely hear you about the sale items, girl! But I’m happy that my post and tips resonated with you about how you can’t take the things with you when you die because it’s true! And yes, there’s so much more to life than the items in your closet.

  • Meg

    Sometimes it’s frightening to look back and see how much money goes toward frivolous things every month. But you’re right, and these are really good points. I’m keeping them in mind as I continue to fight the urge to shop for things I don’t need.

    • Thanks so much for your comment, Meg! I truly appreciate it! And I hope that these tips help you next time you’re considering spending money on something you might not need! 🙂

  • Robin

    Thank you for this post! I can relate so much to the feeling of just wanting to HAVE MORE THINGS. I love the feeling of putting something new in my already bursting closet (who am I kidding – closetS). But I feel shame when I think about how rarely I wear most of it, and I literally avoid looking at my own credit card statements for as long as I can get away with it. It took a tough conversation with my husband to get me to stop shopping for as long as I can – I’ve made it since December so far, and it feels like an eternity. But I also feel lighter! What also helped was giving away three giant, bursting bags to ThredUP. Hoping I make a little money off of it, and the rest gets donated!

    • That’s amazing to hear, Robin! You should definitely treat yourself (but instead of shopping, treat yourself to a nice drink or massage!) I am so happy to know that this post was helpful for you and that you have been doing so well since December with trying to remove items from your closet and trying to shop less! So wonderful to hear 🙂

  • These are such helpful tips! I think the one I need to remember most is how much money I’m wasting on things that don’t really matter. At this point in my life I want to spend my money on more experiences, like trips or taking classes or learning a new hobby or skill. Material things are so pointless (even if they do look nice lol).

    • I am the same way! I want my money to go to a great concert and more trips! I love that you also mentioned taking classes and picking up hobbies or doing things you love! So much more important rather than a dress or a pair of shoes!

  • Love this! I’ve started only buying things I love and it’s been such a huge gamechanger.

    • Yes! I won’t ever buy something unless I love it! Of course, I have to need it, and it has to serve a purpose as well. But yes, loving the item is so darn crucial!

  • Goals are helpful for me — whether that be saving for a vacation or sometimes a specific purchase instead of impulse buys.

    • I love that you brought up goals on this because it can help to go on spending freezes so you can stop shopping slowly. First, see how you do after three months, and then continue from there!

  • Kristen

    Love this post! It’s so easy to get caught up buying stuff you don’t need or sometimes even really want!

    • Thanks so much! You’re right–there are so many people who can easily get caught up in material items and shopping altogether!

  • Totally agree. Since I started working from home and some of my sizes have changed I started to pare down my closet for the sake of space. Then we moved to a house and minimalism hit me HARD because people kept telling us “now that you’re getting a house, wait till you see what you accumulate!” I take that as a challenge because I’m stubborn and resistive about people’s assumptions (haha) so I continually pare down when I feel like I EVER have even the slightest bit “too much” My closet is tiny and I share it with my husband with no problem! It’s freeing! Great post.

    • Thank you so much for your comment, Joy! I definitely know what you’re talking about moving into your own space because it’s true–you can watch so many things pile up in your home because there’s so much room for more stuff! It’s truly a crazy cycle! I am the same way as you, though! I am so determined to keep my home more minimal so I try hard to check-in every 2-3 months to get rid of some things within reason!

  • Taylor Mobley

    Great tips! I totally agree. This is definitley something I need to work on!

  • Great tips girl! I am so guilty of purchasing items that I really honestly didn’t need but at the time couldn’t not buy. I’ve wasted a lot of money in the past. Now I ask myself do I really need it and what purpose would it serve if I purchased it. Of course we all need clothes and shoes but if I have something similar to it…I don’t need it.

    • I’m glad you have been asking yourself those questions prior to buying something because that it what helps me so darn much! I see so many friends willingly buy something and they later realize they don’t even like the item and they don’t have a purpose for it!

  • YASSS! I used to never bring money with me really. IT trained me to really not purchase something unless I was still thinking about it days later and wanted it enough to go all the way back lol

    • Yes! I am the same way. Even when I’m walking around and running errands, I try to only bring the money I know I’ll need to use so I have no way of overspending or buying things I don’t need!

