23 Things I’ve Learned in 23 Years

Posted in Lifestyle
on April 19, 2017

While you’re reading this, I’m off adventuring in Boston for the first time with Josh in celebration of our birthdays. Yesterday, I turned 23 (eek!) and I have to say that I’m happy with where I’m at with this age. Today, I want to share 23 things I’ve learned in 23 years with you. Make sure to share some important lessons you’ve learned over the years as well!

1| Do more of what makes you happy.

Why wait until you’re 30 to pursue your dream job? STOP WAITING. Go out and do all the things you want to do right now. I’ve realized that your passions are your calling and you should always pursue them. So go out and start doing what you love!

2| Love above all else.

Let’s be real, friends. Life is too darn short to waste it on hatred. Giving love even when you think that person may not deserve it is one of the strongest things you can do. When in doubt, let love win. Always choose love and always give love.

3| Don’t let social media fool you.

That girl took more than 40 selfies to get the right angle to post on Instagram. The lighting isn’t always perfect, and yes—everyone reuses their Starbucks cup for several Instagram photos because no one wants to spend $50 a week on coffee.

4| If you can’t get a miracle, be a miracle for someone else.

Simply remember the words.

5| Friday nights are different. And that’s okay.

Because there’s nothing better then spending a night in with good friends, some Disney songs and a lot of sushi. You don’t always need a night out to enjoy your time with people you care about.

6| Surround yourself with people who lift you up.

You deserve to be around people who love you and appreciate you. Don’t waste time on people who are negative and don’t bring anything positive to your life. You’re a product of your environment, so make sure you’re spending it with amazing people.

7| Savings are too important to ignore.

Girl, pay off your debt and start putting aside money every week and every month. You can’t pretend that savings aren’t important because they are. Set a budget, prioritize the necessities, and start saving money for your future house, travel, your business or anything else that is important to you.

8| Quality over quantity.

Now is the time to invest. Invest in one pair of high-quality shoes that you will love and use for the next 10 years. Invest in your skincare products, invest in good luggage, invest in a a good piece of jewelry you’ll wear every single day. But always remember quality over quantity.

9| You are enough.

You are enough. You are so enough it’s unbelievable how enough you are.

10| Take care of yourself.

Drink water. Get enough sleep. Keep your home clean. Make yourself healthy meals you truly enjoy. Make regular doctor’s appointments. Ask for help when you need it. Take time for yourself when you’re overwhelmed.

11| On that work/personal life “crisis.”

In the midst of what seems to be a disaster, ask yourself: will this matter in five years? The truth it, it might not even matter a year from now or a week from now. Take every “crisis” in stride and remember that this too, shall pass.

12| Minimalism matters.

Get rid of anything in your life that isn’t beautiful, useful or brings a sense of joy. You’ll be amazed what a difference this makes.

13| Forgive yourself & others.

Things happen and everyone makes mistakes. Forgive others if they have wronged you, but also remember to forgive yourself of your past mistakes, too.

14| Travel and explore.

The world is too large and beautiful to stay in one place. Spend money on adventures and traveling. Traveling is the only thing you can buy in life that will make you richer.

15| Spend time alone.

The most important relationship, and the relationship you’ll have for the longest is with yourself. Enjoy time alone and use it to learn and grow. Your future self will thank you.

16| Never stop learning.

You have a degree, but that doesn’t mean you should stop learning. Read as much as possible. Listen to podcasts. Watch documentaries. Listen when someone is speaking. Travel (See number 14). There are so many opportunities to learn in your lifetime.

17| Treat yourself.

Treat yourself to a hot bath with Lush products, or to a glass of wine, or your favorite dessert. Buy that Starbucks drink when you know you haven’t had it in months. You deserve it. Remember it’s the little things in life!

18| On working out.

Working out isn’t just about “looking” good. You should be spending time working out because it’s good for your mental, physical and emotional health. Work out because it’s a priority for your well-being. Find exercises you enjoy and do them regularly.

19| Don’t sweat the small stuff.

Don’t let that negative email from your boss or the evening traffic get to you. Life is too short to get worked up over things you can’t control. Remember this when something unexpected and frustrating comes along in your life.

20| It’s okay to not have it all figured out.

