Your twenties are a beautiful time where you’re learning more about yourself each day. Yes, that sounds cheesy, but it’s true! This is a time in your life where you’re constantly growing and evolving into the person you wish to become.
I think it’s important to be aware in your 20s, which is why I’m sharing 10 things you should learn during this period of your life. Make sure to leave a comment below sharing what YOU think I should add to this list!
1| Learn where you came from
Family is everything. I think it’s important to find out where you come from and your family’s history. Are your parents first-generation citizens? What are some stories from your family’s past back in your home country? My dad’s side of the family has created a family tree book where they trace back our family history since the late 1800s in Italy. This was a 10-year project, and it’s something I hold onto dearly. Learning about your family’s culture is so important, so learn about the stories from your grandparents—you won’t regret it!
2| Learn how to master an interview
Point blank: you’re going to have a lot of interviews in your life for jobs, so you need to learn how to handle an interview properly. Learn what questions to ask, and what questions you shouldn’t ask. Learn how to wow your potential boss with answers that will blow him or her away. You want to know how to make a great first impression in an interview? Practice that handshake, and work on that elevator pitch (see 6 below). You will walk out of each interview confident but humble.
3| Learn when to say no
And when to say yes! The problem is that Millennials are having a difficult time saying no. We tend to take on too much, and we aren’t sure of our limits. As important as it is to say yes to golden opportunities, it’s equally important to learn when to say no and how to gracefully decline an opportunity that you simply don’t have time for. Learn that it’s okay to say no because you are only one person, and you can’t do it all. But that’s okay!
4| Learn how to be happy for others
It’s easy to get a [little] jealous of the girl who landed her her dream career in New York City, or the couple who got engaged before you. These moments can have you asking yourself: Am I not where I need to be? Should I be engaged? Should I make a career change? This leads to questioning your self worth, which isn’t necessary. Learn how to be happy for someone regardless of your current situation. Don’t feel the need to compare yourself either. We’re all going through life at our own pace.
5| Learn 10 solid dinner recipes
Because who isn’t searching “easy chicken recipes” on Pinterest every night? Don’t be the graduate who eats cereal and take-out for dinner every night. Learn a handful of recipes you can make quickly and easily while staying on a budget. I was always worried about making meals for myself, but I learned 10 or 12 recipes I love and I stick to those when I need to make dinner in a pinch. You’re taking care of yourself now, and it’s important you’re not eating PB&J every day. Follow the recipe, and learn from your mistakes if you don’t get it right the first time.
6| Learn your elevator pitch
“So tell me about yourself?” Ugh. It’s that dreaded question you hear at a networking event or an interview. It’s an opportunity where you can fall flat on your face if you don’t know about your goals and passions. An elevator pitch is a 30-second bit about you, your work, your passions, future aspirations, etc. What words you would use to describe who you are and what you’re passionate about? Find those words, recite them, and use that pitch when you meet someone professionally.
7| Learn how to be alone
I find that there are so many people who don’t know how to be alone with themselves. If they were told they couldn’t leave the house for two days, most people wouldn’t be able to handle it because they need to be around others. While I agree you shouldn’t cast off all your friends and family, it’s still beneficial to be content with your own company and to not be defined by other people. You learn so much about yourself when you spend time alone, so make the time to read, treat yourself to lunch, etc.
8| Learn how to take care of yourself
I feel like there are so many #adulting questions and problems that arise the minute you graduate. How do you change your license or address when you change states? How often do you need an oil change? And what can you bleach/not bleach in the wash? But really, there needs to be a Life 101 class prior to graduation about taxes, laundry, self care and everything in between. When in doubt, Google it, buy a book, or ask your mom and dad. I can’t tell you how often I’ve been calling my mom for cooking help. (Thanks, mom!)
9| Learn your passions
I know some many people can feel lost post-graduation, but all you need to do is ask yourself: What brings you joy? What makes you want to get up each morning? P.S. it’s okay if you have more than one passion! Write down all the things you love and make sure they are part of your routine and life. If you’re working at a job you hate, leave and find a job you love. If you love your job, you’ll never work a day in your life. If you love traveling, take time off to go see the world! If you want to become a author, start writing every single day. Find your bliss, and let your passion bloom in your 20s.
10| Learn about your relationship with yourself
I can’t stress this enough. Learn about yourself, and learn how to have a relationship with yourself. Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have. If you’re hateful and negative toward yourself, that same energy will come from other relationships in your life. Learn to love yourself, and learn how to have a happy, positive relationship with yourself. If you don’t like something, accept where you are today and take the steps to change it tomorrow!
What tip is your favorite? What other tips would you add to this list? Make sure to share them in the comments below!