  • So, so true. As a “stuff person” I have such a hard time with this, but I absolutely know you are right.

    • I’m happy to know you’re honest with yourself about being a “stuff person.” I hope these ideas help you get started with working toward having less stuff! 🙂

  • Candy Kage

    Don’t go to the stores, and don’t shop on line. Find something else to do and stop wasting money. Save instead.

  • YES! I have been so good about this, even at Target! I’m trying my best to be intentional!

    • Wow, if you can do this at Target…you can literally do anything! HAHA!

  • These are great tips! I feel like I’ve been so much more INTENTIONAL about my shopping lately. When I find myself wanting to buy that cute top at Target or whatever the purchase may be, I ask myself WHY I want it and usually it’s just because I’m feeling stressed or down about something and let’s get real, that will NOT fill that void for long.

    • Yes! It’s so darn true because we’re used to buying things unnecessarily because we thinking buying things will make up happier and help us when that emotion will still wear off eventually.

  • This is on point! I’m doing a no buy month and I realized how many unnecessary things I want!

    • Thanks, girl! I appreciate it 🙂 And I know exactly where you’re from with that because I’ve been there. It’s hard to fight through at first, but when you’re strong about it it definitely becomes easier.

  • Love this post. I have to tell you I had to smile at your comment about shoes. I’ve just glued on new sole to a really old pair of black boots. They really need to go in the bin, the cobbler said he couldn’t put new soles on, but I love them and I’m not ready to give up on them yet. I hate new shoes/boots and often buy second-hand purely because I hate breaking shoes in. I’d walk around barefoot if I could but here in UK that’s a bit off limits.

    • I know exactly where you’re coming from, Wendy because I was the same way about a pair of sandals that I have taken with me all over Europe, the U.S. and everywhere in between! I refused to get rid of them but I also knew that if I wore them even one more time they would break completely. I did a botched job trying to fix them myself and I think this summer will definitely be the last time I can wear them!

  • This is excellent and something I should read everyday. I’m so guilty of buying clothes I either don’t wear or don’t love.

    • Feel free to save the post or share so that you can see it as a reminder in the future 😉 I’m happy to know this helped you! It’s okay if you buy things, but if you don’t love them or wear them–why buy it?

  • Ugh I’ve been so bad lately, so I definitely need this!!

  • What can I do instead?? That will be my go-to.

    • Yes! It definitely helps me too! And I hope it will help you down the road when you’re questioning if you should buy something next time. 🙂

  • jennadesigns

    Very true – you can’t take it with you. I choose to spend the majority of my money on things that give me memories. I’ve invested in a good camera because I take tons of pictures that I treasure and hopefully someday my children will treasure too. I spend money on my home because I was to provide a beautiful environment for my children to grow up in. But I rarely spend money on myself, clothing, etc. Even vehicles … we drive two, older, paid off cars. It took me a while to get to the mindset that I’m at now, but I’m glad I got here!

    • Memories, adventures, and experiences are all so incredibly important to me! I’m so glad you were able to develop this mindset as well because it’s something that you’ll see benefits from in the future. Thanks so much for sharing! I appreciate your comment 🙂

  • Jewels Rhode

    This is such a great list!! Recently, I almost bought an expensive bag, but I’m glad I reconsidered!

    • That’s so great to hear! It all starts small. Now that you stopped yourself from that purchase, it will be even easier to talk yourself away from future purchases you won’t need as well!

  • I’m slowly (and slightly failing) on changing my mindset to something similar. I think one thing that will help is to go through my closet again and just get rid of things I don’t wear anymore. Then I’ll shift my focus back to the “do I really need this?”

    • Yes! Beginning with a good declutter session will definitely motivate you because then you won’t want to fill it back up once you’ve worked so hard to remove and clean it out! Then it’ll be easier to talk yourself away from over-buying and buying unnecessarily altogether!

  • Makeup (particularly lipstick) is my downfall… and price is just a label when it comes to makeup. So it’s cheap? I can get 5 instead of just 1!! So it’s expensive? It’ll be worth it… But thinking about what I could do with the money instead is such a good idea- I’d never really thought about that, but it’s all money that could go towards a nice retreat with my boyfriend, or a trip to Belgium to visit my Dad!

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