Of course, we want to be able to say we know exactly what we want and have our 5-year plan mapped out. This isn’t always realistic. It’s okay if you know where you want to be in 5 years. But if you don’t, that’s okay, too because plans change. It’s all about being able to roll with the punches.

21| Dress up. Show up. Never give up. 

If you’re having a rough day, dress up and spend a little extra time getting ready so you feel good. Put on an outfit you can rock all day. It will help with your productivity and happiness throughout even the most difficult Monday. I promise.

22| Learn when to say yes and no.

Say yes to adventures, new experiences and things that will bring you the most joy. Say no when you know you’re unable to fully commit to something and when you need a break. Learn when to say these two words, and you’ll always find balance in your life.

23| Be thankful.

Be thankful for every positive and negative experience in your life because it was either a blessing or a lesson. Regardless, it was able to help you grow! Express gratitude at every opportunity.

What are some life lessons you have learned over the years? Make sure to share them in the comments below!



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  • I learnt most of these. The most important thing I learnt is to take care of yourself in every way possible. To take care of your health, your body, to pamper yourself, to put yourself a little higher than you used to do.

    Cristina | *janded

    • I couldn’t agree with you more! I think focusing on your health and taking care of yourself is so important!

  • Happy birthday!! #1 and #2 are so important–there’s no reason to wait when it comes to choosing to do what you truly want to do in life. Also, #4 rings very true in my own life right now.

    • Thank you so much! Number four is something I hold close to my heart, so I am glad this resonated with you.

  • “Savings are too important to ignore” – SO true. Happy birthday girlfriend – cheers to 23+ many more years!

    Coming Up Roses

    • Thank you, Erica! I appreciate it! And yes, savings NEED to be a priority especially when you’re young!

  • Happy Birthday girl!!! These are all great lessons! I agree that learning when to say yes and no is so important. We tend to overload ourselves and sometimes saying no is needed. Taking care of yourself is key! I am also all about treating myself. Loved this!

    • Exactly. I guess the main point is always to think about balance: where to say yes and no, when to treat yourself and be healthy, etc. Glad these lessons were helpful for you! And thank you for the birthday wishes.

  • Happy birthday! Thanks for sharing all of these tips 🙂 I agree with all of these tips! I think one of the most important lessons I’ve learned is that it’s totally OK to not know exactly what you want to do with your career/life. Life changes so often and it’s a GOOD thing, so embrace it!

    Kristen | http://www.sophisticatedgal.com

    • Yes! I couldn’t agree with you more. Sometimes, your master plan might change–and that’s perfectly okay! Life is all about learning how to roll with the punches and take change gracefully. Thanks so much for your comment, Kristen!

  • Robin

    First – happy birthday! Second – yay, Boston! I live there – hope you have an amazing time! 🙂 Third – these are such valuable lessons that I’m glad you’ve learned at 23! Many people don’t figure some of these things out until they’ve spent many more years agonizing about things that won’t matter down the road.

    • I wish I would have talked to you more about my trip! We had a wonderful time. We were able to see the marathon, and experience so much life in the city. It was amazing to experience. And, of course, we had SO MUCH AMAZING FOOD! When I plan my trip back, I’ll be sure to ask for some recommendations!

  • Happy birthday! These are all such important lessons.

  • Happy birthday! All good lessons to remember, no matter what age you are or what stage of life you’re in!

  • Such great lessons! Happy Birthday! I love the Friday night one. Each week is different and that’s not bad.

    • Yes! It’s okay not to spend every weekend out all night long. Nights in can be just as wonderful 🙂

  • #8 for sure. Happy Birthday 🙂 !

    • Quality over quantity is something that I have been focusing on so much over the last year especially!

  • Elizabeth Johnson

    I love #4!! Be a miracle for someone else. Never seen it put that way. Definitely something to think about!

    • I’m so happy this was something that resonated with you personally. It’s something I try to remind myself every single day, and I hope to introduce this to more people as well.

  • These are absolutely lovely. Hope you had a great birthday.

  • Casey

    Love all of these, especially number 9. I’ve learned that discovering how to relax is important…and that walks are a great way to clear your mind!

    • Yes! Number nine is so wonderful and I know there are many people who need that reminder. To be honest, we all need to be reminded that once in awhile.

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